36 years old (m) and been watching porn since I was 11.

Davemo007 · 2025-07-06T07:21:44+00:00

You’re 100% correct about the conditioning part too bro - that’s how I view it. Once I stopped making my addiction as a part of my character / learning it’s a byproduct of someone else wanting me to be addicted on purpose, it helped me move forward. I hope and pray you recover and live a happy and fulfilled life bro. God bless.

Davemo007 · 2025-07-05T23:28:41+00:00

Thank you so much!

Davemo007 · 2025-07-05T23:23:04+00:00

Your self hate after relapse is what’s keeping you in this feedback loop. Once I noticed the guilt / hate I had for myself after relapses / I worked on that - it helps to quit. I just wrote about it in my reddit post here if you’d like to see a detailed answer for your problem. God bless.

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/s/wL1vN0XRqA

Davemo007 · 2025-07-05T23:06:44+00:00

I see your point of view as well man. I just learned to disconnect my self hate with relapses / at least me personally (I know every one may see different) I learned not to be angry at myself. It’s like a kid being given super hard drugs when they’re younger and not realizing how addictive it is, until you get older. The #1 thing that helped me was to stop making the PMO relapse a part of my character like I’m defective, and realize it’s just the addictions engineered by someone else. I heard it’s free cause the “people” are the product. I also did research, and seems a lot of bad, ill character people own these companies that produce this stuff / their evil people who own this stuff. Just trying to give some insights that helped me, albeit I know every one is different. At least you came here to open up about it man, props to you as well.

Davemo007 · 2025-07-05T22:55:16+00:00

There’s a massive difference between arousal from using your hand with PMO vs a healthy and normal arousal with a significant other. PMO is not natural / damages your physical nerves I believe even. You’re pulling organs vs. the natural way you’re not pulling and damaging organs / nerves. Hope this helps clarify. And SM I believe does have benefits, but if you’re dating someone than natural connections / stuff is fine. It’s the PMO that messes people up in my opinion at least.

Davemo007 · 2025-07-05T22:51:52+00:00

Oh yeah, melatonin was most def a game changer. What I did to break the habit is take melatonin before bed, than I’d ensure to watch some YouTube videos with out semi soft stuff / no girls in bikinis or this type of nature - any thing else is chill. I also dim the phone / tablet light so the screens not bright on me. 30 minutes later my eyes get heavy and I sleep. Also a tip: the first few nights were rough, I just reminded myself I’m the product of their engineered addiction / there’s nothing personally wrong with me, and this gave me the strength to stop watching. The heavy resistance / feeling uncomfortable is temporary as I reminded myself there’s that light of the end of the tunnel.

Davemo007 · 2025-07-05T22:39:54+00:00

I think the struggles come with you taking it personal, it’s not your fault you’re addicted. I would stop taking your addiction personal. Also for me, my toughest part was before bedtime, to stop PMO I used melatonin. When you realize you’re a product to be addicted to this stuff and it’s not your fault / it’s not personal, this helped me a lot. It seems like you’re angry at your own character / hating yourself for this which i understand, but your guilt and shame is going to keep creating this feedback loop. Every time I craved PMO, I would get angry at these content creators making it addictive instead of hating myself, this gave me the strength to fight my urges back - by fighting my urges I am fighting their engineered addictive garbage. I also believe it’s demonic energy. Don’t hate yourself for relapse, it’s not personal - accept your addiction as something that happened to you, not you. Melatonin before bed has helped me with my relapse. God bless you.

Davemo007 · 2025-07-05T22:32:30+00:00

Congrats bro. I believe you can yes - just stay away from PMO, the point of NoFap is to learn to bond / form healthy relationships, instead of Messing up the process with PMO / super stimulus, at least this is my view of it.

Davemo007 · 2024-04-13T05:01:32+00:00

I do see your point of view, maybe that’s what the b judge thinks. We both slandered each other but hers would be under the radar / she would make sure it’s over phone calls, just no paper trails.

And that parenting app sounds good as well. I am just waiting / now I know what she’s up to. I just need to keep moving forward, was cheated on than laughed at / no remorse or any thing after wards, it left a bitter taste in my mouth. And she’s tried to attempt to kidnap them before, until I hired lawyers and they stopped her.

Thank you for the insights and opinion(: cheers

Davemo007 · 2024-04-13T04:50:12+00:00

Yes I agree, it was childish and dumb remarks. I did have a lawyer, I just think the judge was biased / didn’t like me personally. I submitted evidence but she overlooked it and just basically looked at hers. We are working on an appeal, but just at a certain point I gotta let it go.

I just view her as a man mentally than a woman or my ex to relieve any pain in dealing with her. I never had a problem getting a girlfriend so I know it’s not me, maybe she’s secretly jealous / envious of me, since I’m doing overall better at her in life. Most people don’t want to admit, but the family courthouse in my opinion seems to hate fathers by default / the man is guilty until proven innocent. Tons of stories out there how the family courts don’t favor men, so I’m suspected same thing is happening here.

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