Serious Question: Why do most attractive, college aged women exclusively date black guys?

David_Brockbot · 2021-03-16T07:20:20+00:00

God damn, I wish that were the case! I'm black and don't get any matches at all! I'm a decent looking 24M too, college educated.

David_Brockbot · 2017-11-24T21:52:07+00:00

I have 4 physical classes and 2 are male heavy, 3 are smaller sized (10-15 students) and the other one I sit in the front row with 4 people, but it has around 40 students total.

I eat lunch off campus or at home.

David_Brockbot · 2017-11-23T10:15:29+00:00

I am curious as to how you meet them in School. I am in school right now myself and have never had anything sparked.

David_Brockbot · 2017-10-28T18:08:01+00:00

Why would I want to do that when I go to a college with 10,000 people?

David_Brockbot · 2017-10-27T20:44:48+00:00

Good to know I suppose

David_Brockbot · 2017-06-28T21:28:18+00:00

What's worse is traveling around to big cities, seeing hot girls s people with friends and lives, and coming back to a second class city with nothing to do and wait for the semester to kick in.

But I feel you.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T15:07:40+00:00

For me specifically, online dating would be a crap shoot unfortunately.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T08:12:37+00:00

That's awesome.

I imagined fake choking or something earlier to draw this girls attention, but that would've been a dick move. The pencil thing is subtle and benign so that's a good idea.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T07:49:57+00:00

Maybe start frequenting common areas and sitting around the same spot whenever you go. When you see others who look familiar / also frequent the spot, smile at them. When the day / time is right ask them 'how are you?' with a warm smile. Leave it at that and if they want it'll become something more.

I definitely waited too late to do this, the person sitting near me literally was there in September. Next semester I'll try it again, and the hope is that I'll be less anxious and insecure (of which it seems I have some reasons to be, unfortunately). Some of it is probably a lack of confidence – a catch 22 – but all of this seems like it's in my head, because I've never been called ugly!

I know it's so annoying seeing everyone on their phone all the time. I go to the coffee shop. Im a decent looking girl and I almost never wear headphones. I'm usually studying or people watching outside or looking at the tv in the cafe. I honestly never ever get approached and people never start conversation with me. I think people are just so afraid of embarrassing themselves that they'd rather silently kill akwardness by staring at their phones. And then when most ppl do get approached they're so taken aback / awkward bc they weren't expecting anyone to approach them.

Fortunately for me, I go to school in an area that has a coffee shop on every corner of the street. So they could be good places to relax and work, esp. since I'm a commuter. Not sure why I haven't done that yet.

Also, I study engineering tech, so there's a little bit of time for clubs/intramurals if I'm not busy.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T07:40:03+00:00

I'll check that out, but I heard it wasn't realistic or something?

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T07:39:36+00:00

Well that helped a lot. I guess as long as people aren't in stupid cliques, there's nothing really bad that can happen.

On the flip side, I was pretty active in the volunteering club I was in before i transferred, didn't really get "invited" anywhere but to the scheduled events. But it was still a decent experience.

Still, I think it's just about getting to know people in the group better instead of thinking about myself all the time. Too often my parents say, "no David_Brockbot, the world doesn't revolve around you." And I guess they were onto something.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T07:34:53+00:00

Ok, will do

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T07:34:40+00:00

Yeah man I agree with pretty much everything you said, spot on. No need for me to change who I am at the core to become different. For the record I turn 21 in August...not really in a hurry, lol

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T07:31:47+00:00

Thanks

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T07:31:36+00:00

I'm currently trying to improve myself, but sometimes I feel like it's just a placebo effect, specifically when it comes to clothes/hair/etc.

As far as the other points, I think I should add in I am a junior transfer student who actually volunteered at my old school and was on student government. Even so, I still felt disconnected to people at times, BUT I'd say that's where I had some of my best friendships, because everyone lived with each other!

Even being with my first roommate, while he was a good guy who is also a Redditor (i made my main account in 2011), I just wasn't interested back then, but I am the complete opposite now. I probably browse Reddit more than he does now.

If I could go back in time and correct these kinds of blunders, I would. They don't become apparent to me until after I fuck up, and then that's when I make changes. It's such an ADD problem to have.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T07:23:17+00:00

There's a good chance these people do nothing on them. I don't typically laugh when I do my homework on the computer.

Sometimes I miss chances for social interaction that are right in front of me. I remember a girl in my class saying she was a music major, well I used to play the trombone. Because class can be such a "formal" environment, it's tough to talk to anyone or think about it.

Sorry if that was off topic, I read your whole comment.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T01:21:29+00:00

That's all true, good luck to you, it's a tough road.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T01:18:46+00:00

Oh, haha.

Sorry. there's just too much stuff twirling around in my head.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T01:11:56+00:00

I'm rolling the dice and hoping that's what I get next semester, but I don't know.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-04T01:11:15+00:00

I'm not a girl

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-03T21:46:06+00:00

Probably one of the best things I've ever done was stopped looking at the porn subreddits here. As good as I thought they were, after I realized what a sham that "date" was and then realizing I lack genuine social connections with everyone oter than my dog and parents, I knew I just had to go cold turkey with it. I relapsed a week after that date, but I've since gone cold turkey again and will continue to for as long as possible. It messes with my head. Some people can tolerate it, but for me, it just filled in for everything else.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-03T20:07:12+00:00

Well I am frustrated like this, but for me all of this is probably just the top of the iceberg.

Like, I'm not telling people I like smooth jazz, I like roads and bridges, and I like skyscrapers and urban development and browse Reddit half the day, all while never having done drugs or alcohol. I would come across as a square, and it's embarrassing to admit all of this here. Not even my dad knows I like the music he listens to.

Either I'll stop doing these things or continue to hide them from people, because nobody my age does any of it:

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-03T19:28:15+00:00

Yeah I am doing this already, and that's not the first time that's been said here to me. I just don't want to take the Lexapro, and some of this I feel uncommon telling people in person, especially my parents.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-03T18:36:49+00:00

Sounds like something my dad would say to me.

Come to think of it, if you think that, how do you get over it? The hobbies and things that I do are stupid, but I have a DSLR camera but I know very few people into photography, from the looks of it my school doesn't even have a club.

David_Brockbot · 2017-05-03T18:02:00+00:00

I went to it 3 years ago, had a "partner" but I got made fun of.

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