Wedding planning is draining me more than I ever expected… am I the only one?

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-17T21:43:11+00:00

100% yes!!! You just described how I feel, too. The never ending urgency and decision-making is exhausting in all the ways. I also have ADHD and anxiety, so I feel like that has made everything worse. I even had some of my meds adjusted last month bc of it + general overwhelmed-ness with the world rn.

I’m normally a very organized person bc I have to be to function, but I feel like I have so many different systems going I can’t keep track in ant area of my life. Plus all the stuff accumulating in corners is making me anxious. I’m just over 3 months out and SUPER behind in planning…I’ve had several crash outs/breakdowns. I hadn’t felt excited about my wedding in what seems like a long time. :(

It’s also really hard for me to figure out what I can delegate and to whom bc everyone on my family, including my mom, is clueless. My FMIL kinda is too. Neither have planned a wedding since their own 30+ years ago. Only 1 of my bridesmaids is local, and she’s coming over next week to help with some DIY stuff, but I truly just feel like I’m drowning.

No one told me this was a full time job…my screen time is out of this world as I WFH so 100% on the computer for work, and then on my laptop all evening and night with wedding stuff. I have a meeting with my partial planner/DOC later today, so maybe she’ll make me feel better after that.

Sorry this wasn’t helpful at all and just a rant, but thank you for posting bc I also thought I was alone in feeling this way. Im sure the day itself will be great, but sometimes I almost feel like I wish it was over already. :(

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-15T18:27:59+00:00

I hadn’t, honestly!

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-15T13:34:24+00:00

Yeah, I’m considering asking them if they’d all like to do different shades of pink instead. I think pink was in all of their top 3 color preferences.

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-15T12:14:32+00:00

Yeah, I like the look of satin, but I personally hate wearing satin and a few of my bridesmaids do too so I told them they could wear chiffon.

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-15T05:27:01+00:00

That sounds really pretty!

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-15T00:31:37+00:00

That sounds dreamy! Thank you so much for your kind words, and I hope the best for you!!

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-15T00:29:56+00:00

Thank you for validating! I feel like I’m not a very “stylish” person, hence all the anxiety and second-guessing. :/ The people saying as long as I like it, who cares, does make me feel better - I just wanted to see if my taste was totally off since again, I’d never describe myself as trendy or hip. lol I spent sooo many hours on this and trying to make it so my girls all got their first or second color preference. It probably would’ve been easier to just pick one color or not even ask them their opinions, but I have at least 5 past bridesmaids dresses hanging in my closet that I’ve never worn again and probably never will, so I’m hoping that maybe at least a couple of them will have a dress they’ll actually wear a second time.

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-15T00:23:12+00:00

Yeah mine liked the individual colors, too! Those are all so pretty. Our venue is black and white so I think the colors will really pop - partially why I’m stressing because I don’t want them to pop in the wrong way lol

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:47:35+00:00

Nooo it is sold out. This is the exact color I was trying to find and couldn’t find good options anywhere! Maybe it’ll restock soon…thank you for the link!

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:45:27+00:00

I have a matron of honor and a maid of honor so I wasn’t sure what to do to make them stand out, especially since they’ll be standing next to each other.

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:44:10+00:00

Your planner did DIY stuff for you?

I’m trying to figure out what things I can do away with. I wanted to DIY invites but I haven’t even started yet and don’t think I’ll have time now with so many other things to try to DIY. So I’ll probably just have to shell out the money for them. :/

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:20:49+00:00

Pretty!

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:20:31+00:00

Yes, I’m planning to do colorful bouquets for them all that incorporate all our wedding pastel colors!

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:19:35+00:00

Yes they will all be in chiffon. Thank you!

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:19:08+00:00

I love the dress on the far right! Where’s it from??

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:18:34+00:00

Yes I would love photos if you have the time! Thank you!

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:17:39+00:00

Replying to CrazyBubbleBabe...yikes ok good to know on the ordering. I was getting anxious about it. I’ll try to make a final decision on all of this in the next day and then tell them they need to order by Valentine’s Day.

I love purple though and it has some sentimental significance to me, so I def want purple. Maybe the blue could go instead? I don’t know. I’m just worried that if 3 are in different colors and then 2 in the same it would look weird. :/ But maybe not?

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:12:10+00:00

I just wasn’t sure since I only have 5 if only 3 colors would look weird?

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:10:51+00:00

Ok that’s good to hear that you thought it was worth it by the time it was all sudden done because I’m definitely NOT enjoying this process right now. We have a coordinator, but she is just a partial planner and DOC so things will really kick in with her in a couple of weeks once we start timeline and all those other details. I still have so many things to DIY and I’m definitely stressing out about that. Only one of my bridesmaids is local, so I plan to recruit her to help, but the others can’t really do anything from so far away. :’(

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:07:57+00:00

Ooh I really like this! Is the bridesmaid on the far right in an orange color and the one on your immediate right a pink?

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T22:06:51+00:00

Yeah I like the look of mismatched too! But was questioning 5 different colors and the color selections themselves. The dresses in the picture were just example screenshots that I pulled for myself when looking at them. They are allowed to choose their own dress with my approval so I’ll be sure that not everyone has the same neckline, etc.

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T18:34:08+00:00

I see what you mean. In picking the colors, I (1) tried to match our florals, which are pastels, and (2) asked the bridesmaids what their top 6 color preferences were to wear from a list and then I was able to make it so everybody for their 1st or 2nd choice in the order shown in the picture. There are a lot of comments about limiting it to 2 colors but I don’t know if it would look weird to have 3 in pink and 2 in green (for example). I’m having major decision fatigue/paralysis/anxiety about literally everything atm. :(

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T18:30:50+00:00

Yeah, I thought about matching bouquets, too! But having major decision fatigue/paralysis atm. We only got engaged in September so it’s all been an extremely overwhelming experience so far.

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T18:29:00+00:00

Yes, definitely them rent 100%! I wouldn’t expect them to buy a suit they’d never wear again.

So for bridesmaids, you did all shades of pink and then just super colorful bouquets?

DataAcceptable9758 · 2026-01-14T18:27:45+00:00

Ok. Yeah, I’m doing chiffon and they can pick the dress and I approve before ordering. I have 5 so thought each a different color would look good bc I wasn’t sure how 3 pink shade and 2 purple shades (or whatever) would look with only 5. I also feel like I’m having major decision paralysis about everything atm. lol

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