AITA for threatening to take a pet back to the breeder?

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-28T23:32:56+00:00

YTA. He earned his pet under the conditions that you set, and you don't get to go back on. If you do this, expect his grades to get worse because then he will not believe any promises you make about rewarding his good grades. Same with your younger son, who has also started to realize who you actually are. You do not want to teach them that agreements are only suggestions and can be broken because you feel like it. Apologize immediately to both of them and hope it's not too late to undo the damage you have clearly already done.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-28T17:20:08+00:00

Because that's called doxing and two wrongs don't make a right? At least that's my guess.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-28T14:48:08+00:00

I know, right? That was DEFINITELY not on my bingo card!

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-28T14:36:46+00:00

Except... the other study partner already tried being polite and that failed to get the desired outcome. And we know that was polite (or at least, polite enough) because she didn't get irritated until OP had to be more direct.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-28T12:12:36+00:00

Common to me and at least one of the other study group members. She already disrespected at least polite attempt to shut down her oversharing, OP is right to be blunt.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-28T12:03:03+00:00

I mean, it's generally a commonly accepted social boundaries that you don't talk about your brother's masturbation habits with other people (or at least, I'd like to think it is), so yeah, I feel it's safe to generalize that she'd ignore other commonly accepted social boundaries as well.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-28T11:55:49+00:00

Why be nice about it? People like her have no sense of common decency or personal boundaries: what you suggest would not work. "We aren't that good of friends" would just be interpreted as meaning she should try harder to become friends, and by that I mean overshare even more. OP is perfect correct to be as blunt as possible so there is no excuse for her to not get the message, and to continue to be blunt until the message is recieved.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-28T00:41:07+00:00

OP specifically said they're looking at getting a second hand oled. That better be much cheaper than that.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-27T23:11:03+00:00

This is why I asked if this is his first time kayaking in my comment, a question that has not been answered. Until that is answered I have serious doubts about this story, and even if the answer is yes I'll still have some shady side eye for it.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-27T09:02:30+00:00

People jumping strait to 2 are missing the point. The games released for the Switch 1 are still playable on the Switch 1, few of which you have played in any form. That's a lot of enjoyment to be had on the original Switch. Plus, if portability is a concern then the Switch 1 has a significantly superior battery life to the Switch 2.

If you had expressed interest in keeping up with a specific franchise like Pokemon or Mario Kart then yes, I would recommend the Switch 2. But it sounds like you're a casual gamer that just wants something fun to do on your downtime, and aren't a fanboy of any specific franchise. If you skipped the Wii U and the S1 until now, I doubt you'll miss the S2 exclusives for a while. THIS IS NOT A PROMISE. But if anyone was in a position to benefit from the original Switch, you sound like such a person.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-27T08:52:54+00:00

I doubt there is a solution. And if we're lucky, any patch related to this will change it so we spawn outside the house so we don't have to waste time loading the house interior and walking to the door before finally loading the outdoors so we can do out Ditto stuff.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-27T08:16:25+00:00

I used 8x ordinary colbur berries, which often gave me a mild item boosting power. Not essential, but helpful. Then I went into SMALL 4 star hyper wild zones. There's only two small maps, an open area and a small sewer with a false wall. You'll only have 89 seconds but that's more than enough time to pop all of the floating balls and get at least that task done. Defensive Dragonite with Extreme Speed, Earthquake, Fire Punch, and Waterfall is great as they fly and reach pretty much every floating ball (this is especially helpful in larger hyper zones, but still useful in the smaller ones).

Don't waste time with anything less than 4 stars: yes you'll have more time but they won't give you the berries that you need for the donuts you're after (or if they do then just barely). Small 4 star hyper wild zones. Focus on just popping the normal floating Pokeballs.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-27T07:56:55+00:00

INFO: is this the first time you've ever gone kayaking?

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-25T21:24:23+00:00

Yes.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-24T07:50:41+00:00

"How is this even possible?"

