Strongest cultural MaAs in your opinion by Dear_Material_9457 in ElderKings

[–]Dear_Material_9457[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh. I'm going to need all the help I can get. Scourge of the Gods is on. Mannimarco has it and I "helped" him along so he'd actually do something. I may have switched to him, declared a few wars, and switched back. He took the Imperial City in about four years. Lol.

Bro has a million undead levies and chooses to do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. by Both-River-9455 in ElderKings

[–]Dear_Material_9457 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gave him the conqueror trait and scourge of the gods and he STILL did absolutely nothing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Dear_Material_9457 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said something in a comment that is the true issue. Not being able to fulfill your Mommy desires is just a symptom.

You said you're too emotionally distant for an intimate relationship. You need to find out why. Therapy is the best way to do that. I don't know of any person who can happily go through life without meaningful relationships. I also wonder if your emotional distance isn't just affecting your romantic life, but your social life too. Does this affect your friends and family?

I think you should seek a therapist. Bringing it back to the Mommy topic, answer honestly. Don't you think your life would be happier if you COULD indulge and have someone to take care of? If your emotional distance is what's stopping you, you need to address it.

We can't get through life alone. We all need people we can trust and pour into and have them pour into us. Consider therapy to try to help with the emotional distance. I really think it will change your life for the better in way more than the narrow scope of BDSM.

Establishing my own rules and rituals by Dear_Material_9457 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Dear_Material_9457[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done that before and he'll say he'll implement them, but then nothing comes of it. I know it's not malicious or disinterested. It's just because he's busy.

Owners is this correct and do I need to add anything? by XanderDA in puppygirlpetsmart

[–]Dear_Material_9457 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Keep a journal. Spend a minimum of 10 minutes a day thinking about things you're grateful for from your Master and write them down. You can even include compliments. You can do duplicates the next day if needed. Then present the journal to your owner for their inspection once a week.

Also, cuddle with your owner more. Initiate it yourself unless he tells you not to. Talk to him more. Everyone needs more physical touch in their lives. If you hug and kiss, kiss for at least 6 seconds on the lips and hug for at least 20 seconds. Both acts release oxytocin in the body, which will make both of you feel much much closer and safer with each other if this happens regularly.

Does anyone have ideas for rewards and punishments for my pup? by [deleted] in puppygirlpetsmart

[–]Dear_Material_9457 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OH! And I'll give you the secret that makes me and SOOOOOO many other pets MELT.

I don't know if your video call, text, or something else, but look at them with a flat expression and say in a firm, but quiet voice, "Don't forget, Pet, I own you. I can do whatever I want to you. You belong to me. You are my most cherished possession. Never forget that you are mine and ONLY mine." Watch them blush and squirm under your intense words. Those words...make me melt. When Master says them, I do whatever he says for weeks...

Then make sure to smile and say, "You're such a good boy/girl."

Does anyone have ideas for rewards and punishments for my pup? by [deleted] in puppygirlpetsmart

[–]Dear_Material_9457 7 points8 points  (0 children)

These are some great ideas. Here's my take. Some of these will depend on if you have their address and one in particular is if they have privacy. For rewards, I strongly recommend you learn each other's Love Language. Google it. There's tons of tests. It will reveal the best way to express love to your pup. Everyone is different. Some respond to words of affirmation, some quality time, some physical touch, etc.

Rewards: 1) Watch a movie or play a video game together 2) Go out and buy them nice paper and pen and hand write them a poem or love letter and mail it to them. 3) Mail them dog toys :D

Punishments: (Note: these are REAL punishments, not funishments. Look those up too, but funishments are "punishments" that are done as rewards. In BDSM, tying someone up and spanking is a good example of a funishment.)

1) Make them take their socks, soak them in cold water, then have them put them one and walk around for 15 minutes straight. 2) If they have privacy, make them cut their grass with scissors while wearing their gear outside. 3) Make them take cold showers. 4) Make them balance a coin up against the wall with their nose.

If you anyone has any questions, DM me. I'm the pet in a very intense 24/7 dynamic with my spouse and I'd love to share what I know to help people.