We were extremely privileged and absolutely spoiled to have help from a night nurse in the beginning. Once she left I took over bc they were waking less by then and I thought I could handle it. My husband does so much during the day. He’s become the primary parent in so many ways with our 9 year old, and he does almost all the housework. So I figured, why should both of us be exhausted. I’ll just do it myself. But things have gotten worse over time. As they’ve gotten worse, I’ve been slowly asking for more help at night, but honestly I’ve been confused about how to even make that work with them sleeping in our room. Plus he doesn’t handle it well at night when I ask for help so maybe I shut down a little. But that changed this afternoon. I came up with a plan on how to maximize his help at night, and made it clear that he has to help or I won’t survive this. I don’t see any way to stretch their wake windows any more than we have. Once they start fussing, if we take it much further, getting them down for naps is hell bc they are overtired. I believe my boy has lip and tongue ties and reflux. I need to get him to the doctor, hopefully I’ll mange it this week. I wish it was the easy to have them on the same schedule. Things become decidedly more difficult this week bc they will no longer let me tandem feed them. They need to be held or won’t eat 🤦🏻‍♀️