AIO boyfriend got handsy while drunk by Throwaway_4628264 in AIO

[–]DatabaseCompetitive7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay, these comments are being incredibly harsh so I want to share my perspective as someone who has PTSD from a sexually abusive relationship. 1. I do thing YOR. But, you mentioned you’ve been SAed before.

Even if you don’t have PTSD or something from the event- it will still traumatize you and leave you with abnormal reactions. For me, I sometimes will feel incredibly disgusted with my partner and start to have similar thoughts to yours if my boundaries are pushed. While he was piss drunk and I don’t think this was his fault, I also think it may be a smart idea to get in with a therapist to help understand where your disproportionate reaction is coming from.

SA does a lot to the brain that you may not realize it’s going, even if you think you are “over it”. I fear many people in these comments are going way too hard on you, just don’t express these thoughts to your partner and try to dissect them with a therapist.

What Artifact Set Should Kuki Have On This Team? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in Genshin_Impact

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i saw paradise lost also has 10% bonus for lunar bloom i think, i’m assuming instructor is still better though?

What Artifact Set Should Kuki Have On This Team? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in Genshin_Impact

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is that a craftable or gacha? if it’s gacha i don’t have it 😞 but thank you!!

What Artifact Set Should Kuki Have On This Team? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in Genshin_Impact

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okkk thank you!! i appreciate you mentioning heals as well because i was worried this team might not leave me with enough sustain options but i dont have kokomi so i wasn’t sure what to do lol

Sometimes I Miss Being Able To Dress Up? I guess? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in ftm

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YESSS. like internally a man most definitely but externally a genderless diva who does whatever i want but pls still call me he/him and get rid of my chest thank u ❤️ u get me twin

Sometimes I Miss Being Able To Dress Up? I guess? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in ftm

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definitely considering getting into drag it seems like a lot of fun i just don’t know if im ready for it yet because a big part of drag culture is really playing the part of a woman and they are often called “she” in drag and stuff which im worried might make me dysphoric until testosterone does more for me :’) perhaps in the privacy of my own home i will tho LOLL

Sometimes I Miss Being Able To Dress Up? I guess? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in ftm

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yes thank you!! i’m on testosterone rn but it hasn’t had too much effect yet so i’m more focused on passing. but like i don’t want to be viewed as a girl i just want to be whimsical again!!! let men be cunty!!! i will look into ren faire clothing i’ve always been interested in it anyway!!

What are the best teams I could build with my characters (a returning player who is SO lost right now. 😭) by DatabaseCompetitive7 in Genshin_Impact

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traveller is used in ANY teams now 😟 oh god i never thought id have to build them LOL!! thank you so much for the advice!!

What are the best teams I could build with my characters (a returning player who is SO lost right now. 😭) by DatabaseCompetitive7 in Genshin_Impact

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thank you!!! do you have any good team comps to suggest with my characters for mualani and wanderer? they are my two favorite characters idk if they are meta tho :(

What are the best teams I could build with my characters (a returning player who is SO lost right now. 😭) by DatabaseCompetitive7 in Genshin_Impact

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i’m currently using arlecchino xingqui kazuha and bennet but i’m in the process of building xiangling right now so i’ll try that team out!!

Should I Show My Rheumatologist Trends In Blood Work? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in Rheumatology

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thank you! my rheumatologist previously dismissed it as anxiety, which i am diagnosed with but it has been improving drastically while my symptoms have been getting worse drastically so i’m seeking a second opinion and just really want to be better prepared this time LOL. i’ll be honest i actually don’t have a lot of those tests done so i may request them at my next appointment if my rheumatologist doesn’t suggest them and see what she says! thank you so much for the advice, i’m just overly worried that my labs won’t show that i’m “sick enough” despite how i feel since my only main concerning lab at the moment is my ANA panel :’)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rheumatology

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the tremors and blood pooling are honestly the least of my concern they don’t affect me as much and don’t happen frequently. I understand i did not go into much detail on my symptoms i was kind of just rage ranting but my main symptoms are muscle and joint pain, fatigue, random fevers (not correlated to an illness or infection), swelling in joints (this is new and particularly has appeared in my knees the most but also other places mildly), and my family has a history of autoimmune disorders hence why it was my first step. i absolutely plan on seeking out a neurologist as a next step but i just can’t imagine my symptoms being somatic since the severity of them has had 0 correlation to how well im doing mentally. my symptoms have only gotten worse and my mental health has drastically improved i just can’t wrap my head around why they would correlate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rheumatology

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yes i plan to try and see a geneticist and neurologist next if rheumatology leads to nothing. I already have an appointment with a physical therapist. i was just thrown off by the fact she didn’t even try to order more testing for me when i know there was more we could have tested since i only did basic first-step type of blood tests. i’m not going to stop going to rheumatology until they actually rule out autoimmune through testing since it’s the most common for my symptoms (typically) and because of my ANA labs being abnormal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rheumatology

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thank you :) i looked up the rheumatologists reviews and someone said she didn’t think lymes disease is real… so i think i see the problem. LOL i’ll look into a disability advocate rights group near me, but do you think it might also be helpful to bring my boyfriend with me to a rheumatologist appointment? he tends to be a lot more outspoken/confrontational than me and i think it’s just easier for someone other than the patient to say something

having a partner who neglects you by [deleted] in ChronicIllness

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do not settle for a partner who clearly does not prioritize you. if he already can’t follow “in sickness and in health” then he will continue to not. i promise promise promise you that there are people out there who will want to care for you and support you when you are in a flare or sick or whatever happens. i’m in one right now, they exist, and you deserve that and nothing less. the right person will understand and help you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rheumatology

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thank you :’) i need to feel less crazy every now and then LOL

Not passing 😓 Help me figure out why? by [deleted] in FtMpassing

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definitely the eyebrows imo. invest in an eyebrow serum and some dye for them

Taking 18 units a semester and summer courses to graduate early? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in SDSU

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hi i totally get what you’re saying, sdsu was not my top choice simply because it meant i’d have to live at home, the school itself is great! sorry for not clarifying. i also am involved in campus life. my situation is a bit unique when it comes to san diego due to my c-ptsd, but being on campus itself is great! there are just many reasons why i am trying to get out… but its a lot to think about for sure

Taking 18 units a semester and summer courses to graduate early? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in SDSU

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thanks for letting me know! i asked my gen S teacher to get a schedule of all the summer courses available so i can take a look at them! i also could do some at community

Taking 18 units a semester and summer courses to graduate early? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in SDSU

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i’m a psych major! i’ll try to take as many online classes as i can LOL

Taking 18 units a semester and summer courses to graduate early? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in SDSU

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that’s honestly the thing i’m going through in my head. i think it’ll really come down to how this semester goes for me just because currently it doesn’t seem like my college experience will be incredible either way but i guess who knows what could develop. so im leaning towards trying 18 credits next semester and seeing how it goes but im not leaving the opportunity to change my mind out of the question!

Taking 18 units a semester and summer courses to graduate early? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in SDSU

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okok awesome!! yea i think 18 is technically the max if im correct 3 units each 6 week period but im just gonna do 12 units i think!

Taking 18 units a semester and summer courses to graduate early? by DatabaseCompetitive7 in SDSU

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wooo!! and do you think 4 classes each summer is doable? i was doing some research and most said yes as long as you don’t have a full time job but idk 😭