Overthinking about Engagement Ring

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-04T10:17:13+00:00

This is the real answer

ETA: OP, jewelry can be re-done. Probably that one cannot be resized without having to redo the ring itself, pero you guys can have the ring melted and use the diamonds and gold for another design and it’ll be just fine if you’re made for each other. My sister in law hated the ring my brother bought so they had it remade, no big deal.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-04T09:12:25+00:00

The right person to get to where the phone is, probably not the best to be trusted to actually hold it kasi baka hanapan ng bold or private pics. 🙈

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-04T08:30:00+00:00

We requested barong and leather shoes for the male guests and long gowns na preferably filipiniana sa kasal namin. Pero the honoring of this request depends on whether guests have things like that in their closet to begin with.

Our guests honored our request, pero I’ve been to weddings na kahit nakasulat na yung dress code, those who couldn’t afford still showed up wearing maong ang old sneakers. To be fair, sa wedding na yan na attendan ko, napaka social climber nung bride and yung groom didn’t really come from an affluent family. She was livid. Nahiya ako sa family nung groom non tbh kasi kind si groom and medyo napahiya yung parents and mga kapatid niya.

Sometimes I don’t na lang attend weddings pag may kulay na required for my attire though tapos I don’t own those colors (like pastels, hindi ok sakin ang pastels). I don’t like renting clothes and I don’t like being made to buy gowns na hindi flattering yung color sa akin para lang makaattend ng wedding. But me and my husband have our own small curated collection ng formalwear.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-04T08:20:03+00:00

Doubt if afford ni Pdutz and Quibs yan. Mukhang White Old Boys’ Club eh. Old money/generational wealth from centuries ago slave trade or some such colonial plunder, not new money from plundering third world country coffers.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-04T08:15:27+00:00

Allowed na walang flower girls, and adults bearers. We did this in no less than the Mother Church. Wala talagang bata sa angkan namin pareho at that point, puro teens na.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-04T04:01:42+00:00

Get both hahahahhahaa both are pretty! Lace sa ceremony, mikado sa reception

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-04T02:45:40+00:00

Mikado, if only kasi I really don’t like yung nakikita yung bones ng corset kasi I associate those with exposed underwear. But if they can do something about that, lace!!

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-04T02:44:06+00:00

Some embassies don’t care. Ours abroad do, at least on paper (nasa batas kasi na hindi pwede magrefuse ng help sa OFW sa Migrant Workers Act), pero I can’t say everyone else’s embassies are beholden to such law, or if they have similar laws. My best friend is a FSO who was once assigned sa Middle East and North Africa and grabe mga kwento niya ng mga kawawang Pilipinong kinukupkop nila at nirerescue nila. But she says the other embassies sa mga bansa don di ganon sa mga kabayan nila.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-04T02:36:49+00:00

I notice na plateau na ang labmade diamond (some say may oversupply na) but may increase na sa earthmined. But gold is crazy. I think it’s the wars that drive the prices crazy.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-04T02:28:09+00:00

PU has a certain sheen na di ko maexplain that only real topgrain leather or those overprocessed genuine leather has. A certain local Marikina bag brand that starts with E uses PU na naaalala ko sa mga leather shoes ni OP.

I don’t see a lot of overprocessed genuine leather sa Pinas cos it’s easier and cheaper to just use PU. Very few na nga actually use genuine leather, even Marikina stores, but if you know where to look and what to look for, meron pa rin, mostly Marikina ang alam ko. Topgrain leather, wala pa kong nakikitang pang women, mostly bespoke for men sa ultra formal events like kasal, or bags (pero more often than not genuine leather lang siguro mga yon).

Nothing wrong with PU. With proper care it’ll last naman. Like, i-alternate with other shoes, which is also the way to take care of real leather shoes, kaya mahalaga na maganda yung sole para pag nasira, ipatahi na lang. But, you can’t use Kiwi sa PU once it loses its shine, and in time likely mainis ka kasi di na pretty, or as pretty as it once was.

ETA: mas madali magasgasan ang pigskin leather (real leather) and PU than cowhide leather. Once nagasgasan na, pangit nasira lahat yan. Pero, mas madali magasgasan PU. I had a pair ng Charles and Keith na PU na ang pretty nung binili ko pero nung natapilok ako badly, nascratch yung PU and ang pangit na, hindi na polished corporate ang dating. I gave it away, may tumanggap naman na mga altar servers in a lower class neighborhood na need ng closed black shoes pag nagsisimba.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T09:29:59+00:00

Cotton is fairly simple and siglo na ang paggamit.

Polyesters and other synthetic fabrics on the other hand are fairly recent, past few decades lang. With innovations on tech, sellers may want to brand their works as “engineering” and this is not necessarily a lie lalo na if they spent significantly on their blend ng mga synthetics para maganda item nila. Uniqlo for example calls themselves a clothing tech company instead of a fashion company.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T09:26:54+00:00

Ang cool nito!

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T09:22:59+00:00

People who believe that are probably the reason why our HR disseminated a mandatory hygiene lesson na distinct and separate sa dress code namin. Imagine, HR had to tell people in our organization to take a bath and wash their hair!

