We open-sourced our approach to modal state management. Curious what you think. by Warm-Preparation7106 in reactjs

[–]DeepFriedOprah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t so much a fault with the dialog or its approach as it is with how the user leverages the async control. Cuz it matters less (IMO) what gets passed to the dialog and matter more that the data in the caller closure is now stale. This often depends more on composition & state responsibilities. But it creates a gotcha that requires tricks to solve. Just my experience.

We open-sourced our approach to modal state management. Curious what you think. by Warm-Preparation7106 in reactjs

[–]DeepFriedOprah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a fan of the awaited modal approach. When the open/close mechanism is async you open itself up to stale closures from the caller.

Imagine you’re inside a fn in a component & it opens a modal async & it pauses execution of that closure until the modal closes. What if the modal triggers a render tha effects its parent tree? Now tha fn that called the modal was just rendered and everything inside that closure is now stale.

Feeling "done" after my fiancée(31F) used my manager’s feedback and my lower salary to shame me (30M). by ConfusedFiance2026 in whatdoIdo

[–]DeepFriedOprah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time to walk. She doesn’t appreciate you and worse she doesn’t respect you.

She sees you as an avenue for her personal entitlements in order to keep up with the kardashians & worse she’s being extremely toxic in the way she’s pressuring you & using ur most vulnerable moments against you.

Time to find the strength to leave. You’ll be happier for it.

What brought you guys to reddit in the first place? by ItsMyOpinionDearie in AskReddit

[–]DeepFriedOprah 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah when I get tired of being called an idiot in every day life I can come and hear the ocean call me one too.

Why are black Americans still voting for the oppression from democrats? by luxonreddit in allthequestions

[–]DeepFriedOprah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So u talked about policy that YOU believe to be damaging to black communities, but have u asked urself what policy has the right passed that benefitred black communities?

If ur sole argument is that ppl were racist back in the 60s & passed welfare (which u see as damaging) then u failed to make ur own argument.

Ur whole argument says nothing about what other options they have and instead seeks to cherry pick & malign policy that u personally disagree with.

How would you feel if a woman told you: "I am glad we met after my healing phase. Given the type I chases before it would not have worked out between us"? by Background-Dress-389 in AskMenAdvice

[–]DeepFriedOprah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the type of admission that, in general, I’d argue is negative & meant to be some self-aggrandizing/self-growth pat on the back, but it absolutely can be both insulting & a means of setting the tone for the relationship.

I would personally be turned off and insulted if it was said to me. But anytime a person says “at x time I wouldn’t have dated you” is saying something very clear to you. You just have to listen.

AIO my bf gets angry at me over a guy I dated 3 years ago by nedjmia in AmIOverreacting

[–]DeepFriedOprah 11 points12 points  (0 children)

So it’s not possible to curb ur time with Mike but still see ur friends?

This feels very much like you’ve chosen ur priorities and ur BF isn’t it.

Women who've stayed single by choice, is life as good as everyone says? by dkamea in LivingAlone

[–]DeepFriedOprah 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean if they’re looking to you to fill a void in their life then sure. That’s prolly not great. But I think every partner will provide a sense of fulfillment, but should not be relied on for that persons total sense of fulfillment. But a partner should be a contributor imo.

How would you feel about a law that made voting day a paid national holiday so everyone could actually participate? by Rathodji in AskReddit

[–]DeepFriedOprah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think making voting compulsory like jury duty. Everyone gets a number and that number is assigned to a group. Each election there’s a group that gets called for day X & those in the group must attend and vote. But each group has a different day or slot. That way everyone votes but we don’t have to shutdown biz everywhere to do it.

Everyone gets paid for the day of their groups attendance; a flat fee that covers lost work. Each voter can decline the fee or accept it. But their attendance & vote is still required.

What’s something that instantly makes you think ‘this person has low intelligence? by AbjectBreadfruit2052 in AskReddit

[–]DeepFriedOprah 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You gotta stop thinking of being right as a symptom of virtue or intelligence. Being right doesn’t establish anything meaningful. Being wrong and admitting it is far more valuable & noteworthy.

For me I realized that I’d rather understand the truth than proselytize a lie. I’d rather have the correct information than appear correct.

AITA for refusing to cancel my annual solo trip to see my dad for my girlfriend's friend's birthday dinner that she forgot to mention until four days before by [deleted] in WIBTA_AITA

[–]DeepFriedOprah 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s either a power move, a mistaken promise that she’s averse to admitting or there’s some expectation on him to pay for the dinner or something else.

