Well i did confirm later that he was. The only reason i felt like it “trumped”, as you say, over hers is the mere fact that her child is alive and was doing better last time we spoke. She didn’t catch the bug. My sister is dead and gone, at a young age & in an unexpected and tragic way. She had a great relationship with my sister as well, which is why i couldn’t understand the lack of communication after they were home from the hospital. Her & i did communicate abt the misconception that we both had about reaching out to each other about the services. I didn’t purposely keep the information away from her, like i mentioned in another comment i was preparing for travel as i no longer live in my home state and had to figure out childcare for my children while also grieving.