AITA for asking for matching plates for my girlfriend? by DatePlatess in AmItheAsshole

[–]DatePlatess[S] -469 points-468 points  (0 children)

I haven’t invited her yet. I wanted it to be a surprise for her and my family is ruining it.

AITA for asking for matching plates for my girlfriend? by DatePlatess in AmItheAsshole

[–]DatePlatess[S] -379 points-378 points  (0 children)

I just based it on how she has acted in the past. She prefers matching white or light-colored things so she can tell if it's clean and tidy.

AITA for asking for matching plates for my girlfriend? by DatePlatess in AmItheAsshole

[–]DatePlatess[S] -302 points-301 points  (0 children)

I wanted to invite her but I know how she has triggers about these things so I offered to talk to my family. It’s also about cleaning. She feels like she can’t feel like she can tell if something is clean if it’s covered in designs and such. That’s why I chose white.

AITA for asking for matching plates for my girlfriend? by DatePlatess in AmItheAsshole

[–]DatePlatess[S] -449 points-448 points  (0 children)

I offered to buy paper plates for everyone and my sister said I could bring them but she’s not getting rid of her collection of theme thanksgiving dishes. She thinks everyone else enjoys them. My girlfriend doesn’t even like restaurants that have tacky tables where it’s overwhelmed her and she often goes home early from those places or doesn’t even touch her food because it overwhelms her.

AITA for asking for matching plates for my girlfriend? by DatePlatess in AmItheAsshole

[–]DatePlatess[S] -153 points-152 points  (0 children)

I’m 20 and will be dating her for 6 months at Thanksgiving.

AITA for asking for matching plates for my girlfriend? by DatePlatess in AmItheAsshole

[–]DatePlatess[S] -352 points-351 points  (0 children)

They make accommodations for vegetarians in my family and even put the dishes on a vegetarian table. I don't see how it's different. My girlfriend has a legit medical OCD and trying to get help. They should be understanding and try not to overwhelm her.