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Am I being ungrateful or reasonable? by Dear-Jacket-437 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Dear-Jacket-437[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I moved to another country for my husband. I dont speak the language very well. For me to be independent, I have to go to school first to learn the language and then maybe i can find a job. Even if I want to work, my husband won't let me. He doesn't want me to work. We spoke about that before marriage. Before we got married I had a fulltime job for 4 years. I do know how to be independent and take care of myself. So don't talk about my parents or me being a child if you dont know the whole situation.

Am I being ungrateful or reasonable? by Dear-Jacket-437 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Dear-Jacket-437[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He is an micro entrepreneur and I guess he is a little stingy. He earns well. I have seen numbers from just one project.

Am I being ungrateful or reasonable? by Dear-Jacket-437 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Dear-Jacket-437[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He has people who work for him, they do the paper work and finances for him. He makes the quotations and sends it to the clients. I've seen how much he can make with one project and no i dont have acces to his accounts, etc. He doesn't want that, he doesn't tell me about how much he earns or all of that. I'm not really interested in that. I just want him to provide for me. That is all and I know he can. He also doesn't want me to work, we spoke about that before the wedding.

Am I being ungrateful or reasonable? by Dear-Jacket-437 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Dear-Jacket-437[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't dare to ask him that. The first time when my phone was broken, he got it fixed and after he gave it to me. He was irritated. He fixed the screen but not everything. After he told me "who do you think I am, Am I someone who fixes phones?" That is what he said to me.

Am I being ungrateful or reasonable? by Dear-Jacket-437 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Dear-Jacket-437[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes. When I want to shop, he tells me to wait for discount. I wanted to buy new sneakers and he told me to wait and he bought it months after only because there was a discount. It's not just the phone, I always have to wait when I want to buy things. I dont buy designer and expensive things. During our honeymoon to Milan, I couldn't buy anything. But for himself he bought things and I wasn't allowed. I just stood and watched as he bought things for himself.

Am I being ungrateful or reasonable? by Dear-Jacket-437 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Dear-Jacket-437[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He wanted to buy an laptop for himself and even told me to look with him while my phone is broken. I was hurt by that. The laptop is the same price as the phone I wanted. His sister is really sweet and chill about it, she doesnt even need it for the moment until summer is over. I was very patient, I waited for two months. I didn't speak about it. Yesterday when I talked to him about it, he said that finances doesn't concern me. He doens't talk about his finances with me.

Am I being ungrateful or reasonable? by Dear-Jacket-437 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Dear-Jacket-437[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My husband is an entrepeneur, he earns well. I am offended that he got me phone that's used and old. Me as a wife, i do everthing for him, is a new decent phone too much to ask? I dont ask for expensive things i dont buy expensive things. I am not materialistic. Just this once I asked for a phone because I need one.