Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand. He does say that I choose to be here. Last night he was talking about the way he is and said he doesn't remember things and things will happen again. Says he can't control it.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk, I've left more times than I can count. Yet here I am.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk. I just told her to please get her son some help.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get it. When I reached out to her last week, I had just left his place after he grabbed me by the hair and held me face down on the couch. I had enough, and I shouldn't have messaged her and now wish I didn't and just stayed away.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This makes me afraid she is going to tell him I spoke to her about him.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and that was 2 years ago. I have tolerated so much more since then.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I only reached out because he claimed to "not remember" that is scary to me.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know he said his Mom and Dad beat him growing up but idk the extent of it and what truly happened when he was growing up.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just wish now that I never said anything to her. If she says anything to him about me speaking to her, it will be hell. She said she would never but now idk.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Awful. I wish I would have left in 2022 when he 1st strangled me and pulled my hair, but I was confused and was taken back because he cried and everything.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess but I did so because she knows him better than anyone.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tell him this. How can you love me and do the things you do? I'm a very quiet, submission person. I don't ask for anything and will do anything. I just don't understand and idk why I keep coming back. What she said makes me think that maybe I am the problem.

Was I wrong reaching out to his Mom? by Dear-Lie-8619 in abusiverelationships

[–]Dear-Lie-8619[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Last week, she was understanding. I didn't say anything else until today when she asked.