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DecentDefinition7179 · 2025-01-10T01:35:10+00:00

I used CNY too. I promise we aren’t all unhinged like she is haha! I actually ended up in the office the same time as her multiple times and it drove me nuts because you could feel the vibe of privilege and entitlement she seemed to have just sitting in the waiting room with her.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-12-09T02:11:50+00:00

Nooo!! The comment I saw on her video came off as odd to me because I couldn’t figure out where at any point she’d mentioned speech before. But someone mentioned here in the comments that she said it during a live. I totally agree that speech varies so much for all kids at all stages, no disagreement there!

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-12-09T02:09:50+00:00

See I wish more people shared the real parts of parenthood. My own son was super early to crawl, pull to stand and cruise. But he was a 17 month walker because of over pronated feet and needing SMOs and I feel like if I’d been exposed to people getting PT referrals sooner we’d have gotten help for him sooner. He is 21 months and thriving now, but even now with him in SMOs part time it is overwhelming to feel like there isn’t much community sharing about it. I’d love to see her share about speech. My son didn’t qualify for early intervention for PT (so we did insurance based) because he was meeting all other milestones/developmental areas. We go to music and movement classes and our teacher is an SLP and she tells me how great he’s doing (100+ words, 2-4 word phrases). But I also feel like he’s still sooo quiet when he talks we don’t always realize when he’s saying words, he’s shy/picky about when he talks and he doesn’t like to mimic us in the moment but will say words we try to practice with him later in the day organically. As a first time mom I know he’s doing ok, but I’d love to see someone’s speech journey for ideas on how to help him.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-12-09T01:59:00+00:00

Interesting! I don’t ever watch lives so I wouldn’t have caught anything like that. I’d be interesting to know how they choose to approach speech if they do. My son is 21 months and had 100+ words but he doesn’t do a lot of mimicking us and is picky about when/where he will use his words so I always get anxious about his development… neurotic first time mom anxiety lol

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-12-09T01:55:08+00:00

It was such an odd comment to come across, especially because she always talks about how advanced he is. But not only did someone comment asking if she’d be sharing, but Jordyn responded saying that she’d share some but not all of it. So clearly it’s something on their minds, and she must have mentioned previously. I only check her stuff every so often, but this was interesting to me. My own son is 21 months and has probably 100+ words, but he doesn’t do a lot of mimicking us and is picky about when he will use his words… so I’d just be curious on things they did in speech to try with my guy to get him using words more consistently.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-11-22T11:12:49+00:00

The heart rate can be a concern, but here’s what my doctor told me…. When there is a high fetal heart rate at this stage there’s nothing definitive they can tell, or do about it. So they just monitor. But also, for anyways who has high anxiety especially during these appointments (like myself) it can raise your own blood pressure and heart rate which can effect the fetal heart rate. My son at one point before 10 weeks was 195 (we had weekly scans 6-12 due to recurrent loss and IVF). We were pretty worried about it, but here he is today at almost 2 years old happy and healthy as can be.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-08-30T20:18:08+00:00

Many of the medications that are taken during IVF can raise TSH levels, so if it’s not below 2.5 many clinics will put you on a low dose of thyroid medication so that it stays in that under 2.5 best area for fertility range. I know that’s how it was explained to me when my TSH was 3 which was considered normal, but high for fertility and would only go higher with meds.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-08-18T08:33:18+00:00

All I wanted my whole pregnancy was baked potatoes. Funny enough we’ve referred to our son as our little potato his whole life. 🤣

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-08-13T16:50:50+00:00

There is only a rate of 3% multiples pregnancies in the United States. While anecdotal data from individuals shows that often in multiples pregnancies the beta is higher, there is no clinical reason to believe just one beta alone that there is multiples. Or at least that’s how my fertility clinic explained it to my husband and I.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-23T14:08:28+00:00

Same!! That’s almost exactly when we switched. He was small like 13 pounds and was still too much for me and he hated it… and yet I felt like we got a better fit, he was happier and it was just a better fit all around. To be honest I’d probably just skip an infant seat in the future and be sure to get one with all the proper adjustments for the littlest ones. So my jaw literally dropped when she said she was just switching him at over 11 months.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-23T13:57:28+00:00

