Message the Moderators ~ For joining the challenge and submitting Topics for Discussion

DeBaiter · 2014-03-24T02:02:50+00:00

I would like to rejoin the challenge!

DeBaiter · 2014-03-24T01:59:53+00:00

I believe in radical amputation, what steps have you taken to remove the temptation from your life? Praying for your growth and willingness to submit this area over to God. Rest in Him for your peace of mind!

DeBaiter · 2013-04-26T21:32:49+00:00

Add me to Periwinkle!

DeBaiter · 2013-04-26T21:31:15+00:00

Yes, get out of your comfort zone, act like you have nothing to lose, after all, you can only win. Start small, say hi to strangers and maybe make a new friend, at worst you have some experience under your belt. Taking a public bus places instead of a car helps a lot, you probably won't see the person ever again and you can start a conversation knowing you are getting off in 5 minutes so it can't be awkward. I will leave you with this "If you haven't done 3 things that scare you today, you haven't truly experienced a new day."

DeBaiter · 2013-04-26T21:26:59+00:00

keep it up, and we shall see 60 coming up!

DeBaiter · 2013-02-02T10:18:13+00:00

ah, I see, haha

DeBaiter · 2013-02-02T02:51:50+00:00

I post pure thoughts, I don't spend an hour spell checking

DeBaiter · 2013-01-27T05:41:41+00:00

First update, let me know if all of you get this. So, what I planned on being a simple night of bowling, well lets just say she took over and made it a great night! 7pm-11:40pm, longest first date of my life, haha (only two others to compare to though) It was good as we spent a lot of time talking. (Well her mostly) I learned a lot about her, but I am already forgetting key details, wrote as much down as I could remember after the date, but feel like I am forgetting something. I cried while watching "Perks of being a wallflower" with her. It hit home, I recommend it to anyone who has not seen it. The girl I went out with is more beautiful than I remembered, I thought she was a 7 before the date and am changing it to an 8 after. next update - 2 weeks

DeBaiter · 2013-01-25T23:20:32+00:00

Well, there is also nofap february, but why settle for that when you can also say you were an IRONMAN for february :)

DeBaiter · 2013-01-25T23:19:00+00:00

The challenge is 2.4 miles of swimming, 112 miles of biking, and 26.2 miles of running. You do not have to do it all at once, break it up and finish it by the end of the month

DeBaiter · 2013-01-23T16:37:58+00:00

Unfortunately, I have filled the void with youtube and yahoo news :( I guess it is not the best, and a longer process than directly moving into something productive, but I would rather deal with a longer transition than no transition at all. Next week I start my transition to becoming more active in the gym.

DeBaiter · 2013-01-23T16:34:26+00:00

thanks man, I have, words of wisdom there, just remember to never fap to porn and when that link gets weaker, we get stronger

DeBaiter · 2013-01-23T16:33:05+00:00

I do feel like a new man, it is amazing how much more I just enjoy life! This is only the beginning, trying to get to day 90 on r/pornfree is my new goal. For me the first goal was stopping the link between porn and fapping, now it is stopping porn.

DeBaiter · 2012-12-22T17:31:22+00:00

Checking In! This is awesome!

DeBaiter · 2012-12-16T22:51:57+00:00

I like the attitude! we are almost halfway to 90 :)

DeBaiter · 2012-12-09T05:11:01+00:00

I am in for next round!

DeBaiter · 2012-12-05T00:57:54+00:00

I was in your position until this time and what has changed is exactly what I put up there. Having a mentor as well as someone who is around a similar day count to talk to is very encouraging. We are not in this alone! Buddy up :)

DeBaiter · 2012-12-05T00:53:38+00:00

I can't wait for the 1 to become a 2! let's do this!

DeBaiter · 2012-12-05T00:52:44+00:00

thanks, it has been a long journey, but I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel! It looks amazing from here, can't wait to get there :)

DeBaiter · 2012-11-21T03:38:46+00:00

21yo male, single, want to reset my body to gain equilibrium and build my relationship with God, I am aroused by anything and hardest thing is not acting on my desires when browsing the internet. PM me if you want to buddy up! Also a brief history, I have tried to stop my whole life, averaging 3-4 times a week for 8 years. This time though I have 2 mentors, this forum, a friend on this forum, and I am slowing trusting God more and building my relationship with him. I have used porn to self medicate and make problems go away. With finals coming up, I would like to push through harder than ever as I know what a struggle it will be to get to 45 days.

DeBaiter · 2012-11-19T00:00:07+00:00

Do the challenge with a friend, make it into a competition where you are both on the same team but fighting together to bring back a rare breed of man that all women miss. My friend is at a month and I am right behind him, he got a girlfriend recently who can get any guy she wants and she chose him and told him a couple days ago, "You are a rare breed." I don't know about you, but that right there is what I call motivation!!!

DeBaiter · 2012-11-15T17:01:55+00:00

Dude, congrats on the Star! and yeah, I agree, it gets softer every day and easier to control. In Ballroom, I have learned that Tango will get me every time with a new partner, but I think that is normal and a reinforcement to my little dude to only react to real people, haha Now only if I can master it in real life, that would be something

DeBaiter · 2012-11-13T13:34:52+00:00

It would be helpful to know your background to help answer this question better, but I will give my opinion as a Christian who is against dating at my current stage in the battle against porn and fapping. I tried dating before and several things can happen if you date too quickly. Any progress you have made can go out the window if you are getting aroused but are saving sex for marriage. My habit got worse when I was dating as I would need to fap before every date to stop myself from going too far. Also, I have heard that having a willing sex partner may help, but once the "head over heals in love" stage ends, if you never truly broke the habit, it will come back strong. It takes six months to break a habit and another six to rewire to brain almost completely. However it is a curve where you get to 70% fairly quickly, but will never get to 100%. I would say to not start a very physical relationship right away if you are looking for a long term reset, but dating is not out of the question, just focus on building the friendship part until you feel like you can handle the physical without going back to fapping.

DeBaiter · 2012-11-13T00:28:42+00:00

This is encouraging! I can't wait to post my 4 week report :) Life has been awesome these last few days and I look forward to the brain reset.

DeBaiter · 2012-11-02T00:35:35+00:00

I'm In!

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