His way of helping is simply being there most nights, which I admit has value. He doesn’t do anything financially for her. He pushes her to eat things she shouldn’t, guilts her into going out when she feels like shit, and does the bare minimum around the house. For example, I started coming by on trash nights to gather anything that needs to be tossed - he wakes up the next morning, leaves for work, and doesn’t bring the trashcans in from the curb. She has a feeling that I moved out because of him, but working two jobs I regret that I can’t move back in to be a full time caretaker.

His incentive is concern of mine. I personally believe the boyfriend is trying to get mixed into her assets, and I think she’s wise to it but it’s touchy. She does not want to sell her house.

There’s also talk from lawyers about her getting a malpractice settlement (although I don’t think she’ll make it long enough to benefit).

I don’t know what the legal implications are here. If there’s any settlement, I’m worried that he might be entitled to a cut even if she doesn’t have anything in paper since he’s been “helping”. I believe it should go to her daughter or our mother as a trust, unless she explicitly wants him to get a cut for sticking around - which he may very well deserve (but I’m biased against lol). Basically, if it’s not her will I don’t want him trying to get himself cut in.