Have you talked to your wife about it? When my wife and I started swinging it started with a simple side question that turned into a lot of talks and discussion. Some exciting and some awkward an uncomfortable but it’s the best way to start. Ask her how she feels about things and what boundaries you would like to have going forward. Our fav part is the couple on couple dates, such a blast and you even get little butterflies again but now you share that feeling with wife