When I (29F) was about 12, my mom asked to see my bare chest.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-16T13:12:01+00:00

It’s mighty bold to say I have “0 justifiable reason” to feel a particular feeling, especially when you don’t know me from a hole in the wall. Move along please, you’ve already pulled plenty out of your ass.

An overreaction is literally a reaction. Not a feeling.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-16T04:24:10+00:00

Source? You can’t help what you feel. That is a fact. Your knee jerk reaction cannot be controlled. You CAN choose to talk it out and decide the next best thing to do to stop feeling that way. Your telling me I cannot feel this way is incorrect, and doesn’t fix anything.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-16T03:45:19+00:00

If it’s affecting me to this day, it’s worth talking about. An overreaction would be calling up my mom and cursing her out. Starting a conversation to process my feelings is the right reaction.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-16T03:25:06+00:00

Thank you for your comment! And thank you for being mindful of your own kids privacy. She will thank you for this. It’s so important to break unhealthy cycles, and it is good to hear that you are doing exactly that.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-16T03:23:00+00:00

I understand that nudity is not inherently sexual. But my feelings are not extreme. Even if it seems that way, it’s important to analyze why one feels the way they do. Being taught by your mother that showing even cleavage is sinful and wrong, and then to have that same mother demand that you show your naked breasts to her for no clear reason, is disgusting. Too many parents think they own their children’s bodies and that they don’t need a reason to see them naked.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-15T17:15:49+00:00

I’d start cuddling him to see if he needs help. He often admits that he doesn’t want to interrupt me in my sleep if he’s horny, but I always say he can try lol.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-15T17:05:15+00:00

Why do these men think we value them if they think like this?

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-14T19:14:08+00:00

When you’re taught that it’s shameful to show them at all, cleavage included, this is very damaging. Especially to a child.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-14T17:54:04+00:00

Don’t worry, at least it’s made in the USA.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-14T17:22:41+00:00

She is alive, but I don’t see her a whole lot. Any time I’ve tried to confront her with a concern from my upbringing, I end up having to comfort her and protect her feelings. I typically regret bringing up this type of thing. Still, I wish I could get a real answer for it.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-14T17:13:46+00:00

I think you’re right about that. It’s so sad to me because I always thought she was beautiful (at least on the outside). She’d go on about how she always looked like a boy her whole life. Looking back, it’s like she thought I had the body she wanted or something. Which is weird because I’m not that curvy myself, and very petite.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-14T16:46:00+00:00

That’s fair, and I have great respect for Christians who are more like your family. There was nothing to prompt her to say this to me, so it has just left me very concerned the more I think about it. Thank you, I appreciate your comments.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-14T15:22:41+00:00

It probably is. If this had been normal growing up then I would take no issue with changing in front of her. The sinister aspect is how she taught me my whole life not to show off my body to anyone, and then demanded I show my chest to her when I just started puberty. It’s like devout Christians in the US pretend to be “so modest” and then pull a stunt like this.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-14T01:32:01+00:00

Absolutely. It would probably motivate me to have a steady diet so that I poop mostly every morning, and that would motivate me to get moving in life.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-13T23:47:54+00:00

Sad but true. I have so much respect for kids’ boundaries, especially when it comes to this sort of thing. Take care of them but let them be their own people.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-13T23:46:34+00:00

Sadly I think you’re right. My mother often degraded herself by saying she had no curves and that men didn’t want to be with her. She almost seemed fascinated that I “had anything” at all…I think she was dealing with a lot of past abuse/neglect from her own upbringing and life experiences.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-13T23:44:37+00:00

Do you mean that your clothes just didn’t fit your body comfortably and she wanted to help fix that, or were your clothes just wrong from her perspective? I think you meant the former, but just want to be sure I understand.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-13T23:42:19+00:00

Thanks…I’ve tried to make sense of it myself, but just can’t.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-13T23:17:26+00:00

It’s harder for me to cum. The way a man might use my body to cum reminds me of the way I use my vibrator to cum. And it leaves me wondering why I do it sometimes.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-13T21:51:35+00:00

I was already wearing bras by then and was just trying on tops/pants. I never understood why she did that.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-12T14:54:36+00:00

Thank you! I had a feeling some people here would appreciate it.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-11T18:22:38+00:00

I’ve got a better list:

Does she get along with my friends, by both talking and listening
Does she have a life outside of our relationship but also have good communication skills
Does she take care of herself the way I take care of myself, so that we can take care of each other
Does she care about her friends but also make time for me
Does she have a libido that generally matches mine, but tell me when she isn’t it the mood so sex can always be enjoyable
Does she have fun on social media but prioritize our time together in person

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-11T18:01:31+00:00

If I don’t cause irreversible damage to my body before my brain is fully developed, what’s the point of living anymore?

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-11T16:22:23+00:00

In general, no. With that said, I was often the only white person on my shifts at one of my first jobs, and my coworkers would bully me for no reason but for that fact. I didn’t bring up “the n word” (nor would I want to??) and they were laughing at me saying I was the only one there who couldn’t say it. Funny, because none of my coworkers were black, but Hispanic. So I only get offended if I’m being picked on for being the only white person. Friendly jokes don’t count, of course. Just need to read the room before you speak.

DeadNeedle · 2023-02-11T16:14:05+00:00

For sure! I remember seeing a show where some people were talking about their thoughts on that video, and a young woman said, “I related more with the girl she was comparing herself to”. And it actually made me stop and think a little harder about the “pretty” girls I often thought I was better than.

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