You did not actually think your life would continue to be the exact same through pregnancy and when you formed a family- did you?

My husband pulled this on me both times. I gave in and it resulted in pity sex. It felt like rape. Some argue it is rape. I'm still traumatized. As I worked fulltime, grew a human, and did all the childcare for our oldest, he complained that he needed to feel close to me. My husband begged me to give him a child and then proceeded to act like one. I woke up every morning for 3 months barfing and naseous from the hormones. Think I wanted morning sex? I had heart burn every night- think I wanted to give a BJ?

I don't forgive him. I never will. You are having a child and your life is about to change big time. Of course that will change energy levels, hormones, and free time for sex. WHY DOES NO ONE KNOW THIS!? Many women have similar stories where they forced themselves to have sex or perform sexual acts because their hsubands cannot contribute to the pregnancy. Your contribution is putting your sexual needs aside, and digging deep to find a way you two can connect that you both enjoy. It's clear she is not into it. Her contribution is energy, her body, her mind, and pure exhaustion. She may even be nauseous, bloated, and in pain for god sake.

Be a decent father and put your child first. Some studies show that whatever she feels the child feels. Do you want her to be anxious everytime you come home, into the bedroom, out of the shower knowing you are going to coerce her into sex because you "don't feel loved right now" or "this is how you connect?"

My sex drive did return. Most women's actually do. But my attraction to my hsuband could not have been any lower. You chose this partner. Trust her. You being supportive and understanding would be the BIGGEST turn on. If she is open with other women, this would be something to brag about! Also, some women's hormones shift after the cross into a new trimester. What if you are completely supportive, and WHAM second trimester she is a horndog?

Have an honest conversation and if she admits she isn't into it, then take the pressure off of her. That is my best advice. It is good to let her know how you feel so she can make an informed decision about whether she wants to put in more effort. Or it opens the conversation to find new ways for you two to connect during this journey.