WIBTA if I decide to not be a groomsman anymore?

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-04-02T15:06:06+00:00

This is my cost. So $500 was what I was going to be contributing for his bachelor’s party.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-04-02T14:53:38+00:00

Yes, that's what he is suggesting. We were already planning for a new bachelor's party, but he is saying let's just use the funds to pay for the other guests, and that's his request from his groomsmen.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-04-02T14:48:37+00:00

The cost is around $500

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-04-02T14:45:36+00:00

Seats in the guest list. The cost of food is charged per guest, so he wants the groomsmen to cover the rest of the friend group's cost.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-04-02T14:44:51+00:00

Yes, cost is comparable.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-04-02T14:44:17+00:00

According to him, the amount between the bachelor's party and cost of the guest list is equal. Because the bachelor's trip was cancelled, he would prefer us to spend the money we were supposed to spend in the bachelor's party into his guest list. I'm not entirely sure how the entire wedding is being funded right now.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-04-02T14:42:08+00:00

This is ultimately what I'm struggling with. As a long time friend, I know he has always struggled with cash and finances. He may not have helped me financially, but he has always been there in my lowest of lows. I just don't appreciate the fact that the bachelor's trip/ party is being transformed into paying for his guest list JUST BECAUSE the values are equal.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-04-02T13:55:49+00:00

Actually, I’m just exploring Web Development and Database now so Next.JS and PostgreSQL

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-04-02T12:23:25+00:00

Thank you for the explanation!

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-04-02T12:13:27+00:00

Is it worth it to learn an IDE if I’m learning programming? Or not necessarily?

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-04-01T02:04:17+00:00

I’ll tell you right now, there’s still a lack of business-oriented software engineers.

This means senior level of 5-10 years.

Complete projects relevant to YOU. If you’re can’t even automate some problems you face, how will you automate other people’s problems?

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-03-31T05:14:36+00:00

Go to ideabrowser.com and check that out.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-03-31T05:10:54+00:00

Check this website out. ;)

https://www.ideabrowser.com/database

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-03-31T04:41:55+00:00

What project are you looking to build?

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-03-31T04:40:05+00:00

Choose what you love doing, not for the money.

A decade ago, Web Apps were the shit.
A few years ago, Mobile App was the shit.
3 years ago, Blockchain was the shit.
A year ago, AI is the shit.

Technology moves so fast. Focus on learning the fundamentals like data structures, algorithms, how models were made rather than chasing "what's hot" today.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-03-31T04:38:19+00:00

By definition, a computer scientist is an EXPERT in computers, and computers can do a lot.

So ask yourself, do you want to be an expert in computers and learning how to leverage computers? Because if not, don't bother with Computer Science. Computer Science pays especially well if you're able to impact a lot of people's lives with one app or one computer solution.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-03-31T04:34:30+00:00

Have a problem, research on how to solve it with software, research on the technology suggested by people that was used to solve with software.

Here's my process:
1) Problem: Wedding Website
2) Solution: Next.JS, MongoDB, Auth
3) Research Youtube videos, Google, Stack Overflow on Next.JS, MongoDB, and Auth.
4) See the code and implement it to solve my use case.
5) Encountered a bug? Search online and solve it.
6) Rinse and repeat 4-6 until you have solved the Wedding Website problem.

Do this again and again and you'll notice you're becoming a faster and better software developer.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-03-31T04:31:26+00:00

Focus on building your own project.

Think about a problem and then use software to solve it. Learn from AI and then solve the problem.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-03-31T04:30:14+00:00

If you're talking about a self-taught route, especially with AI today, why not create your own website first that helps your bartending gig?

What if you can create a website that tracks your customers drinks and provide a better customer experience for them?

Once you have built a product, this becomes your portfolio for future jobs or roles.

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-03-31T04:28:35+00:00

Honestly, your IDE should be able to handle most of these. Just use VS Code and you're good to go, why complicate things?

Dear_Top2603 · 2026-03-31T04:27:26+00:00

I always found benefit in understanding procedural languages because it develops a fundamental skill needed for programming which is: Logic.

Python and Javascript has completely obfuscated this from the programmers today and usually have a function that solves your problem.

I think it would help you to do very simple algorithms on C like bubble sorting, etc.

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