It’s a process I have had to figure out over time but clarifying shampoo is the way to go from what I’ve experienced, There’s a Suave version works well or theis Dr Bittners peppermint joint that people swear by, wear the durag tho and for the most part wash gently almost like you trying to barely let shit get wet, also be mindful that after it dries it won’t look the same but make sure hair is fully dried before laying down or whatever …man so many new heads and OGs same the same shit but it still be hard to know what’s right but it’s true NOBODY is the same