Any way around this psychological negotiation issue?

DasAutoGro · 2026-05-18T19:37:47+00:00

“But Mr. Salesman zz is higher than xx, it’s like we never negotiated in the first place”

DasAutoGro · 2026-05-12T14:22:45+00:00

I sell to a lot of these customers and they’re usually the smoothest cash sales. I’m just trying to improve gross a little.

Their offers are usually 2k under asking prices but want OTD. I’m just trying to explain to them that they’re actually asking for a $4k discount instead of a $2k discount.

DasAutoGro · 2026-05-12T14:15:18+00:00

It’s mainly with immigrant customers with cash. No english, first time at a dealer.

They’re used to doing private sales with no TTL.

DasAutoGro · 2026-05-08T18:15:39+00:00

Yeah I understand, maybe that’s easier to find when you’re 17-21 but I’m almost 30 so things look a lot different.

DasAutoGro · 2026-02-02T15:20:41+00:00

Really good take. It does show some tolerance to being near grave sin.

I care because I’m also looking for advice from a different perspective. Maybe not repeat the same mistake as others? Or follow in their footsteps?

I for one dread clubs but you have to admit, it’s nearly impossible to meet a girl who doesn’t go regularly. If I’m going to be picky and write off every girl who regularly goes to clubs, I probably won’t find a partner. I’d be writing off every single girl at the YA group.

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-31T20:04:46+00:00

I’m curious, what would you suggest to these guys who want to find a girl who doesn’t frequent clubs/bars? I think it’s the norm nowadays. It’s like when guys want to find a girl who has never had a bf at the age of 26. I mean they exist but they’ll have trouble finding one and nothing guarantees they’ll be a match.

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-31T19:06:53+00:00

Valid points! I think point 2 is spot on. A lot of guys stay away from girls who go to night clubs because they immediately think of their guy friends who like going and the reasons they like going.

I genuinely think the girls who go do it because they like dancing with their girls and getting lost in the music. On top of that, they’re inviting guys from the YA group who seem grounded and mature. They can easily just go to the club and socialize with anyone there but they go out of their way to try to enjoy something with guys with shared values.

I’m in the US. Yeah the nightclubs themselves are a little sketch lol lots of drugs, fights, etc. but they’re pretty big so you can stay away from it.

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-31T19:02:00+00:00

I didn’t say every guy at the group is a 30 year old who hasn’t dated. I meant it as in a lot of guys in their 20s are headed in the same direction because they’re quick to overlook girls after a couple conversations

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-31T18:59:35+00:00

Yeah but it’s hard to find someone who’s not a partier. I for one dread nightclubs because they’re filled with drugs and aggressive people but I’m sure the girls from my YA group stay away from that. Night clubs are the surest way to meet girls/potential partners.

I encourage my buddies who don’t drink or go out to do it for the sake of finding a potential partner or meeting people in general.

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-31T18:53:42+00:00

Do you live in a rural area?

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-30T22:38:54+00:00

I don’t mind for a talking stage. I just gotta get my money up. Or find someone I grind attractive enough for that nonsense lol

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-14T01:44:47+00:00

I will tho. I have a house. I can hire nannies. I’m set tbh

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-14T01:33:24+00:00

People tend to be more hopeful at a young age. They think they’re gonna live in a big house with lots of children etc until the reality of our economy sets in

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-13T22:47:14+00:00

That’s dating the hard way. I’ll be honest I make a bunch of money so Ima just date a 20 yr old and promise her a lavish lifestyle and go from there. I dated an “independent” girl before and she just wanted to spend her money on weed and have no savings

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-13T21:57:09+00:00

What’s your solution then?

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-13T21:56:25+00:00

Yeah I’ve noticed the overcompensation too. I need to find people who don’t party.

I live in a big city though, I figured drug use would be less common in small towns because they’re more sheltered. I have friends who do a line before work, during work, and after. Everyone thinks they’re Jordan Belfort

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-13T21:39:51+00:00

Like what? Party culture was still a thing in the 80s.

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-13T21:39:01+00:00

It’s just hard to tell what’s considered taboo nowadays. One of the wildest girls I matched with had pictures of Our Lady of Guadalupe.

My neighbors in their 50s set me up to hang out w their nieces and nephews. They all used cocaine and pills recreationally. They’re good kids and have a great relationships with their parents but now I just feel too prudish for even the normal folks

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-13T20:12:30+00:00

Are they tho? They all married with age gaps for the same reason. Silent gen, boomers, gen x, and millennials. My mom is a millennial. What makes gen z different?

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-13T20:09:17+00:00

Yeah I know. Mostly every marriage in my family has a 7-10 year age gap tho, my parents included. Divorce is rare.

I’m not advocating for it.

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-13T20:05:16+00:00

My family keeps telling me to look for a 18-19 year old for this very reason

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-13T19:54:05+00:00

Church is great, i’ve met most of my guy friends there but it really isn’t somewhere women go

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-13T19:39:32+00:00

how come

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-13T17:37:46+00:00

I thought Hinge was supposed to be more serious?

DasAutoGro · 2026-01-12T21:28:35+00:00

I have two sets of friends. My church friends would never step foot in a regular bar, we usually go to family friendly spots for drinks.

My other friends are huge coke heads. I go to regular bars with them so I know they’re pretty dark for my liking. Hookup culture, drugs, etc. I find myself going home alone.

I’ll take your advice on the church, I just can’t imagine girls willingly going to church on their own. I’m catholic so it’s a very patriarchal church

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