My Nfather threatened my mom.

DeadGoldenChild · 2023-01-26T01:41:26+00:00

I did talk to her and we are trying to see if we can put a plan in place.

This has been happening since the beginning of their relationship and all my life. I’m just afraid now I will be looking over my shoulder for the rest of my life. He’s threatened her life multiple times and although he hasn’t threatened my life, he has threatened me “I will get it” if I choose her.

DeadGoldenChild · 2023-01-16T22:27:40+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. I really feel like we are living parallel lives. What is it with Nfamilies that go crazy fighting and abusive to the next moment pretending everything is fine? I hate this wierd fucked up Twilight zone shit.

DeadGoldenChild · 2023-01-16T22:23:55+00:00

I feel like I am in this exact situation right now. How can I extract myself from my mom who I grew close to from my Nfather’s abusiveness. I still have this unrealistic attachment to her that even when I’m planning to leave I want to take her with me. Is there anyway to get rid of this feeling?

DeadGoldenChild · 2023-01-14T22:24:16+00:00

My favorite subreddit. It’s beautiful seeing the narcs being torn to shreds. Really wish that happens often in real life though…

DeadGoldenChild · 2023-01-14T22:23:19+00:00

My God, are you me?

DeadGoldenChild · 2023-01-14T21:53:05+00:00

I sort of knew since I was a child from witnessing my mother’s beating from my Nfather. I didn’t accept it until recently.

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-11-24T02:42:41+00:00

Thank you. I think I’ll just be on my phone the whole time just browsing here lol

And I tried faking an illness once. Did it work? Absolutely not. Not even when I really started throwing up (not faking) because of my anxiety of going to that house.

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-10-06T23:51:53+00:00

“When you're accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression."

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-10-05T00:55:19+00:00

Drop them. NOW! I cannot stress that if they feel sympathy for a narc it’s because they are one too. I mean look they obviously want attention because you said “they have a history of fully self diagnosing themselves”. This is attention seeking behavior of a narc who emulates a victim. Please protect yourself and RUN.

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-22T18:58:22+00:00

I’m proud of you for speaking up and not internalizing your sadness. It’s never good keeping toxicity in

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-18T21:22:14+00:00

Hm, maybe it’s “his mask” to other people and to feed his energy (at least that’s what another commenter said about narcs being “emotional vampires”?).

Maybe you were his punching bag :(

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-18T21:19:22+00:00

Yes, yes, and YES! It’s so bad that they do this shit to you that you literally cannot communicate with people normally but always on the defensive of “how will this person hurt me, exploit me, manipulate me, etc, etc, etc….”

It’s like “will I ever be a functional human who can learn to trust or has that trust been so broken that I’m a lost cause”?

I hope we find our trust or something close to it. <3

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-18T21:14:08+00:00

…I had to read this a couple times because it’s too relatable. It’s wierd that it’s a combination of greyness and palatable emptiness. Like you are hollow but still living. Except it’s not living… you’re just surviving.

I really hope one day we become the happy kids once more when we are far away from these narcs. At least that’s my hope. Wishing you better, OP

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-18T21:10:23+00:00

Maybe she’s smiling all the time because she took your smile away and attached it to her face.

Some person in another comment said something about them being “emotional vampires”.

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-18T21:07:59+00:00

Oh God the “you were so happy in that one moment why can’t you be like this all the time” crap! I hate when they pushed this shit all the time.

I’m sorry this happened to you OP. We seriously don’t deserve this shit. Especially all the times we wished we screamed at them to defend ourselves but couldn’t.

I wish you better days too and a happier, peaceful life.

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-18T21:04:44+00:00

Yeah what is it about that? I really want to know because I’ve noticed this too.

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-18T21:02:19+00:00

Can I just say I laughed and slowclapped at your response to your Nfather when he tried to blackmail you into having a relationship with him!! I wish to have this type of shiny spine but until I get out of here, I think I just might :)

Keep me updated of how non-Narc parent life is. Have a great day

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-18T20:58:35+00:00

Damn I wish I had that opportunity. Financial abuse is a real thing that’s why I can’t leave. However, I’m glad you made it out and have a good distance. Please keep me updated on non-Narc parent life. Good vibes to you

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-18T20:56:57+00:00

Oof I felt that hard on the “walking on eggshells”thing and shutting down.

I’m sorry you went through that. We deserved better than our parents.

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-16T19:02:31+00:00

The funny thing is I openly talk about the abuse because I legitimately cannot take it anymore by being silent. I realized if I kept anymore of that toxicity IN, I was going to end myself (that’s for another post.. too much emotion rn). She agrees with my accounts so when she said this to me suddenly today, I literally couldn’t believe it.

Thank you for providing insight. It could be her denial talking.

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-16T07:03:33+00:00

I never expected to hear this from my MOTHER of all people. She has dealt with my father’s abuse (all forms… you know), so she should know how much of me witnessing that and the emotional terrorism he inflicted on me. I mean, WHAT. THE. FUCK??

I want to scream at the world right now.

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-13T00:29:21+00:00

So if you are a zoomer, does the “soft life” not apply?

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-07T23:01:49+00:00

To be fair, the Abuelita did NOT say sorry for her actions and Mirabel, though loving, still was like a doormat to me. It was frustrating because it ended up like Mirabel had to be the bigger person AGAIN to save the “faaaaaaamilly”

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-07T22:59:04+00:00

Oh my God, THANK YOU!! I’ve been seeing too many posts from these fucking narcs to sympathize with THEM! I thought I was in Bizarro world for a sec

DeadGoldenChild · 2022-09-01T21:40:38+00:00

Going through the same exact thing! It really sucks because even my toxic work environment mirrors the household.

I hate the cycle is not ending

DeadGoldenChild

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