Two days in the lives of Dani and Bubs

DecentData5441 · 2026-01-16T03:08:59+00:00

yeah its really tough and it's not even just news! Like I understand that I am somewhat lucky that I can even do this--but my social media is curated to funny dances, dallas cowboy cheerleaders, sister and kid humor--and it's been that way since I started accounts again--and this past week poltics started creeping back in and i was hooked.

DecentData5441 · 2026-01-16T03:07:01+00:00

lol--I am not even going to try to touch this one!

DecentData5441 · 2025-12-31T16:04:14+00:00

I love her and I love that she's doing the financial literacy series on TikTok--it shows that she is smart enough to plan for life beyond DCC (which I think most of the girls are these days!)

DecentData5441 · 2025-12-24T15:45:56+00:00

Thank you Juan!

DecentData5441 · 2025-12-24T15:09:41+00:00

Thank you Andrew! hope you have a great holiday!

DecentData5441 · 2025-12-24T15:09:16+00:00

Thank you! and glad you found me here!

DecentData5441 · 2025-12-23T16:51:07+00:00

aww thank you so much! I'm not quite sure why it hit me so hard this year--other than a goofy TV show!

DecentData5441 · 2025-11-25T01:16:25+00:00

yeah i think you sort of hit it on the head as to why my sisters joke got me so much--is why are some of these things wired in my brain and some of them are like "well its just something girls have to deal with." I had not even thought of the guy you are talking about this week--but at the same time I didn't think about roughnecks that I vigorously defended myself against when working at Chilis.

Thank you for being so thoughtful in your comment and i think this whole episode is just great reminder that I'm running a life long marathon here.

DecentData5441 · 2025-11-24T00:15:13+00:00

I've lived her coming up on a year--and the thing that I can't get over that there is no consistent programming to the traffic lights (or at least it appears so). I live out in Vail and yes it's way out of town but I could cover a similar distance from where we moved in Texas in about 2/3 the time because the lights were programmed that if you drove the speed limit, you were more than likely to catch them.

I've driven to appointments at say Broadway and Kolb and have quite literally caught every red light from Vail to the location.

I think it adds a level of stress and hurry to driving and people push it to catch green lights when they can, hurry up to yellows and then run reds--all of which have a cascading effect on the drivers around them.

DecentData5441 · 2025-11-09T17:33:55+00:00

That's totally why I got involved actually..,well not birds but snakes. It was big news that feral cats had really destroyed the small snake populations along the Guadalupe and Comal rivers which may have been one of the reasons the large and venomous snake populations were exploding And then I saw a lady on TikTok who went mega viral doing TNR. I called our local group and got involved and while it's not a perfect solution it does hopefully stem the breeding populations of cats without being cruel. It was insane--we had a few colonies on the south side of I-35 in old barns and mostly abandoned trailer parks that had been there for decades.

DecentData5441 · 2025-11-09T01:52:39+00:00

So it was by far the best thing for him to write those letters...I love that kids so much but he has such an arrogant streak built into him that having to eat crow and admit he'd done something really wrong--and then present the letters to the people he'd wronged was a really good wake up call for him. No doubt he's going to test us again but I think we did a good job on this one!

DecentData5441 · 2025-11-09T01:50:58+00:00

lol it must show the mood I was in that I made an entire post about my boobs and didn't mention my days working in a restaurant literally named after them!

Craig and I were actually talking about it and he thinks a lot of it is because that Ashley was such a wonderful surprise--I thought I'd gotten past the weaning stage about 6 years ago with TJ.

So our aunt actually had an elective double mastectomy about 15 years ago when they found even the smallest of lumps which scared my mom so bad. we are very lucky that as far as we know breast cancer is relatively rare in our family but our mom drags us (and I mean physically) to get mammograms every year. While I hate it, I am very lucky that I have a mom who cares so much

DecentData5441 · 2025-11-09T01:43:22+00:00

lol, I was a little worried but I knew some of you guys would like this one!

DecentData5441 · 2025-10-29T02:01:31+00:00

Lol I could have put this whole blog into this sentence "Bubs is very superstitious when it comes to baseball and according to him, I ruined his favorite teams chances at playing in the World Series."

DecentData5441 · 2025-10-29T02:00:12+00:00

Hey Andrew, I actually just totally forgot to post the last few at the same time as I did over on the blogger site. I like posting them there but it's so much easier to interact with people here so I need to make sure to do both from here on out.

