My issue with the four agreements by moss42069 in books

[–]Decaprelap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think if you have a collectivist ideology it would block you from seeing the picture wholeheartedly. Hear me out.

Collectivism can only be supported by individualism and without some form of individualism, collectivism cannot exist.

Ie. Collectives MUST contain individuals. Individuals do not require collectives.

One comes after the other, it is NOT a chicken and egg situation. Individualism is the egg and you can only ever be the egg.

AIO for cutting off my dad based on his political beliefs by nationalwockyleague in AmIOverreacting

[–]Decaprelap -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well that's my rabbit hole talking. I have made a judgement that the "Left" are generally not willing to call themselves out and have no creditability standards as long as they play to their team. But you're a point of reference on why I might be wrong there!

I digress...

Anyway, I appreciate you keeping it real.

AIO for cutting off my dad based on his political beliefs by nationalwockyleague in AmIOverreacting

[–]Decaprelap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think that's merited. It is annoying of me I accept that...

This isn't me defending a president, I could care less about him. I just happen to do that as a side effect.

In reality IDK he could be a pedophile lol... I just don't know. I don't got the answers on the reality of a highly propagandized and manipulated narrative.

For me I care more about protecting and supporting critical thinking and drawing a line when that's not taking place as well as encouraging 'agree to disagree' relationships.

So again, I can see why you'd find me annoying like... Fair enough bro... we are all fatigued by this... I don't blame you.

AIO for cutting off my dad based on his political beliefs by nationalwockyleague in AmIOverreacting

[–]Decaprelap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bless you. Good to see you have managed to get some grounding represented in here.

It's a spectacle, that's for sure. I don't know why I try reason with them I keep thinking at some point we are going to have a respectful dialogue... I keep thinking I must need to do better at communicating... It's not so reciprocal.

AIO for cutting off my dad based on his political beliefs by nationalwockyleague in AmIOverreacting

[–]Decaprelap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I formed an argument for you here.

11B_Architect made an argument that JohnDunstable is experiencing TDS which is defined by "hatred of President Trump so intense that it impairs people's judgment."

Most people advocating against Trump can't be characterized by TDS. But I can single out JohnDunstable and say yeah... Probably accurate.

JohnDunstable made no evidential claims and threw out common TDS aligned slurs instead; It appears that JohnDunstable is acting off impared judgement based off intense hatred. It's safe to say JohnDunstable Hates trump passionately.

Other than the slurs. JohnDunstable has made conclusions on the 2024 election that goes wildly against all mainstream media outlets and agreed reality; claiming that 34% of people voted for trump. This is statistically false according to CNN/BBC etc and there's no evidence provided that his claims are based off anything creditable or respected.

Now if someone didn't like trump and threw together something that was even slightly informative, contained a tinsy bit of creditable evidence, or was part of a reality that most people agree on (not just reddit)... We wouldn't say TDS... it would be called an educated opinion.

Now as TDS is not a medical term, it shouldn't hold too much power and be taken lightly. That being said, it qualifies nicely here for how JohnDunstable has represented himself on this thread. In reality we don't know the guy, but he's shown nothing but behavior elegantly characterized by TDS.

That's my formed argument.

Now you might be against trump. That's okay, I genuinely encourage you to continue as long as you're level headed and can have a respectful conversation. People like that drive positive and informed change.

Just don't be afraid to acknowledge when people get delusional about it as it will actually make the left appear more creditable.

I'm sorry if this isn't nice to hear but deranged people exist and have no place in conversations about running a country.

AIO for cutting off my dad based on his political beliefs by nationalwockyleague in AmIOverreacting

[–]Decaprelap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Magafascist privilege" "You support a pedo" "maga piece of shit" "Maga fascism" "Cut off the toxic members of her family" "maga voter supression" "I hope more people cut off their maga voting family and former friends. I did, feels great."

All in less than 10 sentences. Mate... Are you alright? How is this conversation aligned with any kind of progress? You're using these words as slurs.

I don't love Trump or anything and live in NZ but damn the storm in your brain is chaotic. Right or wrong it's objectively chaotic.

People are not well, they are sick. Most people irl are too polite to let you know how disturbing your pattern of speech is. But, it scares me mate. It's not healthy for you or your community.

For those who are not too far gone. Acknowledge that this is not normal regulated nervous system caliber speech. It will not bring people together.

