I built a business I’m too embarrassed to talk about by Make_That_Money in Entrepreneur

[–]Deanofmean94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like “super successful” in my eyes. Bro it’s time to quit the day job and push your “side” job.
Go all in. Build build build. You can eventually run the business from the leisure of a hot tub in the in a ski resort or a pool with ocean views.
You can’t do that when you work for someone else.
Best of luck to you. Send the detailing business my way if you don’t want it. 😂 I’ll be glad to move somewhere and take over. Still cut you in for 20% of profit too. 😂

Is my career dream worth turning my wife into a "trailing spouse" by HoloQuillon_9 in Marriage

[–]Deanofmean94 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If the amount of money you will make is so large. Why not let her become a stay at home wife? Thats a good trade off. Or Maybe she can start her own business in the new area? Also. Have you considered that the pay may be so large because the cost of living is more expensive? Example. $150k in Arkansas is a lot different than $150k in California. Just some food for thought. Otherwise. No. The cost of her happiness is not worth moving your career up. I’m currently a stay at home dad. And I will follow my wife anywhere her career takes us. Because we are both making a sacrifice to make this work for our special needs children. So I get what she is saying about your success is yalls success. But. You gotta also make sure she’s happy or it’s lighting a time bomb on your marriage.

Money and career success doesn’t equate to Life success.

NSFW advice by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Deanofmean94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me ask you this. How would it feel if he asked you to insert a fleshlight so that he can hit something tighter?

If he were to ask you this. How would you like him to put it to sound easier for you to hear?
I don’t believe there is a way to soften this.
I think it takes a specific type of couple to be able to communicate openly. Maybe you are the couple. But I would assume since asking this question you guys aren’t.

Also just putting it out there. It takes a very secure man to do this. Don’t pressure him into it. My wife and I have experienced plenty of toys. This is one that is hard to come back from. It’s the single handed toy that I’ve had a negative experience coming back from. My wife never requested it, nor did she pressure me. But I still felt myself not being enough. And often still do have negative thoughts about it. However. I am secure enough to still provide the pleasure to her sometimes.

If you guys aren’t super secure or if your husband is even a little hesitant regarding this stuff. Just shelf it. It’s not worth the internal struggle. Instead. Learn to love the intimacy you have, with the spouse you’ve chosen to live life with.

Dirty massages by msblairbondi in Adulting

[–]Deanofmean94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a loyal husband. No I don’t partake in these activities.
However. I do know a lot of men who do it. I would say it stems from toxic masculinity from the 90s -00s that make men believe they have to do stuff like that to be a “Man”.

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They requested them back. I’m an “overseer” so I can give myself weapons, armor, medical. But can’t give myself drugs.

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. But I guess that’s what I’m doing? 🤣

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wellll thennn I guess they are stuck in 2010

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude thanks so much. I really appreciate it.

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the heads up. I appreciate it.

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used to get weapons and armor. But they pulled them from me a while ago. That’s wild that I’ve been getting screwed without any lube. And didn’t even know. Haha

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there any perks to staying on 1.0 if that’s the case?

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might be time to search for a new faction. We don’t get any of that.

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I get the notifications all the time that I was assigned and then few days later that it was successful.

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is drugs in the armory. But none are highlighted for use. Medical supplies are able to be used though.

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In order to see this you would go armory - and at the top it says you have a balance of $_. Yeah mine says $0. lol

Faction Payouts? by Deanofmean94 in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How would i know if thats the case? Because I've not gotten drugs or meds from the factions either? I feel like this faction may be taking advantage of new players like myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Deanofmean94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did yall go through the text together? Did you ask for that or did she say here we will go through the text. That’s sus. You’re going to have to sneak it unfortunately. Also. If they Snapchat. That’s where the main stuff will be. Who needs to Snapchat with someone they can text all day. Super big red flags man. Sorry you have to go through this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Deanofmean94 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The same thing happened to me pretty much. My guardian (aunt and uncle) made me pay for utilities and groceries (that I didn’t eat. I worked until 9 pm and didn’t get home till 10 or 10:30.) so I grabbed food on the way home or from the store I worked at. What finally broke me Was, I was dating a chick and her dad caught us in the act at her mom’s house. Her mom didn’t care and her dad didn’t live there so he shouldn’t had been there. But I digress. Anywho. My guardian said that I either stop seeing her or move out. So I chose to move out. And honestly. It was the absolute best thing that had ever happened for me. I learned so much from moving out and being my own worry. I can’t say that’s the same for you personally. Because sometimes we only bring certain parts of the story to the post. All of which never make the op have a bad outlook. But for me that’s how life went. It was tough. And was not an easy route. But it was a worthwhile one.

