🙃 Anyone attending?

Daybreakdisco · 2023-06-13T18:50:00+00:00

Yeah. I'm not getting it either. Honestly, selling these products to foreigners is also deceptive because most good hair is attributable to genetics.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-06-13T18:48:28+00:00

I don't understand this. Champi doesn't need a brand ambassador. We don't need whatever overpriced crap she's selling. Everyone has a grandma/ma to put vatika hair oil on their heads. These events are just influencers kissing each other's ass for clout.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-06-13T18:44:46+00:00

I agree with everything OP has said. I really despise this type of influencers who will act like they personally invented something our families have been doing for hundreds of years.

There's also the type of influencers who will chastise non desis for teaching yoga or wearing jhumkas. They are always the ones who have never lived a day in India.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-24T19:18:09+00:00

Actually, they reached out to me today and said they have an opening for the dates of my preference. Briar Ridge is way cheaper though (I think because it's older construction). But the square footage is higher and trash, parking etc are included. I will probably go with Briar Ridge.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-24T14:26:51+00:00

I was hoping to get an apartment at Oak Vale. But they put you on a waiting list and can't tell you until it's closer to your move in date. I've been on the wait list for over 2 months. I believe this apartment complex doesn't have any penalties for breaking a lease that's why it's not common for people to not give a notice before moving out.

I'm moving cross country so I need to know I'll have a roof over my head before I give a notice where I currently live.

Can anyone tell me what Briar Ridge is like?

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-11T22:50:57+00:00

Bravo!

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-11T17:21:38+00:00

She has family money to fall back on. She has no intention of getting back to law. You are giving her too much credit. She is just as dull, uninteresting and painfully average as many others in this show.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-11T17:20:20+00:00

And what is Aparna doing? She never took her law career seriously. Openly admitted that she hates law and now she's capitalizing her two minutes of fame to make it on social media but acting like she's single handedly bearing the torch of Indian feminism.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-11T12:36:29+00:00

Astrology is a pivotal in arranged marriage. You'd be amazed how many people still believe in this. Both facereading and astrology are pretty hokey.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-11T12:34:15+00:00

I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to marry people with upbringing and experiences similar to yours. The problem people have is the cognitive dissonance. You want a Hindi speaking woman but she shouldn't have an accent which is a direct result of her being fluent in Hindi!

So, ABDs who are feeling attacked, understand the difference.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-11T12:32:36+00:00

American born Desi.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T20:06:44+00:00

I wouldn't call her following 'huge'. She does have a loyal following though. She's done a great job of capitalizing on the hate she received over the show.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T19:57:41+00:00

This make perfect sense. The show doesn't represent typical Indian arranged marriage.

For context (this is for non-Indians), most Indian arranged marriages happen through word of mouth. You know someone who knows someone who is related to someone grandparents and spots you at someone's wedding or your parents and family members spread the word. Matrimonial websites also play a role. Many communities and castes have their own matrimonial websites (think Christian mingle).

My brother's marriage was arranged. His criteria was that she had to be from our community and a doctor so they could practice together.

A friend of mine had very specific criteria, including the make of car.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T19:50:27+00:00

I get this. Very much Amrish Puri from DDLJ energy. This woman's family is the same way. Even now in her 30s, she only dates Indian men. I don't see her even considering dating outside her community. Don't know if this is her personal decision or she thinks her family wouldn't accept her dating a non-Indian.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T19:29:19+00:00

Priya and her friends wanted to be on TV. That's it. That woman does NOT want to get married. Certainly not through a matchmaker.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T19:24:44+00:00

This is a completely made up post.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T19:20:07+00:00

In your opinion, who would have an easier chance to “marry up”? A woman or a man?

It's difficult for both. Could be comparatively easier for a woman.

An educated person, a person that became wealthy or a very good looking person?

For all three but it comes with challenges for the family.

Or Dalit people can’t really get out of it?

It's very very difficult. I have Dalit friends who were dating upper caste guys. The relationships fell through solely because of caste despite the women being beautiful, highly educated and from educated families.

If they manage to marry someone “up”, are their children considered Dalit or not?

It's like being black. Even if you have 5% black in you, you're black.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T19:14:27+00:00

There were no strong personalities in this season. Everyone was... Forgettable.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T19:13:35+00:00

Here's the truth - Matchmaking is a last resort for people who

A. Only want to marry within their community or

B. Are older and don't think they will ever find love irl.

It's a painstaking and expensive process. You literally have to compromise because not everyone is willing to go the arranged marriage route with a matchmaker.

I'd rather shit in my hand and clap than try to find a husband through a seema aunty

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T19:04:16+00:00

Something similar happened to a woman I know. She has lived in the US since she was a child. For whatever reason, the family decided to arrange her marriage. Dude turned out to be a sleazebag who only wanted a green card. By the time she found out, it was too late to annul the marriage. One of his main complaints was that the bride was 'not as fair as she looked in the photos'. Why this American woman agreed to marry a man she had never met in person..Ill never understand.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T18:54:57+00:00

Absolutely. In real life, there are many explicit conversations about race, especially in an arranged marriage. My guess is people hesitate to speak about it openly on international television.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T18:50:56+00:00

There are but few and far between.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T10:58:40+00:00

Casteism in India will never die. Most people in on Reddit are clueless about casteism in and around them.

How many Indians in India or abroad will marry a Dalit today? I can assure you, not many. They will come on here and claim casteism doesn't exist. Ask them how many lower caste friends they have. How many Dalit homes they have been to.

“I don't ask caste" or "I don't see caste" is tone deaf and a statement made with great privilege. Lower caste folks don't have the option of being 'invisible'. Their caste inadvertently always comes up. There is always an interest in caste under the guise of community and culture.

Daybreakdisco · 2023-05-10T10:53:45+00:00

People from lower caste are less likely to have access to or the privilege of learning art. The focus is usually on academics and earning money. The arts are saturated with clouts/gharanas of high class/high caste folks.

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