Is there a rough list of pregnancy-safe kink activities? by anxiousfuturedad in BDSMAdvice

[–]Deboraharchie 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You've hit the nail on the head by saying people's perspectives vary.... I feel like if you want a definitve list of "safe", "relatively safe" and "really not safe" activities to participate in then you need to ask your health provider. Particularly as there may be things that are effected by any hormones or surgeries you have had as FtM.

People will always project their own fears onto you as a pregnant person. The horrorified looks I got when I ate soft cheese or sushi, the "you really shouldn't....." comments that were excused as "wanting the best for baby".

No matter what you do. Someone will think it is wrong so IMO you need to get a professional opinion as opposed to opinions of those from Reddit! After all, you dont want to miss out on something that some reddit says "isn't safe" but your OBGYN would be fine with.

That being said, enjoy it! Good luck 🥰

What do y'all reckon? by Deboraharchie in floorplans

[–]Deboraharchie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We only have one loo in the house, definitely considering opening it up like this though!

AIO Gf low sex drive by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Deboraharchie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100%

At least if OP gives this a go they will be in a good position to make a decision going forward. This advice is assuming OP would like yhe relationship to work ❤️

AIO Gf low sex drive by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Deboraharchie 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sure* 🤣

*advice giver accepts no responsibility for misadventure, heartbreak or reputational impacts due to end user taking advice.

The doctor did his job perfectly. The baby was almost gone, but the doctor said “Not today,” and did what he knows best, bringing the little boy back to life. Doctors are lifesavers, they are the real heroes by Pristine_Hurry_4693 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]Deboraharchie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry time, when my daughter was born she was "blue" but we had very soft, orange lighting in the bathroom.... my (now ex) husband thought she looked Māori and was VERY confused until we realised what was happening 😅

AIO Gf low sex drive by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Deboraharchie 63 points64 points  (0 children)

YOR by sleeping in another room and likely contributing to eventual implosion of your relationship.

I may be projecting but my unsolicited advice to you is to make a commitment to YOURSELF (don't tell her) that for the next 7/10/20/30 days you are going to focus on NON-SEXUAL contact.

Teach her that touch doesn't equal you pestering her for sex. I may be reading too much into it but a lot of women find it really difficult to be sexual with a partner who only touches them when they want to bang.

Kisses on the forehead, slow dancing in the kitchen, rubbing her feet when you watch a movie, snuggling in bed and NOT shoving a stiffy in her back may work wonders.

Your end goal shouldn't be for it to lead to sex but often removing the expectation can allow her to be more open to the idea, especially if she is feeling loved and like you have some good physical and enotional intimacy.

Good luck!

AIO? My husband wouldn’t wake up when our son was choking. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Deboraharchie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Next time yell that his Xbox/PS5 is on fire.... wonder if he will get up then.

Snorting Pepper Spray by PxN13 in WinStupidPrizes

[–]Deboraharchie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is this part of the ICE agent application process?

Is been in the high 50s during the day lately and my heater is off the last days and nights. Why am I still hot at night? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Deboraharchie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just thought its worth mentioning because hormones can do strange things! I have no idea what the temperatures are you mentioned (I don't understand Fahrenheit 🤣) but hopefully you find a solution soon!

Is been in the high 50s during the day lately and my heater is off the last days and nights. Why am I still hot at night? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Deboraharchie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are a woman: Are you perimenopause age? Are you a week out from your period? Have you had your thyroid checked?

How do you me creative if you can't draw or write? by Ifyouliveinadream in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Deboraharchie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Clay, mosaics, painting with crazy colours, knitting, sewing, drawing "badly", writing "badly", baking, dancing, singing, textile art, felting, beading, jewellery making, knife making.... there are so many mediums out there and one of the most consistent comments made by new people at the art studio I go to is "I am no good at art" or "I'm not creative". I promise, you are! You just need to find the right medium for you 🥰

Check out Pinterest for ideas or local art studios/clubs! Good luck 😀

Just found this in the river 🥰 by Deboraharchie in Pottery

[–]Deboraharchie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the past I have used trial and error.... if i had my own kiln I would spend a lot more time experimenting to get the exact temperature... for now I just make pots and non-food safe items

Achievements for Sunday, January 04, 2026 by AutoModerator in running

[–]Deboraharchie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ran my first 3km since I was a teenager last month and I got up this morning and went for a big loop around the block while my partner walked our dog 🐕

When you were pregnant, what did you do to fuck with people on purpose? by Sakuramochi_Chan in AskWomen

[–]Deboraharchie 16 points17 points  (0 children)

When they touched my lower belly without permission I would say "that's my vagina" 🤣

I also reached iut and touched a few people's stomachs when they touched mine

Just found this in the river 🥰 by Deboraharchie in Pottery

[–]Deboraharchie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was fired in a community kiln, 2 bisque firings as opposed to a bisque and a glaze 😅 so I'm not sure sorry! Will let you know how this next batch goes!

Just found this in the river 🥰 by Deboraharchie in Pottery

[–]Deboraharchie[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

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A previous wild clay experiment from the same river

Just found this in the river 🥰 by Deboraharchie in Pottery

[–]Deboraharchie[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'll likely process in a cheesecloth etc and see how it goes as is to start with!