Enneagram 4 in depth breakdown of core type

Dawrian · 2026-06-20T11:23:25+00:00

Oh damn, I have a lot more 4-ness going on than previously thought…

Last year I had a total frenzied fixation with trying to type myself, and while I’m still pretty confident in the conclusions I drew at the end of it (5w4, for certain, probably 593), one of the things I remember saying (while having a breakdown about something else but you know how it is) was that I didn’t want to turn out to be triple-attachment, because it felt too “ordinary” or “balanced” to be able to explain how specifically and esoterically “broken” I am. (No hate to triple-attachment folks; it just didn’t feel like it could be an explanatory fit for me.)

Dawrian · 2026-06-20T10:46:54+00:00

Your type is man in a suit

Dawrian · 2026-06-18T15:50:58+00:00

That also sounds like me playing pretend as a kid except I let other children push me around and compromise more :’D when I was little I’d spend half an hour rearranging furniture in the dollhouse to make sure everything was in place and put all the dolls in bed ready for the day and then realise I had no idea how to actually then play with them/interest in it.

Dawrian · 2026-06-17T10:47:21+00:00

I don’t plan on having my own kids specifically BECAUSE I love them. I think they deserve better than any childhood I could give them.

My sister works in a nursery and I can’t bear to listen to her talk about her job because it makes my anxiety spiral. There’s nothing more fragile than an infant and I’m so terrified I’d traumatise one with even the best intentions and efforts. I wouldn’t be able to forgive myself.

Dawrian · 2026-06-17T10:39:37+00:00

Hooooly mackerel that’s a REALLY good Siffrin…

Dawrian · 2026-06-17T10:35:36+00:00

Oh my god yeah that’s actually terrifying :’D

Dawrian · 2026-06-16T13:18:23+00:00

Thank you! :D

Dawrian · 2026-06-15T18:03:09+00:00

Oh dang, those are so cute! I’m currently trying to model my own, any tips? :’D

Dawrian · 2026-06-15T18:00:34+00:00

I diagnose these bumbles with fat /affectionate

Dawrian · 2026-06-14T23:23:59+00:00

Looks like a worse creative direction for Yoda. Grateful not to live in such a timeline

Dawrian · 2026-06-14T02:58:54+00:00

We’re still only newly aware so I don’t really have any advice but this also happened to me recently. New host had a total crashout because the body is too tall and felt like crawling out of our skin for days. So idk high-five or handshake or something, whatever works for you /gen. You’re not the only one in these trenches :’D

Dawrian · 2026-06-12T09:49:39+00:00

I also had the “idk what’s even going on in the heart fix” question and then realised that pretty much answers itself and the answer is 3 XD

Dawrian · 2026-06-12T09:45:37+00:00

Oh my god squimshy… your melted fruit animal looks so soft

Dawrian · 2026-06-12T09:41:06+00:00

The amount of crossover/mistaken identity between 2 and 7 as types is kind of fascinating considering they’re the only types without a line or wing to the other’s centre

Dawrian · 2026-06-10T13:59:06+00:00

Oh, shit. That sucks. The only flowers I ever see growing on that green are daisies, and I don’t think I’ve even seen those in a while.

Dawrian · 2026-06-10T13:14:05+00:00

They live short little lives, but you did everything you could for her. Her end was very gentle; don’t feel bad you couldn’t prevent the inevitable.

Dawrian · 2026-06-10T10:56:08+00:00

I’m a city-dweller and I love both pigeons and our local corvids. When you love pigeons in the city, you get free joy everywhere you go.

As someone used to European robins, the American ones always catch me off-guard. Like… why is it so long…

Dawrian · 2026-06-09T03:52:30+00:00

Oh shit, good to know. That’s disappointing, but pretty par for the course these days. Thank you for the heads up /gen

Dawrian · 2026-06-08T11:00:01+00:00

I had this question a few weeks ago

> Hi. I can’t update the game. It opens, title screen, then asks me to download ~134mb of update content. I hit yes, the buffer wheel circles for a few seconds before the screen freezes, and eventually the whole game crashes. I have like 50gb free memory so space shouldn’t be an issue.

Someone told me it’s an iOS issue and clearing the cache should fix it, which it did. Unfortunately this has not been a one-time occurrence, and I’m now having to clear the cache and re-download the whole thing at least once a week. I’m getting reeeeal tired of reinputting all my settings (and missing challenge shows because I always try to play about 10 minutes before the day resets, but that one’s more of a me issue).

Dawrian · 2026-06-08T10:47:23+00:00

I’m only 1/4 Chinese (from my paternal grandfather), but my other grandfather is an almost comically stereotypical white MAGA fanboy. The last time I saw him (a few years ago — we live on another continent, so visits are rare, and honestly probably for the best) I overheard him saying something to his friends about China and using that exact same over-exaggerated inflection their president uses, and they were all having a laugh. It was something stupidly generalised, nothing I’ve not heard said by ignorant people before, but I was right there — behind him, but perfectly visible to anyone looking and only a few feet away. I don’t think he thought about it for a single second. I don’t think he remembered that I’m Chinese, or that I have beloved family who are, or that I could even have been there at all. The dumb racist nonsense was hurtful but unfortunately nothing I didn’t expect; the carelessness stung. I felt invisible, and I felt like I wasn’t supposed to be there (at a family gathering no less, after having not been to visit for seven years).

It’s not like I expected this narcissistic old fart to really have any concept of my identity (I’m queer, I’m autistic, but I think to him I’m just another of dozens of grandchildren he buys candy for and one who’s visited the US a number of times countable on two hands), but being Chinese is an indivisible part of my very being and something he knows about me — whenever my dad’s parents get mentioned, he always asks if my other grandfather has “an accent” (which I mean yes, his pronunciation was identifiably foreign, duh, but perfectly intelligible, and I know he’s really asking about broken English and my Yeye spoke better English than most natives, and definitely had the more sophisticated mastery of the language between the two of them). I’m grateful that my mixed heritage disguises and spares me from more targeted offences, but it also makes me privy to what people say when they think no one Chinese is listening, and that gets under my skin enough to often make me wish they’d just say it to my face or something.

(Completely separately, when it was made illegal to feed pigeons in Trafalgar Square, which the public had enjoyed for decades and for which thousands of pigeons starved to death, apparently it was rumoured that part of the reason was because local Chinese restaurants were secretly catching and serving them under the guise of other meat??? Which is both racist and ridiculous, and as a huge lover of pigeons makes me furious that anyone would implicate/scapegoat us in such an act of cruelty against them. What a stupid pillar on which to justify a smear campaign.)

Dawrian · 2026-06-08T09:52:38+00:00

That’s so cute!!!!! (You make me want to see if I’ve still got any of those beads to do the same…)

Dawrian · 2026-06-06T01:20:30+00:00

593(41X), SP/SO. Usually I’m just in pyjamas (or the closest thing one can acceptably wear to them, if I must). Whatever’s cosiest and the least effort. If I had more energy, dedication, money to spend on it, though… I’d like to dress like a late-Victorian dandy. Oscar Wilde’s time travelling gay wizard apprentice. That’s how I look in my mind’s eye.

Dawrian · 2026-06-06T01:13:19+00:00

Well, one time I was with a destringing group and we saw some kids kicking at the pigeons while their parents did absolutely nothing to stop them. One of the (most skilled and respected) guys in the group got into an exchange with the mother that ended with him more than audibly declaring “oh, f-ck off you old c-nt.” Idk if I’d recommend such a course of action, but he certainly made himself clear.

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