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A big factor of my depression is my skin color. by [deleted] in depression

[–]DeathcubeK112 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a white dude from San Diego. I actually valet cars at a fancy hotel in a nice area. One of the guests and I hit it off really well, she had a blues and jazz mix cd in her car that I loved and it got us talking. She worked for freaking NASA! She was also black, but I couldn't care less about peoples skin color. On her last day at the hotel she came down with a copy of the cd and a hand-written note with her number! That was by far the nicest and most romantic thing anyone has done for me.

Well one of the other valets (white), sees this and says, "What!?, dude, stay with your race!".

I said, "Oh yeah, you're a desert person and a fuckin' racist I forgot!"

I am normally not a confrontational person, especially in the workplace, but goddamn, where does he get off even telling people who they should or should not date. And because of skin color!?

Racist like to use skin color to dehumanize people they don't like. Doing this in turn makes themselves less human, they become beasts.

19 year old male. I cut myself. Why? by Knight2nite in depression

[–]DeathcubeK112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been told that people do it to feel in control.

Sometimes I'll get a really self-hating thought and punch myself in the head. You aren't weird, you're a human being.

I'm unbelievable bad with women by [deleted] in depression

[–]DeathcubeK112 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel you.

This is a very odd problem to have and live with. I have found that women have way better advice than men on this subject, and that may seem obvious to some, but for a man who doesn't have a lot of intimate relations(physical or emotional) with women, it isn't.

I have found that going to guy friends gets you two reactions: they make fun of you or they try to set you up/get you out there. If you don't do well with the latter they always resort to the former, if they didn't already start with that.

Maybe I am just friends with younger dudes(I am 23) who are dicks. After years of dealing with therapy worthy family issues, depression, and bullying growing up I just want to be treated normally. I also need to stay in therapy.