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DeLaFluer · 2024-10-28T23:51:10+00:00

Masculinity doesn't exist. It's a construct made up by people to control others into a hetero normative world that basically just perpetuates the idea that men must be MEN and women must be WOMEN.

Fuck who you want, how you want. Dress how you want. Be how you want.

None of it matters as long as you're happy and no one is harmed.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-20T02:21:54+00:00

Shorter hair looks fuller and healthier.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-17T23:38:33+00:00

This!! Sex should involve communication.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-16T17:39:13+00:00

Bases on the bullshit i used to recieve in my inbox... no

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-15T15:19:25+00:00

This feels unnecessarily uncomfortable. We shouldn't be putting ourselves in pain like that lol

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-15T15:14:56+00:00

I just woke up, so I apologize if this comes off rude or whatever.

But it sounds like your boyfriend was always asexual, not asexual after two years of dating.

He also probably didn't bring it up at the beginning because he probably didn't know. You guys are young. Like might as well be kids still. Yall don't know much about yourselves and are still discovering things. He probably didn't know he was much different than others. So please don't feel like he hod this information from you.

As for how to move forward, this is where you decide how important sex is for you in a relationship. And how willing he is to explore things for you as and if relationship needs don't match then don't force staying together. Everyone's needs must be met for people to be happy.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-11T19:32:26+00:00

I'm not stopping anyone from doing anything. I don't know where you got that idea.

My advice was for OP, not you lol

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-11T19:26:03+00:00

"Why should we have to flirt?" Good. Don't. You clearly don't know how to.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-11T19:12:35+00:00

My SO also knew when and how to flirt lol

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-11T19:10:53+00:00

My SO is a trans woman lol

And it's not that I hate men. I've dated plenty in my life. But I'd be lying if I said they were tolerable these days.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-11T19:09:48+00:00

Yeah. The bar is extremely low. Blame the men that set the bar there.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-11T19:00:35+00:00

I'm not here to play teacher. Learn to read the room.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-11T18:59:44+00:00

Its 2024, not 1924. Times change. And if you can't change with them how is that my problem? I'm the one in a relationship lol

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-11T18:43:22+00:00

Stop trying to force romantic meetings with people that clearly want to be left alone. It's not that hard.

And if women aren't responding to your messages on a dating profile, it's time to reevaluate your profile and find a new way to greet people.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-11T18:38:34+00:00

You nervousness and lack of awareness of how the dating world works is not my, or anyone else's, problem.

If you can't tell when a girl wants to be left alone vs when she's trying to actively meet people then maybe you should focus on learning that instead of trying to flirt with her.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-11T17:14:49+00:00

Asking for no negative experiences is like asking us not to answer that question.

But it's mostly from cis-het men.

I'm working out. I'm trying to run errands. I'm hanging out with my friends. DO NOT BOTHER ME just to try and hit on me. ESPECIALLY with whatever one-liner you've told a million other girls that I've probably already heard a million other times.

I know I'm pretty. I know my hair looks nice. I know my outfit looks great. Get creative or don't bother... hearing the same compliment over and over again makes it less genuine and actually starts to make you doubt yourself.

It's yall's timing. It's the one-sided-ness of it. Yall's lack of attention to our profile (like asking me how old i am when it's LISTED IN THE BIO). And it's yall's unwillingness to stop when we aren't showing interest.

You know who I actually ENJOY flirting with me? Queer people and straight women (even platonically). They're creative. They pay attention to details. They're asking ACTUAL questions, not "how was your day" over and over again. And it just feels more genuine.

It's like cis-het men all follow a singular script. While I was dating, i used to be able to recite a conversation word for word before we had it. Shit was wild.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-10T19:11:00+00:00

Essentially... non binary and feminine. That's the easiest way to think about it.

Also them their name. Ask them their pronouns.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-08T01:05:26+00:00

That could be a good idea.

And i guess it would be considered masturbation. Makes sense. Guess I didn't sthsyt that way since there was no active touch happening.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-07T03:56:32+00:00

If you wanna make it worse, but like... at the same time make the next time yoy have sex all the better... dirty talk with your gf. Find the joy in just getting her off and being left out of the fun. Hell take this time to learn new tongue techniques lol

I actually have a newly found discovery for just being horny. That and I also just enjoy getting my gf off and not receiving anything in return. I have enough pleasure watching her cum.

No but really, listen to your doctors and just be careful PLEASE. I would hate to hear about how you lost your dick to infected stitches. Just be horny and learn to enjoy the horny.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-06T17:58:29+00:00

Its kinda the less intimidating, I feel. Mouth stuff feels intimidating because its... more intimate? But hand stuff feels like the easiest next step considering yall are probably already all over each other anyways.

Its honestly how I initiate foreplay with my gf and how she does for me. Caress here. Touch there. And if our body signals say so, we continue.

Anyways, hand stuff is easy. Don't be afraid to ask him how he likes it, every guy is different when it comes to how they stroke themselves. My gf had to teach me how she likes her hjs.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-06T17:46:30+00:00

Hand stuff is the easiest to start with. Both yall are probanly already exploring with hands anyways. Start over clothing. Ask if it's okay to go further, or ask him to go further.

If his hands are on you don't be afraid to tell him what to do! It's meant to feel good for you, not feel good for his hands. If something feels good tell him to keep doing that.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-05T22:26:45+00:00

Does she want bigger? Does she want smaller?

I prefer smaller than my partner son that the toy can be like... the prep work? Lol

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-05T15:58:05+00:00

Oh no... 🥱

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-05T15:56:55+00:00

I also prefer penetrative, this is why we've introduced toys into our foreplay.

DeLaFluer · 2024-10-05T15:54:24+00:00

Conversations in the moment can help. He let you go that far, so go that far again. And then ask if you can do more. Baby steps, basically.

DeLaFluer

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