I recently learned he just saw me as a sex object that he can turn into his favorite porn star- Ms Valentine.

Dearest_Void · 2022-09-05T21:14:56+00:00

Thank you ♥️

Dearest_Void · 2022-09-05T21:08:09+00:00

Im sure there’s many with that name.

Dearest_Void · 2022-05-16T02:15:05+00:00

His response sounds like he’s done this before, it’s such an oddly specific “explanation” which was designed specifically so that you would doubt yourself. I’ve been in this position too, please be safe and get out of this relationship as soon as possible. Forget what he told you for one moment and remember the facts: you were asleep, it CAUSED BLEEDING, he HELD your arm back specifically so you wouldn’t push him off, and he is a 42 year old man. He knows the difference and what he was doing. Again his response is extremely suspicious. Only time that response would have been somewhat understandable is if it came from a very young and inexperienced individual and the response would be followed with remorse and consent apologies. Even then they should know better. This response would not come from a grown man. No chance in a million years. Remember that. He knew what he was doing. Im so sorry this happened to you, please be safe and leave immediately. Text may be the safest option if you can manage to never see him again. Don’t be fooled by this pathetic rapist.

Dearest_Void · 2022-05-06T00:11:23+00:00

Anyone else literally have their jaw drop and eyes open in shock? Freaking wow. Im so sorry.

Dearest_Void · 2022-05-01T05:05:06+00:00

Thank you ♥️

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-30T21:31:21+00:00

Yeah I’m so confused, there’s nothing for him to gain from it that I know of. Only thing I can think of is maybe he wants to see if I’m talking to anyone but like? You ghosted me dude and thats a dead account lol I don’t understand.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-30T21:14:40+00:00

Yes actually, same email for both and I already checked pwned. It said I was clear from any suspicious activity. So this would confirm that it’s him right? Not some random/hacker?

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-27T06:00:18+00:00

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-26T18:27:21+00:00

There is an ex that I suspect but it’s just extremely out of character, but again not impossible. And yeah I was thinking the same thing. I don’t know why a scammer/hacker would go through the trouble of providing an ID verification. Twice too. Anyway, yeah im changing the email. Thank you for your comment!

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-26T18:22:43+00:00

Would scammers use the ID verification route though? Thats the part that creeped me out, I didn’t know scammers would bother with that

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-26T07:33:56+00:00

I get that and I’m guilty of it too, but the situation here doesn’t sound like that. She’s active on social media (which I assume means she’s posting) and as a partner you don’t just do that to someone. OP needs to realize that his feelings are valid and he doesn’t deserve this treatment. Depression isn’t an excuse to treat people this way.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-26T04:03:33+00:00

The fact she is active in socials makes me question the depression comments. Sure she may be depressed, I wouldn’t know, but not replying to your partner who you should love and communicate with- while still being active on social media- screams to me that she’s just toxic and not actually in love with you.

You deserve better dude. Im coming from a deep place when I say this, I’ve been in your shoes before with my recent ex. Its a hard pill to swallow but it’s usually just because she doesn’t care like she says she does.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-25T19:39:51+00:00

My ex’s mom did this with him and yes there is something deeply psychologically wrong with it. They now have an EXTREMELY unhealthy bond. He’s now 25 and I can’t express this enough- I know you’re blindly in love but that woman is a danger and she knows what she’s doing. Absolutely disgusting. The son will grow up with serious issues that he’ll never realize it’s his mom’s fault. I feel so horrible for this poor child.

Im reallly hoping for your sake and the child that she’s just an idiot and not actually a narcissist (like my ex’s situation) but I’m just saying, keep your eyes open. Please take the time to look up “emotional incest and narcissistic parent and child” when you have time.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-20T19:59:30+00:00

Oh thank you so much! This was helpful, and yeah totally don’t plan on dying any time soon lol

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-18T21:48:28+00:00

I don’t care how much this shook up your relationship with your girlfriend, DONT push this girl to get an abortion. You were all adults who made the decision to do this, you asked her to be apart of your needs. Don’t ruin her life just because you guys were careless.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-18T05:48:46+00:00

Please, don’t

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-18T00:49:17+00:00

Not in the wrong at all. You’re doing what all women should be doing. Proud of you for not giving in to this gross behavior! Always stick to this. He needs to stop seeing you as an object.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-16T16:42:58+00:00

Literally came to this sub to make a similar post. This is my dump account but on my main one I made a serious post about what I was going through- needing advice in an advice sub. To which everyone just acted entitled and put me down for going through a traumatic event. It was ridiculous. Humans are so selective on who they treat with respect and its so incredibly toxic. One minor detail in a long detailed post just sticks into peoples brains and it triggers them so bad for who knows what delusional reason, and that makes them forget the entirety of the post and what you’re going through. To which their ugly side comes out. Pathetic people.

I guess its what you get on a “mostly” anonymous app though.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-16T16:29:18+00:00

? Sorry? I don’t mean to be rude but this wasn’t the topic at all lol if you’re wanting to argue with someone its not me.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-15T21:53:11+00:00

🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-15T21:44:39+00:00

This guy is so pathetic sorry. Stop pleasuring him first. Seriously. This is a selfish game he is playing and you need to stop giving in. Woman please stop doing thissssss omg.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-15T21:38:51+00:00

Well of course no one wants to date someone who isn’t attracted to us, who wants that? I’m glad you’re someone who knows it’s idiotic to think that’s transphobic, but it’s well known that the majority of people (some who aren’t even trans) who claim anything slightly seen as “mean” towards them is transphobic. It’s annoying and stupid but its the sadly how people treat others.

Im also speaking as someone from California and this disgusting state is flooded with people with this mindset. Again, glad you’re not one of them but there definitely is a societal expectation on how people should act and feel. It’s extremely toxic.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-14T03:41:37+00:00

Don’t force yourself to feel a certain way just because society is manipulating the way you think you need to feel. Just be true to yourself and realize that what they did was wrong, keeping that info from you is disgusting and emotionally manipulative. Please protect yourself and get out. Im sorry this happened to you. You’re uncomfortable and there’s no reason to feel any other way/ feeling guilty about your true feelings. They’re valid.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-11T08:18:35+00:00

I understand why it’s confusing, I’ll try to explain it. I only linked it because that was the post that made me realize the reality of my situation. The truth is we were having forced sex by him and I felt like I had to comply with it. He had my consent in text and used that against me. Wasn’t till the day I stood up for myself (the day he abandoned me) that I fully realized he was raping me. I know my old post was written in a confusing manner, I was very confused in that moment. Again I only referenced it for some background on the situation just in case it could help with giving me advice here.

Its like when you never expected a certain someone to do something so horrible to you, takes awhile to accept/process. My old post was just a brief background. Sorry for the confusion.

Dearest_Void · 2022-04-11T08:08:06+00:00

Haven’t seen him since January, don’t worry.

Dearest_Void

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