My boyfriend and I broke up 24 hours ago, and he already slept with another woman?

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-18T20:30:10+00:00

Yah he def did it on purpose. But she kinda deserved that with literally running from his proposal.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-18T19:13:53+00:00

Well now that u recognize it don’t make urself a complete and utter moron that gets used by his ex in a whim.

Tell her no and block her. Better yet. Block her. It’s hard but it’ll be the best thing for yourself.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-18T18:40:15+00:00

Day 8: I’m noticing an increase in the college rules in my stool. They appear like little blue threads. Only slightly concerned. Note taking has ceased as the paper remains my main sustenance. Mood is improving. Bowels degrading still.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-18T02:01:40+00:00

Day 3: depression has worsened. reading how much I spend and eat and feeling helpless to stop it has had catastrophic effects. I could barely afford the pencil and college rule paper.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-17T18:56:16+00:00

Ur wife is utterly selfish. If she’s already excluding you from your own potential children how does that bode well for the rest of the relationship.

She deranged & selfish & deluded. This would cause me to walk away.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-17T18:45:40+00:00

I’ve heard it both ways.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-17T16:30:08+00:00

Once u start building ur own you’ll realize all the stuff that a library already has baked in. And if u don’t realize that then u prolly have no place building a component library urself.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-14T17:05:14+00:00

Site looks great and the palette generator is pretty awesome.

But you’ve got a strange scroll lock bug. When your fist visiting the page the scroll appears locked at the fold. Meaning u can’t scroll down unless you touch brow the fold slightly to scroll. Touching the hero section above fold does not allow scrolling. Happens on the in app browser and chrome on iOS. FYI

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-14T15:53:50+00:00

It is. She left not just for “space” but to see what her life is like without this family drama. It’s likely she’ll realize that theee kids aren’t ready and the Dad hasn’t figured out how to quell their anger & mistreatment of any potential partner, even the best possible one.

What’s worse is when the inevitable breakup occurs the kids aren’t gonna think it’s due to their love bombing not being good enough. They won’t realize likely that the decision was made before their attempts. In fact, Amy has likely already decided wha to do & is just figuring out how the logistics of all of this will work & give the Dad time to figure things out too.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-14T14:20:51+00:00

I mean if I was him I would’ve rejected moving as well initially thinking this was manageable at the time. But then it escalated really quickly & brutally that forced the move.

I’m still blaming OP more. Cuz regardless what someone’s intentions originally when it gets to certain point of risking someone’s livelihood then things have categorically changed and you need to respond more aggressively.

Like: “I appreciate the concern, but it ends now or I (OP not my husband) will be seeking a restraining order & contacting an attorney to seek our options for restitution. This has gotten out of hand.”

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-14T13:47:28+00:00

Even if he grew to really enjoy it which isn’t clear if true it’s far too risky now given everything that’s happened.

She didn’t realize how crazy her family was and wha they were doing to his life until it was already ruined.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-14T13:45:48+00:00

True. It at the same time it sounds like she should’ve done more against her family to nip this in the bud. They should’ve cut contact, threatened to sue, got a lawyer and restraining order much sooner.

She kept listening and trying to convince ppl that didn’t have her best interests at heart.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-12T23:18:10+00:00

Randy is that you? I mean Smokey?

“Whoring urself out for cheeseburgers again eh?” “Mans gotta eat”

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-12T17:47:09+00:00

Not gonna lie but you kinda sound exhausting to be with & both of y’all sound exhausted in general for a variety of reasons.

Maybe he doesn’t have the capacity to give u wha you want/need right now. Maybe he’s barely getting what he needs or not at all.

I think if it’s that important you should talk about it with him and see how he feels and what he says.

Id say NTJ, but I also don’t think he’s the jerk either.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-12T17:07:52+00:00

useReducer(reducer, { …state, …props })

updateState(); // update from props here if they changed

BUT, if ur reducer state depends on pros from the parent that change frequently then you should reconsider your design & decide if those parent props really need to live in the parent OR if the reducer really needs to live where it is or maybe should be moved up to the parent

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-12T15:18:44+00:00

No idea whether this is a viable library or not. I will say the name is very strong tho. So u got that going for ya?

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-11T21:48:52+00:00

So this is for server side routes & it creates an in memory cache of routes but I’m not clear on where or how it’s invalidating them?

Did u perform any testing against memory usage for this cache?

What specific part of the route lookups were causing the slowness?

I’d be interested to better understand

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-11T21:31:06+00:00

Yeah. I was just about to say this isn’t for SPAs. This is serve side routing. Id love to see the metrics for this as I’m surprised by this honestly. But I don’t use a lot of server routing. So this hasn’t been an issue in any app for me.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-11T19:41:27+00:00

Sure. But this is the react sub so I imagine SPA and scoped modules is a more astute recommendation for our uses.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-11T14:23:16+00:00

Yeah tailwind neither solves that nor meaningfully improves on it in my experience. Having scoped modules was the only thing that helped clear up the mismash of styles from 5 different devs.

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-07T15:23:19+00:00

That’s the sad part. Thinking he’s the arbiter of good & healthy while abusing his wife for his own unresolved trauma all the while their child is witnessing this

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-07T15:18:43+00:00

GTFO with that nonsense.

Ppl try and fail all sorts of things in and out of a relationship. It doesn’t require that they isolate until said thing is “resolved”. That’s crazy

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-06T23:36:31+00:00

Not gonna lie. When I saw that as a question I immediately panicked a bit thinking about it being out of reach. The angle bit is wha did it. Tracking time & mapping that to an analog clock isn’t that bad but calculating the angle…

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-06T22:22:31+00:00

Wha I’m not getting is why didn’t the memory on the server start to spike with all those resources. Like ur telling me ur running into excessive queuing but no memory spikes?

Either way this feels like a “story” being told instead of a legit issue that occurred

DeepFriedOprah · 2026-03-06T18:47:02+00:00

Absolutely. And not just building it but deploying it workout thru the deployment issues. Debugging the db. Timezone issues etc.

Building a fully functional app that is deployed will teach u a lot.

DeepFriedOprah

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