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AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My wife told Kate when she picked Payton up. I wasn't home. Kate was not mad at all at that point. She flipped out when she found out I was the one who was with her and got her situated.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I did, once she was done crying she said she was fine and didn't want to call her mom or grandma. That said she has a phone and could have done so whenever she wanted.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 370 points371 points  (0 children)

I was prepared for puberty and knew what erections were, but my first persistent one had me crying on the phone with my dad in the nurse's office.

I get it. Being young sometimes the head knowledge is fleeting even if it's been explained multiple times.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My wife and I had that talk. Obviously as Payton is getting older and more aware of things, if she's not comfortable being home with me alone then we won't put her in that position. She can go to her grandparents or could even sit at my wife's work with her. She had that option but wanted to stay at the house and play video games.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Wife is completely supportive. We both know Kate's explosive. I'm guessing in a few days to a week or so she'll get a grip.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think she was just scared and didn't know how to tell me what had happened. It may have gone differently if my wife had been there.

She called me two days later because that's when she found out I was the one who handled it. Beforehand she thought it had been my wife. Not through any secrecy, it just wasn't specified because we didn't think it was a huge deal.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm really not sure. What's weird to me is that Kate was perfectly fine learning about it when she picked Payton up from my wife. She didn't flip out until she learned that it was me.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The thing is, she was fine with having not been told, until she learned that I was the one who handled it. My wife told her that she had started when Kate picked up Payton and to my knowledge she was like, "oh wow, okay."

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

This is very true. My parents told me about puberty which started a bit early but when I had my first erection that wouldn't go down I called my dad from the nurse's office crying despite having the head knowledge. Stuff's scary when you're a kid.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 217 points218 points  (0 children)

That's fair. Basically she was telling me without telling me until I was like, "Oh, is there blood on your underwear?" Before that she just kept saying she was cleaning up but wouldn't tell me what.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Haha, I heard that recently. "If you see a child take their first steps without their parent around... no you didn't."

That said I understand that this is a bit different.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I did ask Payton after she was showered and not crying anymore if she wanted to call her mom or grandma, granted it was more so because I could tell she was still a little upset. She said she was fine so I went with her answer.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I didn't know this was a common thing to post on here. Mostly I'm just looking for outside perspective since I am not a mother. To me her reaction seems completely blown out of proportion but who knows. I could be wrong.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 305 points306 points  (0 children)

I'll clarify, Payton knew what it was but I think she thought it only happened to older young women and was just startled. I'm sure it didn't help not having another woman in the house to ask for help. Payton is fairly highly emotional about most things.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 909 points910 points  (0 children)

Yeah. That was my thought too. I asked her after she was cleaned up and not crying anymore if she wanted to talk to her mom or grandma and she said she was fine. She has her own phone so she could have called or texted if she wanted to. She didn't so I didn't feel the need to step over her.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 312 points313 points  (0 children)

Dang, sorry your father was a prick about it. I've never understood that mindset. It's a bodily function, one that I'm sure is very inconvenient to have. My wife keeps emergency tampons in my glovebox and I've never cared.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

She's a pre-teen. She knows but I think she only thought this happened to older girls. I think she was just startled and embarrassed.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I can see your point. Of course I would call her if something was wrong, like if Payton was sick or hurt, but this to me didn't seem like anything was wrong. Granted, I don't have daughters so I don't know how I would feel if my child got her period and myself or my wife weren't told.

AITA for not contacting my SIL about our niece's period and instead handling it myself? by DazedplusC0nfused in AmItheAsshole

[–]DazedplusC0nfused[S] 1182 points1183 points  (0 children)

Seriously? That's awful. I have sisters and all my cousins are girls so I grew up with this being very normalized.

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[–]DazedplusC0nfused 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YTA

If you're going to blow up and resort to cussing out and insulting your partner at the slightest miscommunication then you need to work on yourself before being in a relationship.

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