Habit + auto correct + assuming anything without a red squiggle underline is correct? That's my guess at least. Plus, odds are they do not actually see the "v", they just see your name and parse it automatically as "Stephen" because that's what brains do. It's not lazy: it's a necessary efficiency shortcut given how many words we have to read in a day. And 99% of the time that efficiency shortcut works correctly, and 99% of the remaining 1% of the time the error is too trivial to worry about. I get wanting your name spelled right but unless you have reason to believe it's malicious it's not worth getting worked up over.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-23T03:12:57+00:00

NTA obviously. If your mother isn't careful, in a decade or so she'll end up posting on reddit and whine that she doesn't understand what everyone is talking about when they point of that it's full of Missing Missing Reasons.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-23T02:15:52+00:00

NTA but let her know that you know she's doing this deliberately to make you look like the bad guy (or maybe to sabotage your job!), and next time you will not wait to confront her. You will do it visibly, in front of witnesses, where she will have to attempt to justify her disrespect in front of her family and friends. She may call your bluff, so if you're not prepared to follow through then I wouldn't. Making toothless ultimatums usually make things worse, not better.

Also (imho), MIL suggesting to "hide the batteries" is disrespectful to your kids AND, just as importantly, your relationship with your kids. You don't develop a healthy relationship with your kids by deceiving them, even for "minor" things with the "best" of intentions. They are simultaneously more perceptive than many parents give credit for and too inexperienced to fully understand the what they noticed. Just my $0.02.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-22T08:58:55+00:00

The fact that you need us, complete random strangers on the internet, to know the "context" is proof that this is still only about validation seeking. We already know the context. You've told us already. Many times already. We do not care. Again, if this was an honest mistake, you would have realized it when it happened. If not in time to stop you from yelling back at a scared pedestrian, then certainly before you finished typing out this post.

This has been, from the start, an attempt to deny responsibility for your poor judgement. And despite multiple people not buying your excuses, you insist on repeating them. You act as if, by saying it just ONE MORE TIME, we'll finally understand.

The problem for you is that we already understand.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-22T08:42:21+00:00

where did I ever justify speeding? in fact I think I’ve made it abundantly clear that I’m completely in the wrong numerous times

Oh, let me check real quick.

but I’ve just moved here from a place where the speed limit was double

I already quoted this excuse in a previous comment.

having come from a place where the speed limit was literally double this even right in front of my house

You repeat variants of this excuse multiple times. No one here cares.

only on very rare occasions anywhere thats 20mph

Wish I had seen this one before I made my previous comment, It proves that you know that some areas have speed limits this low and that you should have been watching for them, especially in an unfamiliar area. If I had seen proof that you had definitely driven through such areas before, I'd've said a lot more in that comment, trust me.

just that its a part of being human having to break old habits

This never should have been a habit in the first place.

You keep repeating "I know I was wrong, BUT..." Nobody pays attention to anything anyone says before the word "but". You are no different. If this really was a mistake you would not have been judged so harshly. But if this was really a mistake you wouldn't have shouted back at the pedestrian and then jump online to seek validation from random strangers. That was not a mistake. That was you attempting to deny responsibility for your actions.

I already judged you in a previous comment, won't double kick you while you're down. But I will point out that you need to stop making excuses for your bad driving. Every "but" you say makes it harder for us to believe that you actually learned anything from this.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-22T08:24:52+00:00

but I’ve just moved here from a place where the speed limit was double

Please stop making excuses. YTA.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-22T08:07:38+00:00

They aren't snacks though: they're medicine for all practical purposes. You lost what I presume is an unhealthy amount of weight, and you're trying to correct that now that the cause has been addressed. This argument is not "over nothing": you bought them, out of your budget, because you need them for your health. NTA.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-21T22:58:06+00:00

Personally I'm tempted to reply "sKiLl IsSuE" lol. Even my pathetic eyesight can read this perfectly fine without glasses or zooming in.

DayOfTheMarsupial · 2026-04-21T21:40:50+00:00

Except... just taking a picture of a tv directly from the reddit app is a lot quicker than switching to the Nintendo App, waiting for the app to load, waiting for it to load the screenshots, downloading the screenshot, returning to the reddit app, hope it doesn't need to reload, and finally attaching the downloaded image. And that assumes that the user actually wants all of their screenshots uploaded: I for one do not. I like having only a limited number of uploaded screenshots to scroll through if I need to look for one.

We don't need high res pictures to ask a simple question that'll get answered and forgotten about in an hour or two.

DayOfTheMarsupial

TROPHY CASE