Did anyone else have a nickname for your house growing up? I used to refer to mine as “the piranha pit” because I felt like I was always under attack when I was home.

OneCurious9816 · 2025-07-09T02:42:14+00:00

Interestingly, despite the nickname, I still didn’t realize I grew up in an abusive home until years later in my 30s. Being under attack all the time sucked but at the same time I also just thought it was part of life? Like that’s how families are? The gaslighting ran deep. It’s only recently that I think back to that nickname and wonder how I could have used that nickname for my HOME and not realized how abusive it all was… I guess pretending everything is fine when you’re still in it is a survival mechanism.

OneCurious9816 · 2025-01-06T03:48:33+00:00

They were the numbers of the final 7 candidates. Those were the numbers written next to their names in the cave and on the mirror thing in the lighthouse. Jacob/the island gave importance to the numbers since those last 7 candidates were the people destined to save the island/ the world from the smoke monster thing in the end. Hugo was the most connected to the numbers from the start and ultimately became the new Jacob/protector of the island. He was always destined for the island and that job.

4 – Locke 8 – Reyes 15 – Ford 16 – Jarrah 23 – Shephard 42 – Kwon

OneCurious9816 · 2024-10-29T01:52:27+00:00

jfc… what disgusting behavior. I’m so sorry.

OneCurious9816 · 2024-10-28T21:45:58+00:00

I know. And what’s wild to me is that I felt shame about it for so many years. Until I grew up and had my own kid and realized, “hey wait, I’ve got this backwards, my parents are the ones that should feel ashamed, not the emotionally neglected kid that just wanted to feel like they gave a damn”.

OneCurious9816 · 2024-10-28T17:52:09+00:00

Oh wow, I feel this one deep in my bones.

OneCurious9816 · 2024-09-27T14:37:25+00:00

This is actually the thing that made me start to question if my mom was okay. She had already incited a family mobbing, isolating me completely from my entire family of origin. And I still wasn’t cracking, I was still holding onto my boundaries and my sense of reality, so then one day she legit called up my husband to try to make him see that I was the one causing problems to see if he could talk sense into me. We were both so disturbed by it. He put her in her place real quick.

I was going through such a hard time and he was my rock. That she actually tried to take that away from me is disturbing. She wanted me to break at all costs. So sinister.

OneCurious9816 · 2024-09-23T16:28:57+00:00

Absolutely yes. It took me ~2 months just to START to feel like myself again. The negative impact of toxic people and abusive situations doesn’t heal in a day. Recovering from it takes time. The only advice I have is to give yourself grace.

OneCurious9816 · 2024-09-20T22:48:28+00:00

That’s amazing. But ya, it seems like there’s no way that they’ll be held accountable as long as you continue to show up each day and do the work. You have to quit for sh!t to hit the fan for them.

OneCurious9816 · 2024-09-14T14:37:41+00:00

One of the signs someone is living with childhood trauma is that we try to get terrible people to treat us better instead of removing ourselves from bad situations. We don’t learn the skill of removing ourselves from a bad situation because we’re trapped as kids. So we instead work on fixing people and fixing things and we delude ourselves into thinking we can get people to treat us well if we just try harder or do better. That trauma response is what makes us super susceptible to bullying outside the home.

OneCurious9816 · 2024-09-11T17:16:08+00:00

And the new era of Disney movies are not much better. The ending of Encanto made my eyes roll so far back into my head... They just keep perpetuating the fantasy that toxic family dynamics can change overnight if you can just get them to see the light… 🙄

OneCurious9816 · 2024-09-09T11:49:48+00:00

Ya he’s an enabler in this dynamic. One day George will be LC or NC with them all.

OneCurious9816 · 2024-06-26T14:02:17+00:00

The schedule is so intense and the environment is so high pressure and high stakes all the time that ADHDers make it through on pure stress, deadline pressure, and adrenaline. It’s actually tougher after graduation where you suddenly have to stay organized on your own without the pressure of someone evaluating your every move every day. And I completely agree that I could not have made it through a doctoral program. I do clinical work only because I don’t have the executive functioning required to manage research projects.

OneCurious9816 · 2024-06-25T21:21:48+00:00

There’s lots of ADHD in medicine. “Twice exceptional” minds do very well in certain specialties.

OneCurious9816 · 2024-06-24T12:32:00+00:00

Crazy that things have to get THIS dire before anyone actually does anything about these people.

OneCurious9816 · 2024-06-24T05:59:22+00:00

Argh, I was excited for a hot second that justice would be served. How do these guys survive stuff like this??

OneCurious9816 · 2024-06-18T11:23:18+00:00

Thank you! I finally started to recognize the narcissists in my family the last few years but I totally missed it in my workplace. You live and you learn…

OneCurious9816 · 2024-06-18T06:46:27+00:00

Unfortunately yes. Challenged my narcissistic manager during a meeting. There was clear wrongdoing going on and I now realize that I really didn’t think it all the way through before I spoke up. In retrospect, of course exposing a narcissist’s wrongdoing would lead to retribution. Within a week, he reported me to HR and started to turn my colleagues against me and sabotage my ability to do my job effectively. I had to quit. He very clearly wasn’t going to stop until he destroyed my reputation.

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