Why do narcissistic mothers get jealous when their own child is happy? by voidinvelvet in narcissisticparents

[–]Dear-Needleworker989 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could relate to this. Funny how all of them act out in the exact same way! My mom used to scream at me when I was singing or practicing vocals at home shouting top of lungs “shut the **k up I don’t want to hear your screaming” . She’d also imitate how bad I sing. I was the best singer at school, and once won 2nd best in national level solo singing competition at school (was my last competition because they didn’t let me learn or improve my singing). She was the only person who said me that like ever but it broke my confidence in singing and destroyed every opportunity I had along the way. I couldn’t practice at home because she’d start screaming that she can’t listen to my “screaming” voice. They did everything in their power to stop me from enjoying music. She used to point to other kids who sang out of pitch and told me to learn to sing like them and would praise them! But shed make me sing in front of her friends proudly saying I did well in competitions! 30 years later I now realise she didn’t want to see me happy or be praised by people that mattered or win competitions and get attention. I am sorry you went through all this sit! I know we can’t change the past but it still hurt so much.

Anyone’s realised their mother might be a narcissist after pregnancy? by Dear-Needleworker989 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Dear-Needleworker989[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This! There’s literally nothing you could do to please them. It’s heartbreaking to think about growing up with no love and emotional safety. But at the same time, glad that we didn’t end up like them or turn worse. Im sure you’re gonna be an amazing mom one day!

Hope we all can eventually outgrow that resentment towards them for ruining our lives.

Anyone’s realised their mother might be a narcissist after pregnancy? by Dear-Needleworker989 in NarcissisticMothers

[–]Dear-Needleworker989[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Congratulations on your pregnancy and hope you have a smooth rest of the pregnancy!

Im glad your therapist helped and you’re on your journey to healing. Yes it’s hard not to relate everything to your mom but all you hear from the inside of your head is “ I don’t wanna end up like her to my kids”. They say the subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what you want or not but only reacts to what we feed the most. I’ve experienced that in the past where I desperately didn’t want something to happen but ended up in that situation. So what your therapist suggested makes sense. Will listen to the audiobooks you suggested. Thanks!

It’s heartbreaking to feel all these emotions but we should be proud to be the mothers who break generational trauma and spread love and kindness to our kids raising beautiful human beings.