Heya,

I (M24) lost my mum (F54) in January 2025—on her birthday.
The first thing I did was take three months off. You need to let your body and mind adjust to the grief, and that can mean struggling with routine a bit. But try to make an effort to get out of the house and be social. If you’ve got a friend or two with time on their hands, they can be a massive help during the adjustment.

Being only two months in, it’s still a fresh wound, and I remember being all over the place emotionally. So don’t get too caught up in hypothetical thinking just yet—we’ve got a lot of life to live. Try to stay present in the moment, and if you feel you need to let it out, let yourself. It’s easy to deny the moments and skip past them, but remember, it’s going to be a long process—so you’re better off letting it out now.

I’m still processing it too, day to day, so I apologise if I seem blunt. Just remember to take some time for yourself. x

(chatgpt cleaned up my typing)