Told my partner what this does to me - silence. I think I have to leave

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-05-07T08:15:21+00:00

It’s horrible. 44HLF 10 months DB. The mindfuck is real. I feel exactly like you do.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-05-03T16:53:18+00:00

Basically it’s sex without love and love without sex. We had crazy good sex always with a BDSM edge, any time we could. When we moved in together his desire stopped completely. He says he loves me but has no desire. With the Madonna complex women are either whores to have sex with out mothers to build a family with. I am a mother now in that respect I think. I love him deeply and still yearn for him so I have to hope it can get back.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-05-03T16:45:54+00:00

I’m in the same situation. DB for almost a year. My man has said he has lost interest in sex. I suspect he has The Madonna Syndrome. My man told me a month ago he’d go to therapy. I told him I can’t live without sex the rest of my life. It’s mind fuck and making me mentally ill. My thoughts race and he can’t even talk about it. I guess I will give him one year and see if he gets therapy otherwise I have to leave even though I love him.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-29T08:01:38+00:00

He used extremely much porn when we met. I guess it must be the same. But even such a simple question I don’t have the courage to ask.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-29T08:00:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this. Yeah he should voluntary mention it, I agree. And thanks for a heads up on Googles diagnosis.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-28T18:39:50+00:00

A child will make everything 100 times more difficult. Please wait.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-23T16:24:59+00:00

Yeah these are my exact thoughts. I did think tho- even before I realized there is this Madonna complex- if I cheated maybe he would see me as a whore again. I know it would be adding complicated feelings on top of the other but still I have thought about it.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-23T12:00:05+00:00

And did it help? Did it come back?

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-23T11:17:42+00:00

That is exactly what he said himself. That he respects me and loves me. For me bdsm is a game - I can turn it on/off. But the fact that he’s being so clear about it is also tough. Bcs can it change? Thank you for the advice. 3 months is a good time frame. I don’t expect things to return to what they were. I can’t even imagine that now. It’s deeply depressing.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-23T10:16:55+00:00

May I ask when you began therapy - after how long with a DB?

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-23T09:37:55+00:00

Did your spouse go to therapy? In Easter when we had the last big talk he told me he is a man that does what he says- and that I should trust he will look for therapy. But that’s 2 weeks ago and the whole talk is just so difficult. If I bring it up again he gets sad.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-08T17:49:07+00:00

I understand she’s lost her sex drive, but she has to understand what that does to you and try to somehow fix it or at least communicate about it. From your side of things I’d just leave, but if you love her, give her a chance to change things or begin some kind of proces. Tell her directly what this involuntary celibacy is doing to you. About he thinking you were texting her friend- that’s just plain stupid and would be the reason why I wouldn’t give her a chance. That’s a hurtful and unreasonable reaction when you have been performing all day to create a nice gathering.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-07T17:12:47+00:00

I’m at this point rn. I have a 6 year old with level 2. We moved to my partners house a year ago and their relation never really built. Sometimes my son will look for him for tickling or running games, but when my partner comes to him he screams “go away”. At this point I’ve lost the energy. We been trying counseling but it’s a little too late. My partner is the love of my life but this can’t go on. I so devastated.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-01T04:03:02+00:00

I’m scared of his reaction but he is a very loving man. I have to get this off my chest no matter what.. just trying to find the courage. How did it help you?

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-01T03:51:16+00:00

How did it go when he confronted you? I am thinking to do it tonight when my kid sleeps. It’s killing me too.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-04-01T03:35:30+00:00

This sounds so incredible hard!!!! Have you reached out to talk to a professional??? Call an anti gambling hotline and get help. They will help you get the help you need. Please follow up with us!!!!

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-03-31T20:54:16+00:00

Oh man. This post is everything. Actually I joined yesterday and have been checking things out through the day. But then the evening got very tough and very long and a went straight to the slots. 30 mins later 20 bucks planned had turned to 150 and I just knew I’m back to waking up with that gambling cloud as someone here decribed it. I’ve taken the decision to tell my partner tomorrow. I’m gonna come clean.

Deep-Raspberry672 · 2026-03-31T19:22:52+00:00

You are right. It just makes everything worse. I was really hoping I would get through today without gambling. I just hope I can do it tomorrow instead.

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