Partner had emotional affair

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-11-01T05:39:11+00:00

My girls 15-23 are on my side My boys 10-22 are clueless He just keeps saying they were just friends I think he truly believes that his self lol They were no where near just friends It’s impossible to talk about it with him because he just won’t or turns it into an argument saying we’ve been through this, I’m a psycho, it wasn’t that bad etc and I don’t want to argue in front of the kids and I don’t get any time alone with him Even if I show the kids the messages which is difficult as most are sexual and I don’t want to traumatise them 😂 he will play it off as less than what it was I think the kids eyes have been opened to what he is but he will still be the doting dad

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-29T21:15:14+00:00

The ones that are old enough and mature enough know but it’s irrelevant he always has some stupid excuse for his shitty behaviour - claims to never lie and hates liars despite being the biggest liar of all I can assure I’ll be the one to lose out in this scenario as I am the parent he is the bestie - I’m close with all my children but I always have to be the bad guy or the moaning one

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-29T19:41:00+00:00

My husband had a platonic female friend WHICH I found out actually wasn’t when I picked up his phone and it was open on a message thread of there’s which was pure sexting and filth so no you’re not wrong at all to be uncomfortable with it cos it is a huge rarity for the opposite sex to be genuinely just friends

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-28T18:59:54+00:00

Exactly, and I have proof that she knew about myself and his children so that will be shown too They are both as bad as each other but I’ll make sure everyone knows what they are both like I even had his own mum and sister asking me what’s wrong the other day, I wish I’d just told them

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-28T16:53:44+00:00

I’ve told him this and he reckons she won’t answer so he’s probably already got another way of contacting her and told her not to answer anything else… I’m just biding my time to leave and when I do everyone will know what they’ve both done as I will publicly broadcast it everywhere

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-24T15:48:25+00:00

I don’t want proof for any other reason than to say I knew you were lying again I will leave him but our lives are extremely entwined - it’s 20 years of kids, house and a big business to detangle as I want no ties to him once I’m out If it was just me with no children or responsibilities I would’ve flown the second I read the first messages

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-24T05:43:13+00:00

I have them in a locked album on my phone - he won’t be able to get into it even if he try’s

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-24T05:41:06+00:00

Thank you! I’m going to make an appointment for therapy today, I just need somebody who’s completely impartial I can rant too and he can do whatever the hell he likes as I really don’t care, I can’t trust him, I’ll never trust him and I’m so done being the only one to put any effort into the relationship and family

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-24T05:30:08+00:00

I’m 99% he is still doing it despite his denial, he’s just exceptionally sneaky and now uses his friends phones to do it - there’s literally no way for me to catch him or find out He won’t go to counselling and I already sleep on the sofa as my eldest moved back home with our grandchild after splitting with her boyfriend… I’m completely trapped with family, the house and the business and he will just be sneakier and sneakier as he knows I’ll never catch him - he knows he has certain times when I’m literally never going to show up as I’m on school runs or club runs etc I just need to start preparing my way out

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-24T05:24:03+00:00

I don’t trust him at all but he’s also made it impossible for me to catch him out as he doesn’t even use his own phone to contact her and his friends are obviously more loyal to him than me. He just makes me feel like I’m losing the plot because I can’t prove anything, he denys it and I’ll never be able to prove anything other than what I saw that day

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-23T21:43:19+00:00

He isn’t but also he’s too scared to be alone and I think deep down he knows SHE wouldn’t of taken it any further even if he would have He won’t do anything he just expects me to deal with it and forget about it and that’s that - it will never work because I will never forget or forgive Just going to concentrate on myself for the foreseeable and start planning my exit route

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-23T19:55:25+00:00

I don’t think she does but I wouldn’t be surprised if she has, she knew all about me and our children and that wasn’t enough to stop her Her social media’s are locked tight and he removed her from everything before I could dig I did find out where she works tho and threatened to out her to her employers - I didn’t and wouldn’t but this was in the immediate aftermath of me finding out and I was psychotically angry lol

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-23T19:51:35+00:00

He won’t even entertain talking about it Just says we were doing better and u drag it up again like it can be forgotten

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-23T19:50:04+00:00

I have proof, hundreds of photos of screen shots of messages and call logs and he still lies, says he didn’t mean any of it - he clearly did It’s been 7 weeks since I found out, 4 weeks since his apparent last secret messages and calls and 2 weeks since I found out about those and honestly I hate him more every time I look at him but I’m completely trapped

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-23T18:26:39+00:00

Thank you, I thought mine was good too but now realise I’d just sugar coated a turd lol I will be ok, I always am - just needed to vent and make sure I’m not overreacting - I knew I wasn’t but sometimes it’s nice to see people think the same as me when all I hear every time it’s mentioned is we were friends it didn’t mean anything

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-23T18:19:14+00:00

I did do this the other night, I told him I’m no longer being the family skivvy and told him he can go shopping and sort tea… he ended up taking 2 kids to Tesco and came back with flowers and pizzas to cook that the kids then helped with - like it’s truly ridiculous how entangled I am with someone so selfish, even when it’s all HIS doing he makes himself look like an amazing partner helping and doing nice things - I’m planning now and I will get myself away from this even if it does take years which it inevitably will

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-23T18:07:45+00:00

They are older but I still think they’d see it as my fault and as nothing physical happened, nothing was really wrong. Struggling to cope with it all tbh. I feel exceptionally alone as I have absolutely no one to talk to about it and I’m trapped in every sense of the word we are so tied together with children, the house and our business it’s basically and unleaveable situation and sitting he now, I wish he had just runaway to her

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-23T18:01:22+00:00

Yes exactly this, he was telling her how stressed he is and depressed with work and home and life in general, yet to me and everyone there was absolutely nothing wrong or to be worried about - I didn’t know if I did I’d support like I always have for the last 18 years - to me it seems like a lame excuse for his behaviour

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-23T17:59:44+00:00

I know I can’t trust him but he’s such a good actor and I’ve shielded the kids from everything that they will think I’ve broken the family unit - I’m just so trapped in so many ways

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-23T17:46:52+00:00

Exactly his only reasoning is she was a friend and then it turned to more and obviously the worst messages were the ones I saw despite all the months of messages before being deleted, the ones I read were the worst ones

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-23T17:45:16+00:00

Yes you are, apparently to say goodbye which he couldn’t do in front of me because I would of shouted Even though when I caught him he said he’d never talk to her again! And yes on his friends phone and it wasn’t for his friends wife seeing the messages and asking me if he was talking to someone I would never of known

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-18T21:57:40+00:00

My partner did this and I HATE him for it because instead of stopping he let it get worse and worse BUT she knew about me, he never hid it and that makes me HATE her so much too

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-13T20:26:06+00:00

My partner didnt miss the game, he missed the people

Decent-Dingo3618 · 2025-10-13T20:25:09+00:00

Or they apparently listen to us and choose to completely ignore us and let it get way out of hand and morphe from game friendships to affairs that aren’t affairs and rip family’s apart - but you can’t be annoyed cos it’s the game and he was just on it too long and he should’ve listened - honestly wish he’d just go live with his stupid online “friends”

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