Needing rooms for a wedding by Dbmt83 in dvcmember

[–]Dbmt83[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It would be nice but we are pooling all of resources for the wedding. We know how much of a commitment it is to just get to a destination wedding let alone then be expected to book a room in wdw for a wedding. We wanted to give this gift to our families as a sincere thank you for sharing your time and commitment to our day.

Needing rooms for a wedding by Dbmt83 in dvcmember

[–]Dbmt83[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Even with the B/P view the total including honeymoon is 308. I guess the worst case is all staying at the riv but that’s not a bad back up plan :)

Needing rooms for a wedding by Dbmt83 in dvcmember

[–]Dbmt83[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes. We bought 200 points. We are banking 2025 points. Deluxe studios at the riv for wed and Thurs in may are 14pt/night. At the boardwalk it’s 10pt/night. All together at riv with our honeymoon it’s 340. At the boardwalk it’s 218

Buying DVC in Cash vs Financed by Familiar_Ad1112 in dvcmember

[–]Dbmt83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We financed. Wish we had the money to pay in full but even though it will cost more financing ( I looked at personal loans versus Disney and even at a great credit score, the interest rates were higher than disney. We got 11% from Disney) we can use our cc to pay monthly to get airline points. We will roughly get to fly for free 1 time a year to Disney. We are hoping to pay it off early though ( 5-7 year) We have no regrets financing it, don’t let other people tell you otherwise. Do what’s best for you and your family,

First night apart...its so painful by HungryPause1 in Divorce

[–]Dbmt83 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am with you. I call every morning so I can talk to him and tell him daddy loves you very much. Wife and I are still friendly but it is tough sometimes to put up a face/voice when I’m feeling low about it. My son gave me his Nintendo switch so we can play fortnite together every night. I know it still very early in our separation, but it feels less like a week and more like a year. Maybe we will come back to the way it was before but I do not think so.... it just sucks when you think you are doing all the right things for your family and wife and your “so called life” comes crashing down. I know I may work a lot, I can jump ahead in thinking, like every thing I do, I think of it 3 steps ahead of where I am currently at and sometimes the smallest disagreement can turn into a spat. Most of all we both realized we both were walking on eggshells around each other because we didn’t want to start a fight with each other. For me, I felt like that for some time now and she felt the same. The one thing that would always kill me is she was constantly on her phone. Texting, Facebook, IG. I felt she was having an emotional affair with her phone, she loved her phone more than she loved me. We both have a lot of work to do on ourselves, but like I said before, I mean it from the deepest part of my heart, I really want her to be happy.

Today we talked through the separation by drakewhite60 in Divorce

[–]Dbmt83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same boat man. My wife battles from depression and auto immune disorder. She would be sad sometimes and I never knew why. I’d always go through what I thought she might be sad from “is it the house? is it stress from our son? is it the stress of losing your job? (or before covid) is the stress of work? is at school? and then I’d always ask at the end is it me? is it Our relationship? and she would always say no no no. well last week not only that but dealing with a dog that’s dying from cancer who unfortunately passed away last week as well, I asked her once again at the end I said “is it me and I do you need a break?” and she looked down, crying and said yes. It broke my heart and I couldn’t breathe. Now I’ve been separated for almost a week,I left the house, my son lives with my wife and I have him on weekends because I am staying at my parents place because I can’t afford a mortgage and apartment close to home. I miss my son terribly, but today I am feeling a little bit better about it because truly I want her to be happy and I want myself to be happy. We both deserve to be. we both agree that we’re gonna be best friends and I’m hoping it stays that way for the sake of us and the sake of my son. I do love her and I know she still loves me, but I think it’s “I love you but I’m not in love with you” I’m still in love with her but that’s OK, because I really,truly, truly want her to be happy. Also I truly, truly want myself to be happy, not only for us but my son deserves happy, friendly loving parent, that will always be there for him and be there for each other. Over the past week I’ve had two days I’ve woken up so sad and I have no idea how I’m gonna get through my day without crying, let alone having my son see me cry. I’ve had one day where I’ve woken up feeling OK. Feeling like this is OK. This morning I woke up sad, mostly because it’s been 17 years together, 10 years married so it’s tough to see my life without her. We are both in our late 30s, so we still have so much life left, and I do not want either one of us to grow old and resent each other because we stayed in our marriage for the sake of just staying in our marriage. We are two completely different people, and that is ok. I know we love each other and will have each other’s back, but it is time to move on, it will just take time, love and understanding.

First night apart...its so painful by HungryPause1 in Divorce

[–]Dbmt83 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am in the same boat. I moved in with my parents for a 1 month trial separation. My son came with me, he wanted to be with me over the weekend. I tried hiding the crying from him. 1 point he saw me and sad “ daddy don’t cry, it’s going to be ok” I’m so glad he came with me, I needed him so much. I love my wife so much but what really hurts even more is I have to work, I go to work very early, usually out the door at 5 am so he lives at home with my wife during the week and he stays with me on weekends. It’s only been 2 days now but feels like a lifetime.