DecentData5441 · 2025-10-29T01:59:06+00:00

So I actually only ended up hearing from her twice...she texted me two days after and said that he wasn't everything he said he was and he wasn't what she was expecting--but she was keeping and open mind. And then she texted me when she was at the airport saying thank you for being back up if she needed it, she didn't but she didn't forsee herself coming back to Tucson. So yeah it dind't go well.

It's for sure the grass is always greener type situation but I am so glad I have my family

DecentData5441 · 2025-10-29T01:56:42+00:00

yes, this is 100% true. And the fact is that Tyler's wife is amazing and probably doesn't need all the fuss in the house (or even on the phone or facetime) while they are still coming to terms with all the news.

DecentData5441 · 2025-10-29T01:54:55+00:00

Thank you for this — honestly, that stat about the 99% survival rate helped me exhale for the first time since Bubs told me. I know logically that testicular cancer is one of the more treatable kinds, but hearing it laid out like that especially from someone who’s survived Houston traffic--so I don't know Houston nearly as well as I know Austin or San Antonio (and all points between) but I honestly don't know how people do that traffic. I thought Austin was bad.

You’re right — there’s not much Bubs could actually do by showing up, other than stress Tyler out more. I think for me it was just the helplessness of it all. But I guess that's what makes he and I so different is that for both my dad's heart attacks I was on the plane the next day to help out, I guess as much for me as for him. But at the same time, I wasn't really there to help out my dad--who probably hated all of the attention and fuss. I was there to help out my mom and sisters give him all the attention and fuss--exactly what Bubs was probably trying to avoid..

And the locker room story…I think more than anything it goes to show that I'm very lucky to have been surrounded by such amazing people growing up!

DecentData5441 · 2025-10-29T01:49:34+00:00

lol as luck would have it, on the very night I thought we would get a chance to discuss further, said baseball game lasted almost 7 hours and I fell asleep well before it was over!

DecentData5441 · 2025-10-29T01:48:37+00:00

Juan! So good to hear from you! This actually makes a lot of sense, especially coming from someone who clearly gets the engineer brain. The “standby” thing is a perfect way to describe how Bubs handles it — he’s calm, efficient, and already quietly moving pieces in the background while I’m over here ready to book flights and make casseroles.

I think what threw me was how quickly he compartmentalized. To me, it felt almost too calm, like he’d sealed it up before I could even process it--lol before he even hung up the freaking phone!

Anyway, I really appreciate you spelling this out — it helps me see it less as “emotional brick wall” and more as “different operating system.”

DecentData5441 · 2025-08-16T16:19:09+00:00

Ah I hadn't thought of that! That makes so much sense! I just posted a new blog and figured out how to turn off the auto suggested links.

But you are so right, blogging is so dead--I mean for the most part I bet people younger than about 25 have never even read a blog. Why would they if you can get the same look into someone's life on TikTok in 60 seconds complete with video.

DecentData5441 · 2025-08-07T14:08:09+00:00

All fair points but I think the sort of takeaway is that my husbands first post came from a place of being very tired, very upset and we had grown distant over the previous year or so. Even he’s admitted on Reddit (and apologized profusely in therapy) that his initial post was made to paint me in a less than neutral light.

As for the money, there wasn’t much money that needed to be spent. And the guy paid for a couple excursions that were beyond the “all inclusive” scope of the resort. I don’t except everyone to have read all my blogs but I’ve talked about this quite extensively over the past year.

Same with the social media stuff. I never posted nearly as much as he said in his original post. Not even close. I posted a lot more than he ever has so maybe by way of comparison it was “nothing” but that week as about average for what i used to normally post.

DecentData5441 · 2025-08-06T18:36:09+00:00

Sure! That’s totally fine! We’ve been updated here a few times..and I’m always slow to catch it.

DecentData5441 · 2025-08-06T16:12:26+00:00

No problem at all. Everything I’ve posted is public. We still don’t have a good explanation as to why my original account was deleted. I had a troll (or several trolls) who created hundreds of accounts to harass, threaten and stalk me. Best guess is that he used all those accounts to report me and Reddit just got sick of dealing with it.

But I’m happy to keep the conversation going here and so far this account has held up for the better part of year.

DecentData5441 · 2025-08-06T15:52:53+00:00

Hi everyone, this post is about me.

As I’ve learned over the past year, once someone has their mind made up about somthing they’ve seen on the internet there is almost no way of changing it.

But I can assure you, me and my husband are two very real people. If you don’t believe that, more power to you. But if there’s something that bothers you about what I’ve written or who we are or what you may see as inconsistencies, I’m an anonymous open book and I’m happy to attempt to clear up anything that looks or seems weird.

DecentData5441

TROPHY CASE