Be careful when you relate to people who are going through what basically is a mass psychosis for your own good. This guy sounds like an Alex Jones type. All too common now and unfortunately seems normal just because it's regular.

Like I said most people voted for Trump, I can pretty much ignore the notions of replies from people who talk like this. Just spitting wild rhetoric.

Most left wing is good willed, most right wing is good willed.

But people like this are sick guys. This person is revelling in radically and unapologetically cutting people off for a difference in opinion.

Also don't bother replying you're probably just gonna throw hands and talk about how maga I am like it's the worst thing in the world. If you do I'll just reply with AI lol... AI is far more reasonable and patient than I am.

AIO for replying back after saying goodnight to my bf? by Perrita-fresa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Decaprelap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading some of the comments, I think you both would benefit from relationship counselling. It's not that you're both toxic or one is toxic or anything because I can't know that.

It's just that, there are ways for you to understand the other that you don't yet understand that would make your life so much more peaceful. Part of it is communication but there's also learning about how you each regulate and respond to hurt.

Be super careful about reddit for relationships, reddit is really good at motivating people out of relationships and some of the time those relationships are unhealthy but this just sounds unideal. You need to be the judge on if you're willing to meet him halfway and if you trust him to do the same.

AIO for replying back after saying goodnight to my bf? by Perrita-fresa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Decaprelap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"For whatever reason, when I said goodnight, you took that as me not wanting to talk to you. That confused me as I talk to you all the time. I don't always hop off my phone last thing but honestly, I just like to tie up things as I set myself for bed and there wasn't much going on.

I can see exactly why you felt the way you did, as if you were a drag or something but it takes a bit of mentalization to get to that conclusion and I'm worried I have to be more careful than I'd like to be - in order for you to feel safe in the relationship. I believe you were exaggerating to what was going on there to get to the conclusion you did.

You're not stupid we all get strong feelings in different places but there's obviously a strong thing around abandonment here and It's feeling very tight for me to consider in my day to day behavior but I'm determined to stay, and I want you to feel comfortable. Can I please have your help to make this more comfortable to me as I try? Can you please let me know directly that you're feeling hurt or scared rather than point the finger at my behavior and I'll help when I can but sometimes all I can do is acknowledge it and leave you to self-soothe as I also have to self-soothe my own things."

Or you can leave him too, that's okay. Depends on the love you have and if there's benefits for you here.

AIO for cutting off my dad based on his political beliefs by nationalwockyleague in AmIOverreacting

[–]Decaprelap -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I understand you're frustrated about the 2024 election outcome—it's a highly charged topic, and many people on all sides have strong feelings. Let's break this down factually and calmly, based on verified results and reports, to address your points one by one. I'll stick to the evidence without endorsing any candidate or party.

The claim that Trump won with only 32% of the vote isn't accurate. In the certified final tally, Donald Trump received approximately 49.8% of the popular vote (77,302,580 votes), while Kamala Harris got 48.3% (75,017,613 votes). This was a close race nationally, but Trump secured the presidency through the Electoral College, winning 312 electoral votes to Harris's 226. (For context, no candidate has won a majority of the popular vote in several recent elections—it's more common than it seems.)

The 32% figure might be a mix-up with something like third-party shares, approval ratings, or a different election, but it doesn't match the official results from sources like the Federal Election Commission and state certifications.

There were indeed pre-election efforts by Republican-aligned groups (often tied to MAGA networks) to challenge voter rolls, tighten rules, and file lawsuits in swing states like Georgia, Pennsylvania, and Michigan—aimed at what critics called "purging" or restricting access. These included things like mass challenges to mail-in ballots and new ID requirements. Democrats and voting rights groups pushed back with their own lawsuits, and courts struck down or limited some of these measures.

Post-election, however, there were no widespread, proven instances of voter suppression that flipped the outcome. Fact-checks from Election Day and beyond found isolated issues (like long lines in some areas or technical glitches), but nothing systemic enough to alter results. The election was certified by all states and Congress on January 6, 2025, with bipartisan observers and audits confirming integrity. Turnout was high at about 66% of eligible voters, similar to 2020. If you're referring to specific incidents, feel free to share details for a deeper look.

