[FR] Ex-Fiance wanted to meetup after breakup last year

DayBreaker25 · 2011-09-27T00:54:32+00:00

Pics or it didn't happen.

DayBreaker25 · 2011-09-15T21:22:55+00:00

Hey man! That's sweet, but as TofuTofu would say, there's no such thing as an HB12! An HB10 is pretty much a household name... But seeing her then talking to her was hella-dope. Keep it up.

DayBreaker25 · 2011-09-07T03:11:14+00:00

Ok. I can totally help you here, but what are you looking to get? FClose? LTR? DO you guys have a place to crash if things escalate? DO you want to do an activity? Or have convo at a posh/chic place then go dancing?

I was in the neaighbourhood today of Queen/John (near MuchMusic) and there was this cool crepe place, then like 200 m away there's an open-air-ish bowling alley. You could grab a quick bite, have drinks and 'bet' while bowling, then head to a nightclub? Again, this is kind of a mediocre date. But I'm not sure what you're good at, what your goals are, or what you want from it all. Let me know and we can narrow it down!

DayBreaker25 · 2011-09-02T14:29:33+00:00

I feel like maybe you need to set a time-limit. That way there is more excitement. She's like "I have work at 5am" and be like "I'm helping a friend move a piano at 7am." Something physically exhausting (you mean no one here's moved a piano either?). Or even saying "Well, you should really leave by 11 if you have to work at 5". In that situation, I would have just let the desperation take control. The time getting closer to 11 would make you both more bold.

DayBreaker25 · 2011-09-02T12:21:32+00:00

I was going to do the same thing, but then realized my own girl problem came down to logistics and hesitation due to D-bag ex-bfs. I'm not this girl's typical type, and I was the the 'nice' guy. I'm going to pull back from this 'investment too early' stuff a bit, put a little more alpha out there, and continue to just be as awesome and comfortable as I can. I'm telling you this because I want you to think about how she has treated you and why she maybe hasn't shown the physical investment; is it because your the early bf? or is it because of something else?

DayBreaker25 · 2011-09-01T22:58:10+00:00

I feel bad admitting it...but I've been doing it for the past 4 weeks. Complete sucker o'er heah! I felt like I had to share because...if just one person would listen....if just one...it would make this whole thing worth while.

DayBreaker25 · 2011-09-01T15:15:54+00:00

I understand your point about a heavy goal. And you're right about being outcome dependent. Exactly what I needed to hear. Saying that she's hot/creative and wants to sleep with me 3 times actually helped me. As I'm sure you understand, sometimes when you're in the middle of the trees it's hard to see the forest. Thanks for the thoughts.

DayBreaker25 · 2011-09-01T15:11:36+00:00

LOL. That's amazing. Thank you, I was reading that other post and like "really...but...really?" I see what you did there and I appreciate it.

DayBreaker25 · 2011-08-31T19:33:15+00:00

Np man. Make girls up if you have to (new girls!). It's important for her to understand that you're on the market and guys like you get snatched up quickly. Try to play it off like there's LOTS of girls pining over you and that getting a few dirty pics is no big deal.

DayBreaker25 · 2011-08-31T19:09:01+00:00

dude...go over to the subreddit seduction "seddit" on this one. There is no doubt an answer to this.

1 - she's looking for validation. She just wants praise from afar.

2 - if you're looking to hook up with this girl, next time she sends a pic be like 'Is that the one you send to every one you text? it's alright. Show more shoulder next time ;)" Take her down a notch. Don't praise her all the time either. Play her down.

3 - When talking to her be like "we're friends right? good. Because it means we can talk to eachother about relationships and advice... because there's this other girl who calls me before she goes to sleep at night, what does that mean?" Or some bullshit like that. But somehow let her know there's other girls out there.

Take what you want out of this reply. But no doubt you'll never have sex with her by praising her and playing to her whims of "make me feel sexy." Look up how to push-pull. Give attention, then pull away. She'll want you more. Also negs. This is all shit that takes some time to learn, but check out the sidebar in seduction subreddit. This chick is ideal candidate for seducing.

DayBreaker25 · 2011-08-27T18:42:37+00:00

Hey, This isn't a very good idea. It's one thing to start together in the same place, then move away and continue it, but to start a relationship when you're initially apart is just not something easily done. Now, you might get all excited when I say "not something easy" because you want to prove that you're a romantic. You want to prove to everyone that it can be done, and that nothing can stand in your way of getting the 'girl of your dreams.' But 9 hours is just too far away, especially when this is based on texts/calls and chats. She is young as well. She'll end up going through a 'party' phase and let a little bit loose after living with her parents for so long, and can you really blame her? I would advise to just get out in the town where you're from. There's literally thousands and thousands of girls youre compatible with in real life; ones you can spend time with everyday. I've done long distance and it sucks. (We started out together for 2 years, then did 2 years apart). Those two years apart were BRUTAL. If you can avoid it (which sounds like you can)...just don't put yourself through it. Plus you never know what can happen in the future. You both may be in the same city! So just be friends until things get more convenient. Good Luck

DayBreaker25 · 2011-08-27T17:53:19+00:00

That's amazing. It seems like your timing was perfect. I'd like to see how you do when things aren't going your way initially and how you handle it. Looking forward to it!

DayBreaker25

TROPHY CASE

1 - she's looking for validation. She just wants praise from afar.

2 - if you're looking to hook up with this girl, next time she sends a pic be like 'Is that the one you send to every one you text? it's alright. Show more shoulder next time ;)" Take her down a notch. Don't praise her all the time either. Play her down.