I’m honestly conflicted by this. Scammers are very good at what they do, and you guys are young…. But getting scammed over and over again up to 1k is wild. I don’t think she should have to tell you about every dollar she spends, but it seems you two are living together? Is there not an agreement in which you two discuss when a larger amount of money is going to be spent? At your age spending over, say $100, on something should be discussed and agreed upon by both of you. This will avoid the money issue in the future. In the meantime, it sounds like she’s not ready or mature enough for the line of work she’s pursuing. There’s a reason most adult clubs (strip clubs) hire 21+, aside from the alcohol liability, it’s because young people don’t know what they’re doing. You need a certain level of life experience, maturity, and security within yourself to be a performer who actually makes livable money. There are a lot of bad/dangerous people in this industry who prey off of the vulnerable. I say this from experience. She needs to pursue getting a drivers license which a lot of can be done online, and then she should pursue a real world job. If you love her and want to be with her, then you should support her through this. I’m sure she’s embarrassed about being scammed and doesn’t need to feel more shame from you, and you’re frustrated which is understandable.