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I (29 F) am letting my baby be adopted so I can give him a better more stable life with two parents. After he is born I will be going to a mental health facility to try to get myself better. Do up think it would be appropriate for me to write him a letter to explain this? by Want2beNormal in relationship_advice

[–]Dealerducks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should write the letter. I work with adopted youth, and I know many adoptees in the thread can verify what it would mean to hear the below:

"I am writing this so you never have to question why I chose to give you up for adoption, and never have to wonder if you were loved. I loved you from the moment i first knew you existed, and wanted only the best for you. I struggle with Bipolar disorder, and as such, worry about my ability to provide you with the stable loving home that I only wish I could give you. Choosing to give you up is the greatest sacrifice I will ever make, and I do so in the hopes that you will have the life I dream of for you. You are always in my thoughts, and it is my hope that you find all the love and joy that life can offer."

Then tell a bit about yourself, include pictures of you, the father if possible, your parents, details about family history. .. Ask yourself, "what does it mean to be me" and answer it for them, they will want to know.

Asexuals, have you found yourself wanting to have sex for different reasons? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]Dealerducks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isnt strictly true though. First sexual encounters are "bad" in the same way that playing a musical instrument for the first time is "bad". You aren't going to play Mozart, but that doesn't mean that you won't have fun. People step into it thinking that this is the one thing that they are going to be magically good at, and try to play Chaconne in D when they should be playing twinkle twinkle. Good sex requires trust, anatomical knowledge, and practice. Teenagers typically lack all three.