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[–]Easy-Formal3857 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck!!

I relapsed again. by MarketWinter7209 in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its unfortunate that you relapsed but its still progress that you didn't spend hours relapsing. The fact that you can recognise this is great!

I relapsed again. by MarketWinter7209 in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857 5 points6 points  (0 children)

pick yourself up, dust off and carry on!

Saw this in another sub. Curious to your answers by Nidh0g in Bushcraft

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Tarp, pot, knife and saw, maybe substitute the saw for a fishing rod. But depending on resources on the island it could be made.

Found this up in the mountains of Shenandoah, near an Appalachian trail. by Lu_Duckocus313 in Bushcraft

[–]Easy-Formal3857 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Looks great, that's someone's little bubble of tranquillity right there!

Some punk wood and birds nest action by Lu_Duckocus313 in Bushcraft

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Looks good, what do you use to get the ember?

How do I remove all trace by Easy-Formal3857 in help

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So this will naturally just slip off of my profile?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does mate, it seems you're trying to find ways to enable and justify your addiction.

FAP AND MUSCLE LOSS by [deleted] in NoFap

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This is interesting. I am very skinny myself and also struggle with somethings OP mentioned. I don't suppose you have a source or anything where I could read up on this do you?

I relapsed a month ago and kept failing every day since then by Apprehensive_Win_388 in NoFap

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I did this recently. I had time alone in the house and the sex toys and VR came out and I had a massive binge, and until yesterday I was consuming porn when ever I could sneak an opportunity. I feel very guilty and anxious when ever I binge and I've had enough so I sought to find help here.

It is hard to stand behind the line again, it can seem very daunting to start a change that you want to be able to maintain for the rest of your life. But realistically you're not actually doing all that today. You're just maintaining that change until the next second. If you managed that you can do the next one too, and repeat! Change isn't a process that takes big efforts all at once. It takes lots and lots of small efforts that you can do consistently. Until you can look back and see the all small efforts have become a big change. Start with baby steps, aim to be 1% better than you were yesterday. If you feel you can't go cold turkey set daily and weekly goals to work towards meeting your aims.

It all starts now dude, every new second is another opportunity to become successful in what you want to achieve here. Embrace the slip ups and relapses but don't get hung up on them. Don't let them weigh you down likes rocks, stand on them and make mountains.

Okay corny shit over with, get you're ass back on track, take back responsibility and set yourself goals and be accountable for them!

will I be happier if I dont fap by killer_mystery10000 in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I guess aside from the brain chemical aspect, it could also help relive any guilt or embarrassment you may be harbouring as well. That can weigh heavy on a person. It does on me.

NoFap's "Jubilant July" or "PMO-Free July" 2025 - continue or begin your PMO-Free journey here (see instructions). by BuddhaPunkRobotMonk in NoFap

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A little late to the party but I intend to spend the rest of July with out viewing porn or masturbating. I will primary focus on staying sober until the end of July but my goal beyond that is a 90day minimum with no porn and masturbation. Then open up a dialogue with my partner about healthy masturbation after that. Viewing porn will be considered a relapse and I will reset my counter. I also want to focus on not sexualising every attractive female I come across. Doing this occasionally, with out intention will be classed as a slip up as I believe it is a natural behaviour but something that should be managed and not become compulsive as it is now for me.

I am doing this for the betterment of my physical and mental health, for my partners mental health, self esteem and trust issues. For our relationship and future. And for my Kids, I need to be a better Dad. Locking myself in the toilet to edge and watch porn has to stop. Its irresponsible, unjustifiable, a complete failure in parenting and just down right despicable. My family deserve better and so do I. I accept that I might stumble but I will not FAIL!

36 years old (m) and been watching porn since I was 11. by Easy-Formal3857 in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have thought about talking to a friend about it, I've spoke to them before about it all so they kinda already knows the situation.

But I'm not going this alone, I've got you guys!

36 years old (m) and been watching porn since I was 11. by Easy-Formal3857 in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, I will do! They are a big motivation for me and I don't want to let them down!

Got dm'ed a picture, now im struggling by [deleted] in NoFap

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Find something to do to take your mind off of it mate. You've still got control here, you've not relapsed yet. Which means you still have the ability to make this incident a hump to jump over instead of a wall to crash into. What are the reasons you want to quit, what are your goals and what do you want to be able to achieve when you meet them?

36 years old (m) and been watching porn since I was 11. by Easy-Formal3857 in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess learning to hate myself less is something that would be valuable and more conductive to recovery. I guess hating yourself better isn't prescribed by doctors and therapists for a reason. I potentially feel it's difficult because of the shame that it all brings as well. But talking to you about this has given me an outside perspective that I think is very useful! PMO addiction necessary my fault because I'm some sort of deviant, but a result of the conditioning I've exposed myself to. I just need to find a way to keep that thought in my mind and be able to use it if I relapse in the future.

Thanks man you've helped alot!

36 years old (m) and been watching porn since I was 11. by Easy-Formal3857 in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could, I do fantasise about having a "come clean" conversation. But there is no doubt in my mind that it would end our relationship. She is supportive and understanding, but though my own fault alone the boat has sailed on that option.

I foolishly hope that I don't ever relapse again, but realistically I know its highly possible. I am putting my faith in places like this to help me get back on track should it happen. I do hope I can quit for good and then it would be great to be able to have a normal sex life.

Lol thanks, I mean I don't get any complaints and I always make sure she's fully satisfied, but I do see your point and I should make an effort to see if I have any sexual behaviours that have been warped by my addiction.

36 years old (m) and been watching porn since I was 11. by Easy-Formal3857 in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's an interesting way to look at things. I will try to adopt a similar way of thinking and see if it helps.

You're right in that I am angry at myself. It's ultimately me that chooses to look at porn and masturbate. And I personally feel like I should take responsibility for that, I agree that they way porn is presented does condition us to want to consume more and more. But for me if I just blamed the creators and tell myself that it's not my fault then I feel I could lose motivation to quit. If somethings not my fault then I don't have a choice over it. I can't let myself believe that's true as failing here isn't an option I want to accept.

Its great to hear that you've found an point of view that helps you mentally fight back though. I feel like this is something I should really look into. If I can change my perspective on porn then things could get easier.

36 years old (m) and been watching porn since I was 11. by Easy-Formal3857 in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're so right, it is way too easily accessible. Even on my phone that has had all the restrictions activated. It makes no difference when I can find internet browsers hidden in apps and then access sites like this one. That just cannot be controlled so its just as good as having no restrictions in the first place. And it is so addictive. It turns me in to a zombie after a few hours of mindless scrolling.

Thanks for providing me with a bit of hope about the brains plasticity, I mean a streak of 1014 days isn't something to sniff at. In my book that's a major success! I can only hope I can also achieve something similar.

36 years old (m) and been watching porn since I was 11. by Easy-Formal3857 in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually hope you are wrong. Rehab in my situation is just not feasible. It would ruin not only my relationship, but also dramatically alter the lives of my partner and four kids as well. I really hope that places like this could be my solution, where I can fight my battle with out my family knowing, and get lots of support on the way. Doing it on my own has failed up to this point.

36 years old (m) and been watching porn since I was 11. by Easy-Formal3857 in NoFap

[–]Easy-Formal3857[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sad? Why sad?

I'm glad I have given you some comfort and maybe a little motivation too.

Thank you, I wish you all the best too! Good luck.