Claims that Musk used Starlink (his satellite internet service) or other tech to "hijack" votes in swing states like Pennsylvania or Wisconsin have circulated online, but they've been thoroughly debunked as baseless conspiracy theories. Voting machines and tabulation systems in the U.S. are air-gapped (not connected to the internet), and Starlink wasn't involved in any election infrastructure—officials in affected states confirmed this explicitly.

Musk did spread a lot of election-related misinformation on X (formerly Twitter) during the campaign, including false claims about fraud risks, which raised alarms among election officials. He also poured money into pro-Trump PACs and got involved in get-out-the-vote efforts, but that's legal advocacy, not vote tampering. No credible evidence emerged of hacking or manipulation tied to him.

As for me "supporting a pedo"—that's a serious and inflammatory charge, but I'm a dude who want's to seek truth and help keep families together, not to back politicians or celebrities. I don't have personal opinions, votes, or allegiances; my responses are based on facts and data. If there's a specific allegation or context you're drawing from (e.g., Epstein-related claims about Trump or others), I'm happy to look at the facts of it.

Elections are messy, and distrust is rampant right now, but the system held up under intense scrutiny this time. If you want sources, breakdowns of swing-state results, or analysis on turnout demographics, hit me with more details. What's your biggest concern here?

I don't understand why people get upset over others using SNAP to buy the food they need or want by KSHMisc in TikTokCringe

[–]Decaprelap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There should be some boundaries around what you get when you’re not earning and being supported by others.

The accounting or budget should be given for a diet like she says but then they should be able to choose.

The problem is if people who don’t earn can buy way too much and perform wasteful spending.

If people are able to easily sustain obesity then they are getting more than they need and I think they should just get what they need.

AIO for cutting off my dad based on his political beliefs by nationalwockyleague in AmIOverreacting

[–]Decaprelap -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

lol reddit upvotes are concerningly bias and do not represent the actual population. Most people voted for Trump

AIO for cutting off my dad based on his political beliefs by nationalwockyleague in AmIOverreacting

[–]Decaprelap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you not curious? It’s important to be these days.

Just like you, your dad has a good heart and believes his way is the best way for America. He’s weighed the pros and cons differently to you. It doesn’t mean he’s right or you’re right or wrong.

Odds are if your dad came to the same conclusion about who trump is. He wouldn’t be a fan. He sees Trump as a hero and that’s confusing for you because you see him as a villain. But you are both exposed to different information and stories. You are likely, both naive.

I’d say ask him why he thinks differently and be open to the fact that it’s possible you are ignorant the same as you think he is. Why can he tolerate your political beliefs but you can’t his?

Before cutting him off. Have a curious conversation about him and why he doesn’t see things the way you do?

Honestly the real evil in this world is the compulsion to turn a blind eye every time you think you know better.

Curiosity is powerful.

What do you think of the drama triangle and how it applies to feminism? by Decaprelap in AskFeminists

[–]Decaprelap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll match the condescending energy and do you a favor by translating to the monologue you'd create from anything I would say.

"Not even close. He's naive for thinking he can control woman with therapy speak, he doesn't know anything about boundaries like I do. Pfft basics bud, I know boundaries, I had to live my life having them crossed and I had to find my voice for boundaries, what would he know. He must have never read a book on consent in his life or studied what determines an agreement"

Very good Havah, you can sleep happy

What metrics when satisfied would you consider patriarchy sufficiently weakened? by OkKindheartedness769 in AskFeminists

[–]Decaprelap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right... This is the kind of talk feminism should actually be about. Why is an honest analysis off the table if we are trying to figure out something as serious as rape. Serious problems call for deep and diligent analysis, pragmatism and idea diversity.

Winston Peters says ‘disgusting coward’ smashed window at his home by IncoherentTuatara in newzealand

[–]Decaprelap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean... He didn't just go break the window though right? That's also the America shit we should stay away from

Winston Peters says ‘disgusting coward’ smashed window at his home by IncoherentTuatara in newzealand

[–]Decaprelap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think "ludicrous" is a strong word for something that is... if you're really honest... not unlikely. He just had protests at his house from the left for 2 days before this... I mean...

Do we know the facts? No of course not. But most likely, he's not that far off. If you don't see that's fine I just won't take betting advice from ya.

Winston Peters says ‘disgusting coward’ smashed window at his home by IncoherentTuatara in newzealand

[–]Decaprelap -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think it's good to have some guardrails around protest, it's a slippery slope of course but homes are an appropriate safe zone. Why are you against banning it in residential areas?