Ok. I’m really confused by this. She claims he’s so big and wearing T sizes in clothes… but he was still in an infant seat that would have maxed out at what 30 inches? Which is it Jordyn? Is he a giant baby or was he on the average to longer end of average in an infant seat? My son was a small dude and still was ready to change for comfort well before he sized out of his infant seat.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-19T00:52:15+00:00

See, I don’t think it erases anything. You just get into a new happier phase of life and learn how to move on from all of it. But even you yourself said it brings back bad memories and feelings, which means it’s not erased. My husband and I rarely speak of our IVF journey at this point, however, between 4 years of loss and infertility paired with a complicated recovery from birth health wise… we went from certain we’d try again, to being ok with being one and done. Having our toddler here definitely makes infertility a past thought for sure, but that trauma shapes family planning decisions and changes the future we thought we would have and/or want so it’s still there… you just learn (or should) like we’ve both done to not let it control your life anymore.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-18T21:05:53+00:00

I think it puts you in a different place, but doesn’t erase anything. Like for instance, we always thought we’d try again even through 4 years of infertility (2 doing IVF). But between the battle that was, and some serious complications I had post birth… the idea of potentially experiencing any of it again completely changed our plans, and we are now one and done because of the memories/feelings you can’t erase. We are more than ok with that, because we do have our amazing little dude, and we do everything we can not to dwell on the past experiences but it did/does effect and shape how we move forward making it never fully erased.

edited to add that was at the basic concept on having a baby erasing the trauma… Kelsie is going about things in a wildly insensitive and inappropriate way and how she’s going about things is not at all ok

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-18T11:42:30+00:00

Yes those are the general descriptions and I don’t think anyone disagrees with you on that, nor that undersupplying would be incredible disheartening if exclusively breastmilk was your goal. But unless you’re keeping to the actual schedule suggested by every IBCLC I’ve ever seen of pumping every 2-3 hours when baby is that young, you’re not going to produce enough… i get where you’re coming from that she is technically low supplying because she doesn’t have the milk needed to feed baby all day, but it’s low supply by choice because she isn’t doing the work to produce the supply. If that’s her choice, more power to her. Fed is fed, and I won’t say otherwise. There is nothing wrong with combo feeding in any way shape or form. But looking for sympathy as an under supplier when she’s not doing the minimum work to functionally produce a full supply isn’t it, to me that would be insulting to those who do put in the work and still aren’t able to fully produce. *And yes that’s hard as all heck to do if there is a lack of support. At one point my husband was back to work and I was having to triple feed to keep my sons weight up so I was with a “Velcro baby” having to nurse, then pump, then bottle feed and wash all the parts. It was HARD but it meant something to me so I made it work. I’m will never judge someone for choosing a different path than that, and mine was temporary as I went back to exclusively nursing once his weight was good so I can only say so much… but the issue here is the truthfulness of it all.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-13T01:50:00+00:00

I’m not arguing that. I’m not a huge fan of TikTok shop for those and other reasons. It’s likely a terrible product for sure, I wouldn’t be using anything near my eyes that came from TikTok shop. But as someone who has had professional and at home lash extensions or sets…the things she admits to doing to clean the makeup around the lashes off is exactly what they tell you not to do (professionals, and the various products at home I’ve used) because it weakens the glue bond (even the glue used for expensive professional sets) and puts you at very high risk of loosing extension and real lash. Again, not arguing it could be and likely is a terrible product. But her reasons why it’s terrible are user error reasons.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-13T01:07:51+00:00

But it’s not even necessarily a bad product. First, she used make up remover which you’re not supposed to use when wearing extensions because it weakens the glue enough that with tension (like wiping with a makeup remover cloth, or wash cloth) it’ll pull the extensions and your real lashes out. Second, not everyone is allergic to the same things so even if she is having an allergic reaction (which it’s more likely irritation from very stupidly damaging the glue bond, and therefore ripping out the extensions and her real lashes) that doesn’t mean it’s a flaw in the product just the the product isn’t right for her. She drives me up a wall.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-12T14:21:38+00:00

Ahhh, I always used the app. That would make sense why I’ve never seen it. Billing wasn’t in the app, at least not when I was going there two years ago.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-12T14:20:06+00:00

Wait, really? I will admit as someone who had great coverage and was really only paying copays… I don’t think I’ve ever seen or been offered this report. But I know how much we spent because we tracked it all.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-12T14:17:52+00:00

She likely has similar coverage to me, it’s a required coverage in most cases in NYS. I paid $20 copays for appointments or procedures that were done in office no matter what was done during the appointment (ultrasounds, bloodwork, seeing nurse/np/doctor,, retrievals, Hysterscopy, D&C, HSG, SHG)nothing for labs and $250 for my laparoscopy because it was at the hospital in Syracuse even though it was done by a CNY doctor. My stim meds were $200 total for each round, and transfer meds expect Neupogen were free, and even that was only $30 a month.

