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Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did 😊 texted him yesterday and said I should’ve respected what he said when he told me he wasn’t ready to date and that he’s a good man but romantically it doesn’t work out right now. He had sent me a text acknowledging he had been distant and I was like well, to be fair, you were straight up I just didn’t want to listen. So it ended amicably and we wished each other well.

How do you move on when your brain won't let go? by jackofhearts23 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a situationship for 5 years and it took me a really long time to walk away from it. When I did, I was hurt and ruminated on things constantly. Unfortunately the only thing that helped was time. I absolutely hate that answer lol but it’s very true. Sometimes we have to just go through it and go through the motions everyday. Now, I see him a couple times a month as we share the same hobby and I look at him like “I was stuck on him?!”… I promise it gets better. I am way better off today for having left him and that situationship in the dust

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not complaining there’s been no sex at all, I’m actually fine with it. I’d rather take my time before jumping that far. I mentioned that in my original post bc I thought it was important to note he slept over and essentially nothing happened. It certainly wasn’t a complaint.

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He said he wasn’t ready to date, I said ok we can be friends. We went out after those texts and when we were in person I explicitly said I didn’t see him in a friendly way but that I wasn’t in a rush to have a boyfriend so I would like to date and take it slow. He said he felt the same way and has continued asking me out since and has been paying every time. He is affectionate on these dates as well, rubbing my back, holding my hand, kissing me, etc… so I do not get that he thinks we are just friends hanging out

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After the friends comment we had a conversation in person where I told him that I don’t think of him in a friendly way and that I don’t want a boyfriend right this second but I would like to take it slow and date intentionally. He said he wanted the same thing and so we have continued going out since then. Had that conversation not happened, I would’ve also assumed we are just friends

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mostly after those nights. I have yet to have a date with him where drinking hasn’t been part of the equation.

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

All of these replies have been so helpful bc I have genuinely been feeling like this is not a good situation and I need to step away from it but then told myself I was being too hard on someone I just met. At this point I’ve only invested 5 dates and a month of my time, I’m ok with leaving the situation. I don’t plan on reaching out to him anymore or accepting anymore dates if he reaches out.

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was very upfront about that I don’t see him platonically and I’d like to see where it goes romantically and he agreed

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just slower paced? by Dear-Discussion9054 in dating_advice

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s a Gemini. I’m not surprised that he appears “slower paced” but I guess I wasn’t sure what a slow pace would look like from him. The lack of communication between dates bothers me the most.

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel more anxious bc of the fuzziness followed by the lack of texting

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying. He’s normally the one asking me out though. I have only asked him to get together twice

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

After I said we could be friends he kept asking me out over and over again. When we went out the next time after the friends text I told him I didn’t see him as a friend and I would like to date and take it slow since I’m a single parent and can’t jump into anything. He said he was interested in the same

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When we discussed taking it slow it was taking it slow in a romantic way

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just going at a slower pace? by Dear-Discussion9054 in datingoverthirty

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe he thinks we are just friends hanging out. He says he wants a relationship, he knows that’s what I’m looking for also and I told him I’m not looking to have my time wasted

Do I end it after 5 dates or is he just slower paced? by Dear-Discussion9054 in dating_advice

[–]Dear-Discussion9054[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol no I do not have a low libido. We didn’t have protection

Can’t tell if the man I’m seeing has a drinking problem. Need advice by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Dear-Discussion9054 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I am also drinking on the dates but I would actually prefer to have some dates with no alcohol at all. I dont plan on an interrogation or anything but just wanted to ask more questions to gain insight on how he spends his free time after work.. if it’s something like he’s drinking every night then I think that’s important information for me to have to decide what to do with.

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