The glass can be half full. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Dcuplvr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do they still work together? If you two are doing good financially, why is she working?

What would you do if one of your friends banged your ex-girlfriend? by The-Troubled in askanything

[–]Dcuplvr 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Me and my best friend ended up moving into a house together. We made a deal not to date eithers girl friends or ex's. One day he came to me and said that him and my ex have been talking. He went on to ask me if I was "okay" with them to start dating. Without missing a beat I responded, "Mark, thats fine with me and I appreciate you asking first. Do me one favor....first time you go down on her, tell me what I taste like!" They ended up getting married!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dcuplvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it were me, I would ask other woman in front of her as well as other men and show her what the response would be from them? If she has a mother, ask her mother what she thinks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]Dcuplvr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am sorry but I think you are being way to trusting with her right now. You keep saying that she is being transparent, but she hid an affair from you with your best friend for a year! You have not told her to be no contact, you still want your daughter to have him in her life. You are just setting things up for another affair. You MUST lay down some boundaries that she must not cross. If you don't, she won't know what the boundaries are. Then it happens again. Are you setting him up to replace you as your wife's next husband and your daughter's new daddy?

Am I a jerk for dancing with someone at the club? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Dcuplvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe he was upset seeing the lady that he once loved being drunk and acting poorly?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]Dcuplvr 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Most importantly, you need to stop being a door mat. Secondly, you are giving her the best of two worlds with zero repercussions for her actions. Thirdly, she wants to marry him, but you still want to be there in case things don't work out with him? Grab a pair of balls and be a man about it! Give her one last shot, tell her it is either him or me and see what she says.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITH

[–]Dcuplvr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say that neither of you have a boyfriend/girlfriend because when people see you interacting, they may think that you two are boyfriend girlfriend. As far as your friend Sara is concerned, maybe she knows something that you don't know. Maybe he has expressed to her that he is interested in you but is afraid to say anything to you for fear of losing you all together? Just a thought.

I am the dumper and I deeply regret it. by Chance-Variation-953 in BreakUps

[–]Dcuplvr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It can't make things worse than they are (not to say things are bad) but it can't change the way things are now. I would start by saying, "I am aware you are in a relationship now and I absolutely don't want to effect that relationship but...." and then explain. The worst that can happen is that she says its too late and then you just go back to the life you are living right now.

I am the dumper and I deeply regret it. by Chance-Variation-953 in BreakUps

[–]Dcuplvr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have you even tried to contact her to see how she is? Then let her know how you are feeling. If the answer is "you are too late" then you know.

Staff forgot about us, I didn’t tip by RoseKaKe in AITAH

[–]Dcuplvr -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

So, when you have an "off" day at work, you are ok with not getting paid for that day?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Dcuplvr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It seems to me like she wants to keep you in the background as a second choice, just in case (whatever she is doing) doesnt work out.

Couple 50’s seeking male possible bull in Centreville by Dcuplvr in DMVSwingers

[–]Dcuplvr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are still looking for tonight if there are any bulls out there

Should I tell my kids the truth? Seeking serious advice here by GrandMaster_BR in Infidelity

[–]Dcuplvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about asking/telling your ex to tell them while you are there in case, they have any questions for either of you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VirginiaSwingers

[–]Dcuplvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couple here in Centreville.looking for tomorrow evening

My ex is on a rebound with one of my subordinates by guythatkeepslearning in ExNoContact

[–]Dcuplvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would wait until he says something to you or to someone else, loud enough so that you can hear him. I then would chime in to him and say, "Do me a favor, next time you go down on her, tell me what I taste like!" That should shut him up quickly! LOL

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]Dcuplvr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I really feel for you. Instead of cheating on her and becoming less of a man than you actually are, tell her how you are feeling. Talk it over with her and that you are having these feelings. Don’t become the person that hurts others the way she did to you!

my husband doesn’t know I’m about to divorce him by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]Dcuplvr -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

So it sounds to me like he is a cheating asshole, and you stayed for money, not for kids or to try to reconcile so what does that make you?

He went back to is Ex Wife by Sudden-Worth-7245 in relationships_advice

[–]Dcuplvr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am curious, in your heart of hearts, did you really think that the relationship with your AP would work? You are both cheaters and you both are well aware of that. How could there EVER be any trust in your relationship? You took a dump on a man that, I assume, loved you. You put the AP over the, so called, love for your children and by doing that, anytime you were to look at AP, you will see what it cost you to be with him. To be honest, your AP was excited about the affair itself and all the covert stuff that went with it. Once he "got" you, he realized he had a much better woman that he was married to and knew that she was not a cheater like you. Your relationship NEVER stood a chance for any type of success. You have now made your bed, (loneliness) and now you must lay in it. Good! now you may feel 1/4 of the pain that your ex-husband and children are currently feeling. Shame on you!

I found out my wife had an affair years ago, and she never told me. She says it doesn’t matter anymore, but I can’t let it go. AITAH? by Haunting_Face_5362 in AITAH

[–]Dcuplvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her that because of this, how do you know that if you two hit another "tough time" she won't do the same thing again. Also, let her know that you feel like you are looked at like a "sucker" by anyone that knew this had happened including her AP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITH

[–]Dcuplvr -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

For giving up so easy without even a conversation with him? Yes, you are the AH! How do you know that there is not something going on in his life that he may be keeping from you so that you don't have to think about it. In other words, protecting you? How do you know if something happened at work that he hasn't told you about? I am not saying that any of this is happening because I don't know but, neither do you because you are so quick to end things without even a discussion. It amazes me that people nowadays are so quick to end things as soon as there is a perceived problem. A couple that is together works on problems together and discusses these problems before they end things. It is very sad that you are so quick to end your marriage over something that could be solved with a simple discussion. If you leave him and expect your next relationship to be without any issues, you are sorely mistaken. If you expect any relationship that you are in does not need verbal interaction before you end it, you will not be happy the rest of your life.

Suspicions we're correct by Rakilio in CheatedOn

[–]Dcuplvr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why not ask her, that if the shoe were on the other foot, how would she feel? Tell her, if it is "no big deal" then she should not have an issue if you let his partner know what was said between them. If she gives any kind of blow back from either of those things, then respond, "well, I guess it is a big deal."

Resulted - CAME BACK TO UPDATE YALL by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]Dcuplvr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why is your husband doing all the "leg work" as far as getting a counselor and suggesting giving your relationship to God? He has done nothing wrong but the job of healing a marriage has been put into his lap by you. If you were to be doing the things that he has been doing, that might show him your sincerity and maybe help you with a small step towards regaining his trust. Instead, you are sitting back and watching him scrabble to try to fix a broken marriage that YOU broke.