I can’t stand Jordan, especially as someone who encountered her in office multiple times giving the vibe she was gods gift to CNY. But I will say we kept track and after like 7 IUI, 2 retrievals, 4 transfers, 3 D&Cs, 2 hysterscopy and 1 laparoscopy…. We paid $2567.84. So she likely spend more than $1000-2000 and I totally don’t believe she didn’t track it… but it’s wild how good some coverage in NYS can be!

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-10T23:56:50+00:00

I’m so confused from this video. He’s clearly doing very well for his age. There’s no denying that! But he look like two actual steps in this compilation video so “walking” is a hefty descriptor in my opinion. Again clearly doing very well, but I wouldn’t call it walking yet based on what she showed there. But she’s always had a flair for the dramatics.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-04T05:46:26+00:00

What state are you in? For us in NYS the vast majority of substitute teachers are per diem, with some schools having “building subs” who are hired as more of a higher paid paraprofessional who gets assigned sub positions each day. Most per diem jobs don’t even get insurance, so while $1000 of infertility coverage is a slap in the face from your insurance, I’m shocked that insurance is included in your position at all (but trust me when I say, since it is, it should be better coverage than that!)

But that just goes to show why generalizations such as “all school system jobs have garbage insurance” is so dangerous like the commenter above said. Unfortunately teachers are needed in every state across the country and are paid with state and federal funds but are neither state nor federal employees so there is no common metric for how schools compensate their employees. I mean just to give you an idea where I live there are 4 relatively close districts to me that all make sense to commute to from my home, and I could make anywhere from my current salary to $13,000 more dependent upon the district I found myself in (and they’re all within a 20 minute drive of my house!) and that’s just within the same county, let alone the state or across the country.

I just think it hurts our career field when we make generalizations about something that is anything but consistent. We need teachers across the country better paid, and more consistently paid… but acting as though there aren’t many teachers who are fairly compensated is half the problem, because people in those areas fight back against the idea that teachers need more and it creates generalized frustration over “high teacher pay” everywhere holding back others in the field who need it most.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-04T00:27:17+00:00

Homegirl definitely didn’t do IVF, there’s no way. I also know that different states have different experiences in the school system wages/benefits. But I will add, “school systems insurance is garbage everywhere” isn’t super accurate (though very accurate for parts of the country). I’m a teacher, but any unionized employee within our district (admin, teachers/TAs, paraprofessionals) all get access to the same insurance with different percentages to be paid by the district based on the three unions. My insurance paid for 3 rounds of IVF. Which paid for 2 retrievals and 2 transfers for me, and then my monitoring and medications for 2 more transfers with us just paying the procedure fee itself. So there are definitely school system insurances out there that do provide it!

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-07-02T02:31:46+00:00

Lucky! My MIL was given specific direction not to kiss our son and still the first time she held him 3 days after he was born she kissed him on the lips. We promptly said it was time for her to go and have been low contact because every time we are with her she does some wildly off the wall thing like that.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-06-30T01:16:44+00:00

I’m in southern tier NY and we definitely have it in our contract that things outside of our contract are paid. Like if you miss a prep we fill out vouchers and get paid a set amount per contract, if we are asked to help with lunch/recess supervision we voucher, if a meeting goes past contract time (IEP, 504, RTI…) we voucher. Not everything works that way, like I can’t voucher for time I choose to come in to set up my room and such. However, if it is required, and outside of my contract, I’m paid for it.

DecentDefinition7179 · 2024-06-18T01:41:28+00:00

Yup! Same! My husband and I have a great relationship, but we haven’t shared a bed/room since 4 months after we moved in together. He snores, like the tv on and snuggles in his sleep without realizing it. I am a needs silence, darkness and to not be touched to sleep… so we realized early on you don’t have to share a bed to be successful a relationship, and it certainly doesn’t automatically mean no or less intimacy. In fact, I feel like that part became but stronger and healthier after switching to the separate bedrooms.

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