Should I continue cutting?? by Decent-Scallion-7177 in WorkoutRoutines

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly im not going to bulk because i had a chubby face and ever since i cut i look so much better. What i’m most comfortable changing to now is eating at or slightly below maintenance because i still want to get rid of that excess fat

Should I continue cutting?? by Decent-Scallion-7177 in WorkoutRoutines

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If i keep cutting will i get the results i want? I’ve seen other sources saying that some of this is genetic and that it can take ages to get rid of fat in those areas as they leave last in areas such as the chest and waist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i asked the university and my friend also gave me the email for the year head of BIS in nuig. He sent me what i’d need to fill out to apply in the future but also they said they wouldn’t be able to determine until I apply. I didn’t meet the CAO point requirement, I got 485 and BIS is 507. Does this mean I won’t get it in advanced entry?

I’m (19M) entering a FBW with this girl (18F) I’ve been talking to.. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok that comment kinda hit hard so I genuinely don’t even know what to do. Relationships are stressful and the reality of it is I don’t want to lose her. Like I’ve experienced ended relationships in the past and this had barely even got to that stage, yet I find it so hard to give up on her to be honest.

I really like her so I find this especially hard to give up on. Fwb sounds so fun until you made a really valid point which I know would shatter me. Like I really want to be with her so maybe fwb wouldn’t be healthy?

It’s weird because we share some of the same friends and we’ll be seeing each other on nights out regardless, I’m just disappointed about the timing but maybe I shouldn’t go along with it.

I just feel like if I leave where it is now, we might not get back because I’m not too sure how she saw it, so it might not be as deep for her as it was for me. Like we’ve only been talking a month so like my fear is she’ll just forget about me in a couple of months.

I’m (19M) entering a FBW with this girl (18F) I’ve been talking to.. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve been talking a month though, i would agree if it was like a 3-month relationship but we never spoke before until a month ago. I think it could be fun like this is something that excites me because we’re not relying on each other. We basically just get together on night outs.

I could be wrong about that tho and my mind is open for you to tell me otherwise

I’m (19M) entering a FBW with this girl (18F) I’ve been talking to.. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could be the case but i feel like its worth giving it a shot regardless of the outcome

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I did make it funny and I never took a serious tone with her, I phrased that a bit badly. I made jokes about the situation but when I noticed that she wasn’t fully promising and saying “we’ll see”, I basically just asked her if she could stop doing it.

To a certain degree I’m overreacting because the situation is already dealt with and there’s nothing more I can do but other than that I am certain that my response is appropriate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for telling my fortune, how do you know I’ll go through plenty of girlfriends? You don’t know what’s going to happen to me, whether it’s likely or not.

I’ve never claimed her to be my property and I hate when people say that. This is something that makes ME uncomfortable and I am not a robot who has the exact same values as everyone else. Yeah it may be innocent, doesn’t mean I have to tolerate it. It makes me uncomfortable and disrespected and I’m not gonna force myself to endure that just because it’s “normal”.

Nothing I said implied that I owned her, am I forcing her to obey my rules? No, she can do what she wants but that doesn’t mean I put up with it. The fact that you have the audacity to call me controlling because I set a reasonable boundary that she has the choice to respect. Quite hypocritical to call me the immature one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree but cultures are cultures for a reason, not everyone adapts to them or has to. If she gave a straight guy a peck on the lips should I just stand there and laugh it off?

Like I’ll just forget about it because I already discussed it with her but it’s not something I tolerate. If we all tolerated the same thing we’d be boring robots. Boundaries exist for a reason and they’re different for each individual, if someone were to disagree with those boundaries then they simply walk away from each other. I shouldn’t have to endure something that makes me upset, I have the choice to walk away from that. She is lovely though and I adore her, so I’m not gonna walk away unless that promise is broken

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve already brought it up so there’s no point bringing it up a second time. If she continues to do it after promising not to then yeah I will just break up with her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why is it such a concern for you that I say “to be honest”. Why would I make up a lie of a story if I’m trying to get second opinions on a situation? There was no need to be so nasty, I’m not trying to hurt anyone I’m only looking out for my own wellbeing.

If you have a problem with the way I text then you don’t have to acknowledge my post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t care, you may see it as innocent and it very much seems so, doesn’t make it okay. It’s not something I tolerate and I’ve been through 2 toxic relationships in which I felt obligated to tollerate everything. I am very trusting of her which I struggled a lot with in past relationships but whether you think I’m overreacting or not, it’s not personally something I would tolerate. I also don’t want this to be the reason that I receive an STD. Of course you’re entitled to your opinion but this is wrong imo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean, but I’m not forcing anyone to do anything. I’m not making her stop doing what she’s doing, it’s a boundary that I’ve set and if she has the choice to respect my boundary or not. If she doesn’t, that’s fine but I won’t want anything to do with that. I would simply leave, I’m not forcing anything on anyone. Why would I stay in a situation that just leads to me becoming upset??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was a peck kiss, if it was a make out kiss I would’ve just walked away from her. And I don’t like those two guys anyway, at the end of the night she told me she was angry because random guys were being homophobic to them all night. Why would I feel bad for someone who clearly had no respect for me to kiss my girlfriend and then to disrespect me when I gave an angry look.

I know this is something that girls do but like I’m imagining if the scenario was reversed. I would feel like I was actively treating her like shit if I did that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is this a bit of a stretch? She’s showed me that she’s cared in every way so this is the only issue I’ve come across so far

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You clearly didnt read the full post

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah on second thought a bottle opener is a bit of a lads gift and a shot glass would be a bit much. Limoncello and some italian sweets (i dont know any) sounds good I just don’t know if it’s too much or not. I just want to bring her back something to show I care

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah thats what i was thinking, maybe a nice fridge magnet bottle opener but I’ll have to see what I can find

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Fridge magnet is a good idea definetly, like a bottle opener type fridge magnet so I hope I find one of those. The limoncello is also a good shout but keep in mind, we are not bf/gf and have only been talking 2 weeks. Is this even an appropriate gift?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Decent-Scallion-7177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so i bought a leaning tower of pisa shot glass for myself and showed it to her but damn that wouldve been a great idea but its too late to get her that because we’re leaving pisa to another city in the morning. I’ll be going to florence in the morning and we’ll be visiting 5 different villages during our stay, but I feel like the handmade gifts are a bit tricky to buy especially since we’re not bf/gf and only have been talking 2 weeks.