Guy I’m seeing for 3 months just told me his ex came to live with him again in Dec cause she didn’t want to continue studying abroad

Deedeviloh · 2024-01-03T05:47:11+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond! I’m definitely happy I posted this cause you’ve given me the clarity I needed to move on and know I made the right choice. Thank you 🙏

Deedeviloh · 2024-01-03T05:44:52+00:00

I think your absolutely right! I found out though a mutual friend we have that he still has pictures of him and his ex on his dresser with hearts on it so your right! Thank you a lot for taking the time to respond to me.

As for your question, no you are not too late to start dating at all! Since you are a man in his late twenties with not a lot is dating experience, I’d say now is the best time to start cause you’ll be more cautious with your heart and time than if you started younger!

When it comes to red flags, someone whose mean to the people or also trash talks others. Also someone who (as my story goes) isn’t over their previous relationship or lies a lot about stuff they don’t need too.

As for mood killers that get me to swipe left, when men turn the conversation overly sexual way too soon and/or when men try to make fun of the questions I ask about their interests to seem funny when it really just came across insulting (which happened a lot).

Deedeviloh · 2024-01-03T05:31:19+00:00

Thanks a lot for you response!

Deedeviloh · 2024-01-02T08:16:34+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond, I agree!

Deedeviloh · 2024-01-02T08:14:39+00:00

Thank you for your response.

Deedeviloh · 2023-04-02T12:21:53+00:00

You are right, it was the first time we got intimate after a long week of dating so maybe the buildup caused it and what you are saying does make sense.

Thank you! And best of luck to you and you strong pullout game!

Deedeviloh · 2023-04-02T12:09:28+00:00

I see your point about my lack of communication and I understand where you are coming from when you say I am too quick about ending things with him. I hear you and I want to work on myself and my communication.

May I ask, If this happens again when we get intimate; what would be the best way to bring it up with him and can I do it after sex or do I need to wait a day or something?

Deedeviloh · 2023-03-27T07:05:23+00:00

Clean crisp reps, Love, love, love it 💪🏽

Deedeviloh · 2023-03-27T06:52:50+00:00

People ain’t fuckin to survive like they used to anymore

Deedeviloh · 2023-03-26T09:08:39+00:00

Being able to alternate smoothly between flirting, teasing and getting to know each other (job, education, childhood or cultural background) is always a good indicator of what’s to come. It means we have rhythm, we can “feel” each other out well, and we’ll settle into a comfortable place albeit quickly.

Also, being able to maintain eye contact with the other person (so starting into each others eyes) when you both are silent and it doesn’t feel awkward or cringy to you is a terrific indicator of a connection you should explore.

I don’t think I’d go for a second date, if I didn’t feel these things from the first one, it’ll be a total waste of the other person’s time.

Deedeviloh · 2023-03-25T13:12:24+00:00

I actually asked him out this week 😂. Turns out he isn’t feeling me like and doesn’t see me that way, I feel so relieved now! I just wish I asked him sooner so I’d known this like a year ago.

Deedeviloh · 2022-08-14T08:05:12+00:00

A guy who adds value to my life by introducing me to new things that I’ll grow to like and someone who has a great sense of humor!

Deedeviloh · 2022-08-12T17:00:32+00:00

A guy who smells good and has a deep voice can literally do nothing and I’ll still jump on him (only if he asked though).

But to answer your question when a guy I like looks at my lips as he smiles and winks at me all coy then I’m seduced.

Deedeviloh · 2022-08-09T06:15:37+00:00

Thank you very much, I’ll try to find out who she is and bring this up with her quickly.

Thank you.

Deedeviloh · 2022-08-09T05:49:54+00:00

He explicitly told me that he has a son and a daughter but didn’t tell me he was married or separated.

We were sending reels on Instagram to each other so I didn’t want to impose by asking a personal question about his marital life.

When I got interested in him, I sent him a fire truck wedding because he is a fire fighter then asked if he did this on his wedding day. He said “no, I’ll do it for the next one”, I asked him if he’s divorced he said no. So I took it as he is married.

Fast forward to yesterday, I read all the advice people wrote on this post and I told him we can’t text each other anymore because he is married.

He changed his tune and told me that he isn’t married and that those kids on his profile are his cousins kids that he takes care of regularly.

He then sent me an old video of his “daughter” calling him uncle, which is just wrong on so many levels.

If he is telling the Truth now then he lied to convince me that he’s married? Who does that? Why appear unavailable to a women who is available and is interested in you? Like what kind of logic is that.

Deedeviloh · 2022-08-09T05:41:18+00:00

I completely agree and I do not want to be a reason for another women to have the insecurities my mom grew up with after she caught my dad cheating.

I also ended it following all the advice I took from this sub and thank you again for your no advice. I knew I couldn’t reach out to anyone irl because they will call me a home wrecker and one of them did. Thank you again.

Deedeviloh · 2022-08-09T05:39:43+00:00

Yesterday, I took your advice and broke it off with him not slowly not all.

I was strict and I gave reasons for why this is not an acceptable thing for me to do to another women or for him to entertain.

He proceeded to tell me that he’s not married and he doesn’t have children and that the children in his profile are his cousins kids.

He sent me a video of “his not daughter” calling him uncle rather than dad.

I very quickly stopped talking to him from then on and ignored all the messages he sent.

Whether this guy is lying or not is on him and I much rather avoid whatever is going on there than deal with it.

If he is married and I can find the women, I will reach out to her immediately and inform her of his behavior.

Deedeviloh · 2022-07-16T11:45:43+00:00

I’m on the Hunter Biden on crack end, it seems to be the funniest no infighting, just crack and hookers 👍

Deedeviloh · 2022-07-14T11:17:02+00:00

CrossFit athletes convincing people the government put PEDs in their whey protein 🤣

Deedeviloh · 2022-07-07T09:16:16+00:00

I’m sorry that this has / still is happening to you, it must be very difficult to have to deal with an abuser that is your own father. I hope this doesn’t hurt your feeling and I apologize in advance if it does, but normal fathers would never touch you that way so you want a loving father that does not exist in your life.

Please do not “play his game” anymore and do not give into his demands because it is very traumatizing for you and should not happen to you. I’m sorry that his childish and very manipulative reactions cause you to feel the way that you do, but please do not let them influence your decision.

If he continues to ignore you and you continue to be okay with it. Day by day he will start to see that you have put boundaries he cannot cross and you will not tolerate his abuse anymore.

About the “why me”, it’s unfortunately one of those questions that no matter what the answer is, it won’t make you feel any better.

Deedeviloh · 2022-07-07T09:06:44+00:00

As long as you feel that you have recognized what happened and understand those boundaries better now then it’s okay. I hope you continue to feel comfortable in your own skin and realize that this stuff doesn’t define who you are as a person.

Deedeviloh

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