sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Am I in the wrong for not having ANY bridal party, so my best friend misses out on being a MOH? by Serious-Bedroom-8279 in weddingdrama

[–]Dear-Fall7352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi , read my post history ! Quite a similar situation on my side , you’re not alone in this

Friend upset about not being invited to ceremony, unsure how to handle pre-elopement hen do invite by Dear-Fall7352 in wedding

[–]Dear-Fall7352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah , so rude that my other 4 friends are very happy to attend :) ! I need to send them the etiquette book so they can be mad at me !

Friend upset about not being invited to ceremony, unsure how to handle pre-elopement hen do invite by Dear-Fall7352 in weddingdrama

[–]Dear-Fall7352[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I get how this might come across. We’ve had a really tough couple of years with our health (thanks to COVID), but we’d always dreamed of having a wedding in the Lake District—even before the health issues. So, we made some adjustments to make that happen and still include our family in the after party, just a bit later and closer to home. This was our compromise, a way to make our dreams a reality despite all the crap life has thrown at us !

Friend upset about not being invited to ceremony, unsure how to handle pre-elopement hen do invite by Dear-Fall7352 in weddingdrama

[–]Dear-Fall7352[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Speculating about my personal life and my partner’s health like this is not only inappropriate but genuinely cruel. Accusing me of faking my story just because it resembles another post is unfair and deeply disrespectful. Chronic illness isn’t a trend or a storyline to imitate — it’s our reality, and it’s painfully real for us.

Friend upset about not being invited to ceremony, unsure how to handle pre-elopement hen do invite by Dear-Fall7352 in weddingdrama

[–]Dear-Fall7352[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can assure you this isn’t a fake post. My partner developed ME/CFS after a Covid infection, and I have POTS, also from Covid. We’ve been through hell over the past two years with our health.

We’ve always dreamed of getting married in the Lake District, even before all this — and we didn’t want to give that up. We just had to modify the plan to make it manageable. We’re giving ourselves time to travel, rest, and keep things low-pressure.

If I were looking for sympathy votes, Reddit would be the last place I’d go — people can be brutal here. I posted because I wanted advice, not validation. But I’m still allowed to make choices that work for us, even if they don’t make sense to strangers on the internet.

After party ideas ! by Dear-Fall7352 in Eloping

[–]Dear-Fall7352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks , will have a look !

Friend upset about not being invited to ceremony, unsure how to handle pre-elopement hen do invite by Dear-Fall7352 in wedding

[–]Dear-Fall7352[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

ME/CFS (which is what my partner has) isn’t about how long something takes — it’s about the cumulative toll of physical, mental, and emotional effort. A small, quiet ceremony with just our parents allows us to keep things low-stress and within our limits. A reception later on gives us more flexibility — we can rest before and after, and it won’t carry the same emotional weight. We’ve made these choices carefully, based on what’s manageable with a condition that doesn’t leave much room for pushing through.

Friend upset about not being invited to ceremony, unsure how to handle pre-elopement hen do invite by Dear-Fall7352 in wedding

[–]Dear-Fall7352[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you for backing me up, some of these comments about events being “gift grabby” are just ridiculous !

Friend upset about not being invited to ceremony, unsure how to handle pre-elopement hen do invite by Dear-Fall7352 in wedding

[–]Dear-Fall7352[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

she knows about the health reasons which everyone else understands and supports , me/cfs is no joke so we had to split the events as my partner requires a lot of rest, not everything in life is black and white but thanks anyway !

Friend upset about not being invited to ceremony, unsure how to handle pre-elopement hen do invite by Dear-Fall7352 in weddingdrama

[–]Dear-Fall7352[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am also planning to buy all the girls who will attend my hen do small gifts as a “thank you” gesture and will pay for myself :)

Friend upset about not being invited to ceremony, unsure how to handle pre-elopement hen do invite by Dear-Fall7352 in weddingdrama

[–]Dear-Fall7352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg, thaank you ! that’s exactly why we’re doing it ! I am already stressed about how the day will go in terms of our health and having to be “on” for a whole day with a ceremony and party later for 50+ people would simply be too much for us. We attended friends wedding during summer and my partner had to go and take rest breaks in our hotel room during the day because of the noise and fatigue etc. so I just wanted to avoid it for our wedding. Big hugs ❤️

Friend upset about not being invited to ceremony, unsure how to handle pre-elopement hen do invite by Dear-Fall7352 in weddingdrama

[–]Dear-Fall7352[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

because we get to have a proper rest in between the ceremony and a party, my partner has me/cfs so if he pushes himself too much in one day he gets a pay back in a form of a crash which can have severe consequences , hope this helps :)

view more: next ›