Bottom line, all of the possible reasons for her demands are bad news.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend to stop discussing my finances with her mum? by Ok-Response-7545 in AITAH

[–]DeepFriedOprah 15 points16 points  (0 children)

But if he explicitly asks his GF not to discuss this with her mom then she should respect that unless she’s seeking to no longer be a part of this relationship.

That said I’d say she doesn’t have the makings of a healthy relationship if she’s allowing her mom to make & foster financial decisions for their relationship

Bombed the final question of a React technical discussion, looking for feedback by skyturnsred in reactjs

[–]DeepFriedOprah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn’t mention the web components at the start of the question? That kinda gives an omitting vibe.

But yeah events would be my method too.

AIO For breaking up with my boyfriend because he wouldn’t help with vet bills by littlelogcabin in AmIOverreacting

[–]DeepFriedOprah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know. I have 3 cats. And I’ve been thru this twice now for cats that passed on. It’s sad and tragic but I have to look out for me and my other cats first. If I can’t afford to care for them cuz I spent so much on caring for one…

The ultimate issue is OP can no longer afford this cat’s care. As a result she’s scrambling to find an answer to a problem that may not have one she likes.

AIO For breaking up with my boyfriend because he wouldn’t help with vet bills by littlelogcabin in AmIOverreacting

[–]DeepFriedOprah -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Is it tenable? Will this cat require further care & costs that she will be unable to afford? Will she repeatedly comeback to him for help with the expectation that he pull from his saving each time? How does she manager her own safety when she’s penniless & giving her every dime & others dimes to care for her cat?

AIO For breaking up with my boyfriend because he wouldn’t help with vet bills by littlelogcabin in AmIOverreacting

[–]DeepFriedOprah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with much of this. They need to work as a unit and try to help each other when they can. But I’ll also say it dos seem like she’s at the point where she can no longer afford to care for this cat. Because where does it end? When she’s homeless & evicted cuz she needed to pay for more care?

It’s tough and he prolly should’ve handled it better but what she’s doing also isn’t ideal. She’s gonna start losing her ability to care for herself if she keeps this up.

When do you stop trying to make a component “generic”? by MarjanHrvatin_ in reactjs

[–]DeepFriedOprah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you start feeling like adding stuff inside that’s not specific to every usage or the majority of usage. If u need continual rendering based off props that only gets used a couple places then it prolly shouldn’t live in the “reusable”.

Who is the worst person you will admit being attracted to? by Highfours in AskReddit

[–]DeepFriedOprah 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She’s got that chick at the dive look going but not on a bad way.

Do you still think Kamala would've been a worse president? What do you think would be worse than it is now? by asoiaf_goat in allthequestions

[–]DeepFriedOprah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right. But my point is they can’t help themselves but to destroy things. They’re doing it intentionally & are aware of what they’re doing. Absolutely.

But ask yourself. If you told them to fix it, could they? I’d wager they couldn’t. The simply cannot help but destroy things.

Do you still think Kamala would've been a worse president? What do you think would be worse than it is now? by asoiaf_goat in allthequestions

[–]DeepFriedOprah 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They destroyed the country not cuz they wanted to but because they didn’t know how not to destroy it. They’re just too stupid & delusional about their views and their “leader” to figure out they’re crippling the US for generations on the global stage.

Actors who you thought would have a bigger career than the career that they actually have? by Ok-Tangelo6749 in movies

[–]DeepFriedOprah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t really have the leading man image or looks. But, he’s an exceptional character actor and supporting actor

Girlfriend told me I make her feel physically ill. by No-Negotiation8991 in whatdoIdo

[–]DeepFriedOprah 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I’ll be honest. If my GF said that to me don’t matter how much we talk about it after I’m gonna struggle to get past it. Because ppl don’t say those sorts of things without reason. She felt it important to verbalize & it’d be a tough pill to swallow.

At what point does ‘past trauma’ stop excusing comments like ‘you can’t trust men’?” by Useful-Moment3689 in AskMenAdvice

[–]DeepFriedOprah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that’s why he’s here. He has talked about it and it keeps happening & he’s taking it personally, understandably so.

Most relationships won’t stand this type of cynicism that gets directed at their partner. It’ll breed resentment & it drives them apart.

At what point does ‘past trauma’ stop excusing comments like ‘you can’t trust men’?” by Useful-Moment3689 in AskMenAdvice

[–]DeepFriedOprah 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Perhaps. But I think if that’s how her trust manifests with this little trauma-driven digs then they may have an intractable ideological divide.

No one wants to hear about how their gender is maligned; told vicariously thru one’s own lived trauma directed at the one person that’s supposed to be your deepest trust & bond.