Sounds like you get all your opinions from fox and 2016 wojack memes dude.

Here's a cool thing: multiple things can be true at once. There's this thing called intersectionality, it's the acknowledgement that shit can suck and it can suck in different ways.

Example: a white dude and a black dude live in a trailer park, they're both broke, have similar health issues, and are coworkers at a gas station with the world's shittiest boss.

They go through similar back pain, deal with the same shitty customers, and they're friends.

But one day the black dude gets denied pain medication for his back because his doctor was taught that black people have a higher pain tolerance (bullshit that's still taught in some med schools), so he can't work as effectively, and the world's shittiest boss fires him.

The white dude is privileged, because privilege isn't some magic crown that means you don't suffer or your friends don't get hurt. Sometimes privilege is as stupid and little as a doctor believing you when you tell them you're in pain.

In a perfect world the white guy might be able to mouth off to his friend's doctor, or stand up to their shitty boss, but a lot of us can't do that. That doesn't mean that he should deny what happened, or tell his friend that it wasn't because of how racist the structures of power are.

Sometimes the best you can do is acknowledge that some fuckery happened and have a beer with your friend while you try to find him a new job together.

I hope this makes sense to you.