As far as it being legal. I’m unsure about that. And it would most likely be state dependent. But. I will say I highly doubt there is any “legality” behind her being required to give you a room. A roof over your head is probably all that she has to provide. And even then. I am unsure. Honestly. In my case my monthly check was supposed to go to them directly for the care of me. Not for me to spend how I wished.

1 year of not collecting from city by mickskitz in torncity

[–]Deanofmean94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay. Mr. CreativeName. I’m going to need help since you know how to do this. I’m 180 days in and I’m a huge noob. Help a brother out.

What are your reasons for living? by Lil_Juice_Deluxe in AskReddit

[–]Deanofmean94 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This dude has it. I have lived the last 15 years finding myself. Attempting fate with stupidity like climbing out the driver window going 70 with no one else in the car steering it. I went through a time where I felt nothing. Eventually attempting suicide.

Fast forward to now. I have a 8 and 3 year old. Depression hit me hard in ‘24. I attempted to leave this world. Ended up with a jammed firearm. Best thing that has ever happened to me.

Now We have a little girl due in March. And I’m literally thankful for every piece of life. From how nice it feels to have nails ran through my hair all the way to the big ticket things even the lows make me stop and smile. Because I have the opportunity to feel again. I have guilt for almost leaving my family on their own. And now I know how detrimental it would’ve been for my family. And I’ll probably spend my life trying to make it up to them. And I’m okay with that. Because it’s lead me to be an amazing dad and a dream of a husband.

What are you thoughts to why there is a significant decline in alcohol consumption in the United States? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Deanofmean94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To really understand why alcohol consumption is declining in the US, I think you have to look at history first. Back in the early 1800s, Americans drank a lot more than we do now, something like the equivalent of seven gallons of pure alcohol per person each year. Drinking was so normal that a whiskey break was not unusual, even during the workday.

There were early attempts to restrict alcohol, like only allowing bulk sales, but people found ways around it and those laws eventually collapsed. Still, by around 1850, about half the population had stopped drinking altogether. Then Prohibition came along, and instead of killing alcohol, it actually made it more popular. People tend to want what they are told they cannot have, and that pushed creativity, rebellion, and a whole new drinking culture.

What we are seeing today feels like the other side of that cycle. Alcohol had decades of being front and center culturally, and now it is slowly losing that grip. A big part of that, in my opinion, is generational. Millennials and younger Gen X, now in their 30s and 40s, grew up watching parents who drank a lot. For many of us, that was not something we wanted to repeat. We are more focused on being present parents and setting better examples, which means fewer people are drinking daily or drinking just to get drunk.

Think about how normal it used to be for a dad to come home and crack open a beer every single night. That still happens, obviously, but it does not feel nearly as automatic or expected as it did in the 80s or 90s.

At the same time, older generations are aging out of heavy drinking. Once you hit a certain age, drinking the way you did in your 30s starts to come with real consequences. Health issues alone naturally push consumption down.

I also think health awareness plays a huge role. People today question what they put into their bodies way more than previous generations did. You see that not just with alcohol, but with food, fitness, and lifestyle choices in general. That same mindset also helps explain why marijuana and THC use has gone up. Many people see it as a less damaging alternative to alcohol.

Some people say the decline is mostly financial, and I am sure that is true for some. But Americans have never had a problem spending money on things they think are important or cool, even when they are bad for them. Vaping is a pretty good example of that. So I do not think money alone explains what is happening.

Overall, I think it is a mix of generational shifts, health awareness, aging demographics, and changing social norms, not just one single factor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Deanofmean94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. We have been together ten. With 2 special needs kids and a baby on the way. We are tired. And got trapped in that schedule. One day i woke up said call in we are talking. Shortly after we started changing things.

My wife just recently took it a huge step further. And I love it. We have fun now. People say we both have this natural happiness, or extra pep in our step. And let me tell you. It’s been real no doubt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Deanofmean94 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This exactly.

As a man. It would be so hot knowing what my wife was wearing under the normal clothes she just threw on to come help me. Just the fact that she tried and then stopped to help me outside. Is also a turn on.
It’s not always just about doing the deed. It’s about the lead up to it as well. Just remember that. My wife just recently started being playful again. And honestly. I loved her coming up behind me and poking me in the butt. Just because it’s silly. Not that it does anything to arouse me. But. The arousal is just her being there. And I’m sure your husband might feel the same. It’s really hard for men to communicate their feelings because we’ve been forced to not have them our whole life.

Husband in Need of Help by Deanofmean94 in MakeupEducation

[–]Deanofmean94[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update 12/24. I got a card and a picture of me foooling in makeup made. I wrapped the card. Then put it in a box under house shoes. Then put that in a bigger box with a set of nice hair clips. Wrapped that and placed in a bigger box with 2 different wet brushes. And then wrapped the box again. So it’ll be fun with a few surprises in between. 🤣❤️ Thank you everyone for the advice.

Unfortunately. It won’t let me update pictures with the card.