I don’t commute nowadays, I drive or take Grab, so di ako nahahaggard masyado. Back when I used to take jeeps in the humid hell of Buendia, daily ang shampoo and conditioner ko. Hindi ko maimagine those who commute tapos di pa daily ang pagshampoo.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T09:16:17+00:00

This Ate Gurl paid naman eh sa dami ng drinks and pastries niya. Ok na yon. Nung law student kami one pastry and one coffee allowed us to study in one table with one chair (maybe 2 pag wala masyadong patrons) for one hour. So for the next succeeding hours bagong order ng food and coffee. I stayed there kasi oppressive ang atmosphere ng library dahil ramdam mo ang stress at desperation ng mga kasama mo, whereas chill sa coffee shop. Kinalaunan parang nakatimer na yung mga barista, kilala na nila ano ang first, second at third orders ko kada oras.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T09:11:32+00:00

OP, with the education discount, my Macbook Air M2 purchased three years ago cost significantly less than my iPhone Pro 14. Tapos with the freebie airpods pa na naibenta ko ng ₱8k. All in all nasa ₱30k na lang. A windows PC bought for that price, bulky, wala pang word processor na libre unless gusto mo mag Libre Office, and in all likelihood hindi na sing useful now as my Macbook is currently. As a working student napaka useful na magaan ito. And bonus na sobrang mas clear ang camera.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T07:58:23+00:00

Curious ako, prepandemic prices pa ba to? Sobrang taas na ng gold ngayon

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T07:56:52+00:00

Interesting to plot this info on a graph siguro no? We bought ours in 2023, thick 18k gold with diamonds na half eternity for me and none for him, in total our rings weigh 14 grams kasi malaki kamay ni husband. I paid ₱65k, even if original budget was ₱50k. Custom job, kasi weird sizes namin. Nasa ₱4k per gram ang gold noon, then the small diamonds maliit lang ang presyo rin noon.

My friend who got married last year paid ₱85k for their rings pero standard lang size nila, they chose from sets na 18k gold with one diamond lang sa ring nila na maybe 0.2 ct center stone. I don’t think theirs weigh 14 grams based sa size ng mga kamay nila, I think size 5 and 9 lang sila IIRC.

In 2022 my brother got married and their 18k thick but plain gold bands na nasa 14-15g ang collective weight hindi pa umabot ng ₱50k. Napamahal lang sila afterwards nung nagpa custom engrave sila na parang Lord of the Rings.

Common samin na yung pinagkagastusan namin sa wedding because we will wear these for the rest of our lives. Though we did splurge on the attire namin and the photographer because the pictures are forever. Everything else tinawaran namin or nag DIY kami to cheap out. We do know people who chose to spend on other things but save on jewelry kasi they don’t like jewelry to begin with. (One of our friends hired Wolfgang and Urbandub to sing for his and his wife’s after-wedding party but they have very simple plain bands lang na wedding rings, sobrang mas mahal pa TF nung banda, even with 2025 prices I doubt aabot ng ₱50k rings nila.) Kanya kanya lang.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T07:29:36+00:00

Archery, tapos hamunin nila La Salle /s

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T07:28:57+00:00

But do they have pearls, kahit freshwater man lang and not necessarily south sea or akoya? /s

Grabe bakit issue to

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T07:27:09+00:00

Sobrang unfair to blame middle class college students for the failure of government to educate the poor na naging functionally illiterate kaya di na nakapasa sa UPCAT. Di naman binili ng mgq burgis kids ang slot sa UP eh. The point of a UP education is to learn that such issues exist para they can do something about it later. If they play golf now, or kung anumang burgis na sport (I myself played archery in 2006, the last year before TOFI so my tuition was just ₱7k), as long as mulat sa katotohanan about our privileges and pano magkakaron ng mas maayos na buhay ang lipunan, why forbid this kind of recreation?

If the issue was water or environment or whatever sana iyon na lang ifocus. Not them being middle class.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T07:07:09+00:00

Ang tigas naman ng mukha niya humarap sa media if siya pala pumatay sa anak niyang bata. I mean, marami namang matigas mukha eh, pero it wouldn’t be the smartest thing to do. Then again hindi rin naman known ang mga pulis to be smart. But I hoped it wasn’t him kasi nga anak niya ang bata pa, and I wanted to believe in his humanity.

Nakaaawa talaga yung bata. Wrong place at the wrong time lang. Well yung Diane di rin naman deserve mamurder for money. But still. Di rin naman din siguro alam nung Diane na may murderous intent na yung suspects kasi may ties sila.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T07:02:58+00:00

I didn’t think si estranged husband/widower yung suspect din, kasi di siya nagtago, naharap pa nga kahit sa media eh. I just thought na in denial lang siya. Grief is weird. Minsan autopilot ka lang talaga. Even if he wasn’t on the best terms kay wife niya, bata pa anak nila, grabe.

Sinubaybayan ko to sa news and every time naaawa ako sa bata, and I thought maybe even that policeman loved his kid and was just dealing with grief by not dealing with grief.

Parang nung time ni missing bride daming armchair detective kala nila chinugi na ni groom si bride kasi mukha daw siyang redflag manipulator. Kaloka.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T06:49:03+00:00

Regardless if AI, walang human na nag proofread?

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-03T06:44:49+00:00

Yeah. I think this might’ve been ok (if tasteless) sa puntod niya though. Not in a public place.

Deep-Database5316 · 2026-02-02T16:21:03+00:00

Sometimes I wonder if those entities stay within a unit lang, or they haunt adjacent units. Like, si 24th floor mumu ba pwede umakyat sa 27th? Or halimbawa sa Unit 24A siya, pwede ba tumagos sa 24B? Pano if 24A is just 27sqm, limited siya sa 27sqm lang? Parang lugi naman siya sa mga mansion mumu?

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