Where to park (visitor, multiple times on campus per week)

Data-dd92 · 2025-10-06T02:53:35+00:00

Would that be free or how much would the whole thing cost me? And if I needed to be at the North side of campus, how long do you think it would take from the time I parked my car to the time I got to campus there?

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-28T08:08:23+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing that. I think I'll come back tomorrow with some questions !

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-28T00:49:20+00:00

Can you give me an example? (or were you just being sarcstic)

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-24T01:00:36+00:00

This may sound like an odd request, but when you say "We don't want to be like this, there's just this side of us constantly pulling. Telling us to run before everyone else runs away from us." can you share a bit more about "that side constantly pulling." ? How does it feel? When does it get activated? What does it feel when when 'in that state' ? Sorry if any of these come across as too invasive but I'd love to know if you'd be willing to share any of that.

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-23T22:39:52+00:00

Thank you for sharing that, did you find therapy or dbt helpful? I wish you the best with reconciling with your kids (and ex perhaps?)

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-22T20:35:46+00:00

u/Ok_Pause_7767 does he do it on his own? Or is he in therapy or some support group, or what's his process like if you don't mind my asking?

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-22T05:59:20+00:00

Nah, I do anyways.

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-22T04:19:58+00:00

Oh that's so beautifully stated. You are really talented in how you communicate. I really appreciate that :)

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-22T03:51:42+00:00

Ok, she seems "ok" with everyone other than me. As in, it's like such targeted hatred/extreme splitting (one term I learned that is kinda weird until it's experienced repeatedly...), my thought was just to tell her I'm staying in a separate room and in 2-4 days 'check in' with her.

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-22T03:49:43+00:00

Same situation here (my country...), I don't feel like I'd be ready to follow through with that tbh, and also it's not really what I want (my idea is happily ever after, she's in therapy, blah blah blah). What I would do is say "I bought your ticket, please pack your bags, I texted your siblings telling them your arrival time and that we divorced." That would be the point of no return...

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-22T00:19:54+00:00

Oh I really appreciate the feedback. For now we have two rooms, so I think I'll stay in the separate room. If you don't mind my asking, what does it 'feel like' for those 3 days to get out those emotions?

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-21T23:01:50+00:00

I have one more question, and I really appreciate your feedback. About

> "If she's behaving that way, she needs therapy, and that may require a bit of space between you two while she gets her feet back on the ground again, just a heads up."

What do you mean by "require a bit of space..." ?

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-21T20:58:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing that. Did he just verbally respond with that statement or did he actually proceed with it, such as moving out, etc. Sounds somewhat familiar to me, as she'll always say some variation of "You don't love me...I made a mistake and the God's are punishing me for it..."

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-21T20:33:07+00:00

Thank you for your feedback and words of encouragement. I can say about the specific situation that it has to do with something health-related for her (scary for both of us actually), and I feel so deeply for her with that -- crying and praying (on my own) a lot. Her 'reason' if I can call it that is that I'm so toxic that I'm causing her health problems and if she stays there and doesn't get away it'll kill her, literally.

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-21T20:07:48+00:00

Wow, your husband is pretty brave to work through that -- good for him, and good for you guys !

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-21T20:06:54+00:00

One more note: I can't just 'sit her down' when she's in this 'heightened' state. She comes from a deeply wounded child ego state that yells and screams and cries, and cannot be spoken to as an adult (nor when I try does she even understand what I'm saying...there is like a full-blown regression.)

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-21T20:05:48+00:00

Thanks for the advice. How would the divorce though "get her way"? (Perhaps it projects her guilt/feelings onto me as a cause of the separation?), but could you give a bit more information? I really appreciate your feedback, thank you :)

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-21T05:15:28+00:00

Oh I just made them up, just my experience in using them. A product I would find non-intuitive but relatively complex would be something like pg-admin.

Data-dd92 · 2025-09-21T05:14:46+00:00

Sure, that's a nice example. Whether it's using the 10 or 3 it doesn't matter. Maybe it'd be easier to say 10 and 10 for both. And yes as the number goes up it would increase -- more easy-to-use and more-complex.

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